posted August 24, 2008 06:04 PM
Hey Sinderlou, I happen to be a Cancer-Sun as well - and Cancer-Mars - AND Sagittarius Moon (like your guy). When I read your story, how he behaves, that instantly rang a bell with me. I feel bad to see (read) how you are feeling now ... because sometimes I may behave in the same way as this guy does ... and I really don't mean no harm by acting this way! But I do know that a certain degree of ... say: evasiveness or erratic behaviour can irritate or frustrate other people very much.
Whenever I learn this, I regret my - maybe "self-centered" - ways...
Honestly: I don't think that this guy is "manipulating" or "controlling" you deliberately - maybe this is rather your own perception. I mean: That you FEEL manipulated/overpowered.
But I honestly think that a Sag-Moon is very (!) far away from "manipulation" or: "doing things behind your back". This would be the opposite of Sag-Moon's nature. This is straightforwardness, in this sign.
You surely do know that the Moon is Cancer's ruling planet ... So the Sag-Moon is a very important factor in that Cancer-guys's astrological line-up - it's his "personal ruler".
Since I have that strange water-fire-combo myself, I pondered a lot about its impact. I described it in another thread already: FREEDOM and TRUTH and SINCERITY are extremely important to these types. They even can act "righteous" sometimes.
And ... there might be a certain degree of "naivité" to it - I mean: I tend to act self-centered sometimes - but I never do mean any harm, I do this with a very naive approach. I just NEED to detach myself from people or places sometimes - so that I can be stronger/better afterwards again - to gain strength again.
Yes - Cancer/Sags might seem "demanding" as far as respect goes: I mean: Respect for their need to be independent. They feel caged in and hampered very quickly.
Moon stands for most personal emotions and the way one nurtures other people or wants to be nurtured - which is especially true for Cancers (since Moon is extrastrong with this emotional Sun-sign). Having the Moon in Sagittarius this means: People like these are pretty independent - and definitely do need a lot of space to work through their inner processes. They feel nurtured if they are granted their "free time" - and they nurture you by spurring you on to be your most authentic self, always. The Sagittarius-streak takes away a lot of the clingyness often claimed as "typical" for Cancers.
They really crave to be respected, they need a lot of fresh air to breathe and sometimes they just need to get away - and don't want to hear or read a thing from "back home". This is necessary for them to reload their (inner/emotional) batteries. "Home" is important for Cancer - with Moon, the ruling planet in Cancer, "gettin away from time to time" feels like "being home". They are at home in the world.
And they expect you to be independent as well. They crave equality in a partner. They want you to be the best you can be - on your own, as well as with them. That's a way to make them feel safe: When you can be whole on your own, just as good as when being with them.
Of course, Sag is a fire sign. But, other than Leo or Aries, they are fiery in a more cerebral way. I don't think he'll "cheat" on you.
He really "doesn't mean it" ... as far as I would rate his behaviour from experience with my own behaviour.
Yes - Cancers are demanding. AND they are cardinal - really the "doing" type, full of action. Now combine this with the fiery and freedom loving Sagittarius ... And you get it.
"Freedom" does not at all mean promiscuity! More like "if you can leave me alone for a while and make my experiences and let me live full scale ... then I know that you love me, then I feel safe and happy with you."
Hope this helps.
Despite of all the prejudices concerning "clingy" Cancer: These Cancer-Sag-types are quickly turned off by clingyness and by emotional black-mail. They admire courage and adventurousness - and be it only mantal courage and adventurousness.
They mean what they say - and they can be pretty righteous or even stubborn with that, and not very patient...
Hope this helps.
Trust him.
Types like these are NO pretenders at all, they've got the foot-in-mouth-disease, and if he ever wanted to "get rid off you", he wouldn't be able to help, but TELL YOU right away, because he couldn't stand to "pretend".