posted August 25, 2008 12:09 PM         

In my last post here about a month ago I asked for help about the astrological aspect of the date I wanted to confess my feelings to my Cancer crush and LOTS of support came through. And in that thread I promised to keep the kind people who helped me updated should he choose to respond (I was warned though that it wouldn't be an immediate one), which he did.

To sum it up, I've been having a crush on my Cancerian vet for 4 years. At one point early on we exchanged meaningful gazes and he called out the blue to ask how my dog was and so I was pretty sure he was feeling the same way too. But then I got shy and avoided him and things changed to a professional relationship since.

So on his birthday about a month ago, I decided to write him an email (actually it was via the personal message box in his Hi5 page) to tell him how I've been feeling all these years - in a very sensible and gentle Capricornian style, of course ; )

All the while, I was thinking I'd probably never hear from him ever again. And later I went to peek at his Hi5, he seemed to have responded to all other birthday wishes from his friends - except me.

But four days later, a reply came. And I couldn't tell how I should feel. It was so nice and polite (how very Cancerian), thanking me for the birthday wish, updating me on how his life's in the States has been, making a bit of a casual joke, and saying that he hope to see me and my family again at his clinic when he returns from his training in the States. You could say it's the longest and least formal message he's ever written to me (before that it's been 'how are you, I'm fine, thanks for writing stuffs') - all without mentioning my 'feelings' for him or his for me.

And I've never written back again since, and neither has he. And it's been a month now.

Honestly, I had mixed feelings when I read his reply. On one hand I was surprised that he seemed to respond so quick; but on the other I was sad to see that I still can't seem to get through to him- after all the heart pouring I did. He might seem a little bit friendlier but nevertheless maintains his distance.

Meanwhile, I did a bit of 'stalking' and found out that he's been chatting on a more friendly and flirty term with two girls (who approached him first out of nowhere) in his friends' list - and he's yet to meet or know either of them on a personal basis. And that kinda hurts me that he seems to prefer a relationship with someone he doesn't really know over the thought of ....me.

So, my dear friends of LL, could you please share with me your insights on this matter, please? Does this simply mean he's not interest? Do Cancerian like 'cyber relationship' and prefer it over the real one? Help, help,help!

posted August 25, 2008 12:33 PM         

Him: 16/7/1976 Bangkok, time unknown

posted August 25, 2008 01:17 PM         

so why didn't you reply him back ?
my feeling is , you should have . it might have been important for him and my guess is if you had , he would have certainly reciprocated .

and , as for his flirting with other girls , does he know them in person ?
even if he does , dont worry .reason being ,know for a fact that cancers are flirty , they are not infamous as gems bcos we normally maintain dignity and class .

so his flirtiness might be a bit indecent (if it was a relation )butlargely unharmful.
so there isn't a reason why i would term it as if he was not interested .