posted September 03, 2008 04:32 PM            

Hey there everybody!I haven't been around here for ages, but it seems i need astrological advice yet again.

I've recently met a Cancer guy that got me totally upside down - he just somehow managed to crawl under my skin so fast i didn't even realised it.I've met him two weeks ago and we spent about 5, 6 days together as we were both part of the group that went on a trip through Europe.He came along with his mom so i should have realised right from the start that he's likely to be a cancer.

I've spent those days with him and HIS MOM and we had great deal of fun .He is the absolute first guy to make me feel so good about myself, i didn't feel any kind of pressure from him as i usually do from guys i like.Being a Scorpio myself, i have a tendency of feeling not good enough for the man i like.With him i felt so not self-conscious and it seemed that we clicked really quickly.He always laughed at my comments and at our conversations generally.

I loved his mother and i got along great with her, she always smiled at me and laughed at what i was saying.
At one point as we were walking together, my little cancer boy wanted to climb some stairs to get to the top of a castle and his mother told him that we should both get there because she's too tired.As we were both climbing and talking it felt so natural and we seemed to have an almost telepathic way of communication.We both thought the same things, wanted to say the same things.
A few days later it happened that i made a comment over one of the hotel rooms that i felt looked like it was from Star Trek and he was surprised that i thought so and told his mother "i told you the exact same thing".

We seem to be in sync with each other so much so that we think the same damn things.

Now what confuses me badly is that i almost always needed to initiate conversation, otherwise he'd ignore me.The few times i pretended not to be interested in him and not caring if he's standing 5 inches from me were the times that he initiated talk, even if in a rather silly, dorky manner.

I found myself at the end of the trip, being the one that asked for his email add and for his phone number - things i have NEVER done in my life before.

It bewilders me how this 22 years old cancer guy could have had such an impact on me that changed my way of behaving completely.

The last day we were together i did my best not to stay next to him and not to pay much attention to him.Consequently he stood next to me most of the day, thing that i found really sweet.

The day after we got back home (yesterday) he added me on MSN and we talked for a while, having fun and laughing.He even sent me to sleep after he found out i have only had 3 hours of sleep the night before.

Today he's been offline and i'm already getting impatient.I FEEL i need to talk to him, to hear him, to be near him.

I've had only one bf before and he was also a cancer- we had great telepathy between us but he was a player and a cheater so we didn't last long.

This is actualy the first time in my life i feel that HE MUST BE the right guy...somehow...it's a feeling i cannot describe

I was never the touchy-time, i don't like to touch people, but with him i felt i couldn't help myself not showering him with my attention

My questions: 1.how can i charm a cancer guy? 2. how do i figure out if he likes me or not?

I apologise for the neverending rant, i haven't told anybody about him and i'm getting mental in here.

posted September 03, 2008 11:04 PM            

1.how can i charm a cancer guy?

If you are a real Scorp, then just be yourself for this Cancer man..Express all of your sides..From Possessiveness to Jealousy and From Protectiveness to Strong Will Power.. Scorp and Cancer is generally a naturally aligned 5/9 relationship.. There is no need to play any games..

2. how do i figure out if he likes me or not?

Cancer men are very slow in actions and reactions and this is also one very good reason Scorp women drop them..

But, to understand his feelings you can check this way.. First ensure you and him are emotionally friends and are able to share some deep emotional sides of both souls with each others..

Then, you could suddenly stop and not call.. He will be patient for a few days, but when he calls, he will make many calls within a few hours.. and just don't pick up.. ..the last call you pick up.. he will be cranky.. If he is.. then he likes you..

PS: We have so many threads on Cancers here.. Any thread on Cancers will help you..

posted September 04, 2008 12:08 AM              

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He doesn't wanna come off as clingy (because he most likely is) so that's probably why he is being somewhat aloof. Also because he is probably introverted & in his own little world as we Cancers often are.

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LOL how funny! Thats so true i think :-/

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Sun.. Cancer

Moon.. Gemini

Mars.. Cancer

Mercury.. Cancer

Venus.. Leo

posted September 08, 2008 01:38 AM            

Since we got home from the trip we've been chatting everyday and it feels so good talking to him.Even from the last days of the trip i've noticed that he's sharing little things with me.
He offered me his bottle of water in the last day of our trip (but i'm really cautions, i don't like drinking after other people), he offered me his SD card so that i can take more pictures... and one of those things i love the most, the day we went by subway in Amsterdam, he was the one that bought the tickets/cards and at the end of the day offered me one of the cards as a "memory" from the trip.I love this kind of little attentions and it's weird how little it takes to make me happy

Fast forward to two days ago, we chatted and i told him i loved his avatar (he had a picture of a guitar) and i asked him if it is his.He said that it was indeed his and offered to send me some pictures if he has some.I thanked him and told him i'd appreciate it and he's like "if i don't find any pics, i'll take some right now".It was quite late at night and frankly i wasn't expecting him to just jump out of bed to take pics of his guitar for me.
Nevermind, as we kept chatting i asked him if he was the one to choose the color of his guitar and he asked me why in a kind of worried way, as if i said i didn't like it.I told him i loved the color so he resumed his normal (happy) self.

What i think i've noticed since we've been together is that he mirrors me.If i'm saying something he'd say the same thing, or if i'm taking a picture, he's taking a picture of the same thing.As i told him i'd like to sort through 2000+ pictures i've taken in this trip and then burn them onto a cd and give them to him, he said he wouldn't do the same because he's lazy.The next day we talked, he was sorting pictures and putting them into folders .

Anyway, as i figure things out with this little cute crab of mine, i desperately need to get away from another crab who's been chasing me like mad since a month ago.I have never encouraged in any way this kind of behavior, and yet he keeps on chasing me as i clearly run away.He doesn't seem to get it, it's like he has a fixation with me.

My ex was a Cancer too, i guess i'll stick to crabs this lifetime:P

Cheers everybody!

Any piece of advice is truly appreciated!

posted September 08, 2008 06:38 AM            

I got along great with his mom, always chatting, and now i asked him to send her my best wishes, told him i missed her.

God, i so need the smallest sign that i'm not waisting time and that i'm not falling for the wrong person...i guess that's all i need now..

I'll go and teach myself some patience for now )

posted September 12, 2008 07:01 AM            

Sun Trine Venus
Sun Trine Pluto
Mercury Trine Venus
Mercury Square Mars
Mars Trine Sun
Saturn Conjunction Mercury
Saturn Conjunction Uranus
Neptune Conjunction Neptune
Neptune Sextile Pluto
Pluto Conjunction Venus
Pluto Conjunction Pluto

Feel free to let me know what you think about the aspects, i've read a few things and it seems nice

posted September 12, 2008 09:39 AM            

He's been quiet for the last 3 days, he told me he was really busy until this weekend with a school project, he also offered to show it to me when he finishes it .

posted September 22, 2008 09:50 AM            

I can honestly say that i've never met somebody that i could communicate better with in my whole life!

We met at a cup of coffee and talked for 4 hours straight, about everything under the sun, we laughed permanently and had a great time together!

What i realized yesterday is that the lovely cancer guy lacks initiative totally!
If i'm taking the lead and if i'm telling him what we could/should do, than he happily fallows me.If i let him act/decide/initiate, i might as well wait for weeks!

We talked on saturday night and i asked him if he has any plans for sunday (as we already agreed we should meet so that i can return his card).He told me he has no plans whatsoever the whole day (and after that he completed the sentence by letting me know he's not that busy during the week either - even though i never asked).So i asked him if he'd like to meet me to return his card, he happily agreed and as i asked him what hour's good for him, he replied that any hour is good.So i said 11 and he said perfect.I also asked him about the meeting place and we agreed on that too.

The next day, as i met him, i asked him where does he want to go, or where he'd like to go, to which he said wherever i want.This happened three times and it lead me to believe he isn't enjoying himself.
As we sat down at the cup of coffee, he relaxed a bit (he seemed tensed when we met (constantly playing with his hands etc.).We began talking about so many stuff and laughing and sharing a great time together.He asked me about my job, the university i'm at, we talked about books, music, people, virtually anything and everything under the sun.

The lovely part is that after 4 hours of continuous and intense eye contact, laughter and talking, neither of us was really willing to go home , or so i believe.As i looked at my watch and i saw it's 15.00 i told him that and he went "wow, that late?time passed so quickly!"

This so-called "date" we had left me thinking that unless i'm initiating contact(talk etc) in this relationship, he isn't going to do it.He seems to perfectly agree to whatever i'm proposing but never asks/proposes himself.I was really glad he asked about my job (and he was impressed with what i do) and my university stuff - but that's as far as he's initiating skills go :P

We also discovered that we've been studying and taking exams in the same buildings for over 4 years..and yet never met before

I totally adore him, but i'm scared of being the one to take the lead as i myself have never been much of a leader type...and i don't want to scare him off.

So guys, what do you reckon?what should i do next?

posted September 23, 2008 06:26 PM            

After Cancers provide a lot of mothering and care.. they slowly flip the situation and take over the leadership..

Cancer is a Cardinal - Leadership sign and their leadership shines after they are in control of the situation.. and for them, it takes a lot of time.. but they will do so subtly, and their Mood shifts will be visible at that stage..

posted September 29, 2008 09:23 AM            

Yesterday night as we were chatting he sent me a song (we both enjoy music like Metallica and Iron Maiden) by Iron Maiden called Communication Breakdown and told me "maybe you like it".
Now, the lyrics go like this:

"Hey girl, what you doin'?
Hey girl, you'll drive me to ruin
I don't know what it is about you
But I like it a lot
Oh why don't you let me hold you
Let me feel your lovin' touch
Hey girl, I got something I think you want to know
Hey girl, I wanna tell you that I love you so
I wanna hold you in my arms
And feel your love tonight
I'm never gonna let you go
'Cause I like your charms "

I might be going nuts over here but he never sent me songs just for the sake of it and i hate to make assumptions, but right after he sent it to me, he excused himself and got offline.It was 23.30 and we usually chat passed midnight, and i felt like he ran away after he sent me the song...

I feel a little confused, i don't know how to interpret this...or how to react to it.

I sent him a game yesterday that he was looking for and he was very happy about it.I can't help but think what's in his mind?!?!

posted September 29, 2008 09:46 AM            

I find him adorable, i simply adore him and i just don't know how to show him i like him back without scaring him away...

posted October 03, 2008 02:39 AM            

He went online and we chatted a bit, he sent me a recording of his again (apologizing for it not being too good - lots of mistakes etc) which left me speechless because it was close to perfect.i told him that i loved it and that he shouldn't worry at all because it's great.He was happy i liked it and we changed the subject yet again.

What seems to be a pattern with him, each time we talk is that if i'm doing something (playing a game, watching a movie, listening to a song etc) he'll do the same thing, play the same game, listen to the same songs...

I can't really read him, i don't understand why he's acting this way.Am i making this up?Is he being friendly and i'm taking it as something else?I can't get the way he looks at me out of my head.Sometimes i think i can feel him...on a psychic level.

And there's this constant retreating/running away whenever we're taking things to the next level (when i asked for his email add, when i first touched his hand, when i first called him etc).He just runs away, he comes back eventually in a day or two, but i can't help but feel he's running away and i don't know how to handle him.

Sometimes i just feel like i need to tell him i like him so he gets it - sometimes i think he might not even understand that i like him...

I'm literally stuck in this situation where i want and feel the need to see him and i'm afraid of asking him out...i know he won't do it - so i'm scared sh**less...

Why are cancer guys so hard to figure out - he's so childish...it's almost impossible for me to understand where i'm standing in his eyes...

posted October 12, 2008 06:54 AM            

It seems that ignorance makes him make a move so i guess i know how to act from now on.

Sweet cancer guys - why are you so hard to read? :P