posted September 29, 2008 04:39 PM         

This guy will not leave me alone. I broke it off a month and a half ago and he still texts talking about how he's changed and he's not going to give up. I don't talk to him and the only texts I send are leave me alone or no (when he begs to see me) and I only send those on occasion. We work together and last friday he sent me flowers with an I love you balloon to work. I did not want them. He planned his breaks to follow me outside on mine and when things turned ugly and I walked away, he followed telling me to put the flowers on the side of the building so he could take them home (to some other girl probably). I said ok, but when it came time for me to go I left them sitting on my desk (if i cared about him giving them to someone else I would have put them in the dumpster..)and rushed out to my car. He followed and it got ugly. To the point where he wouldn't let me shut my car door (he wanted me to go inside and get them..) and I had to drive off with the door open. He ran with the car and attempted to spit in my face. he missed but still. He is the NASTIEST person when he doesn't get his way, but when everything is good, he's amazingly charming. I don't know what to do and why am I not dealing with this very well? (he spit in my face before which is why I'm not with him anymore)

Why was it so good, then turn so bad?
Could it be my transits that are making this harder to deal with than the first arguement that caused our break up?

I don't know what to do..
Can someone help me?

Me
January 24, 1985
Martinsville va USA
@1600

posted September 29, 2008 05:14 PM         

Has has Venus in Scorpio..his obsessive tendencies are there, and watch out because a Venus in Scorp ex-lover will try to ruin you if he feels slighted for any reason.

He also has Venus square Uranus so I'm thinkin he's a little wacky in the love department..attracts and creates drama perhaps?

You guys have Sun square Mars..an aggressive aspect, lots of conflict and it may get physical (not in a good way). Also his Pluto is square your Mercury so he may be trying to control you in some way..like get in your mind and try to manipulate you.

Run far, far away from this creep..

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Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon

posted September 29, 2008 05:28 PM         

I'm sorry to hear about what is happening to you. Putting Astrology aside for a moment, you need to take action. Accept nothing from his man: no gifts, calls, texts, flowers, balloons... nothing. Don't talk to him and don't answer any of his texts. If you don't, it will seem like encouragement to him, and he will probably continue his pursuit of you. If you have to speak to him about work than you really don't have a choice.

posted September 29, 2008 06:54 PM         

Let go of the fact there was something between you, obviously it was based on early assumptions of who you thought he was. He is no longer that person.

Your chart or astrology in no way, shape or form explains why this is happening. Planets do nothing, people DO! Any man who would follow a woman (or another man) to her car and not let her leave is a definite physical threat to you. If you had to drive off with your car door open in order to get away without being harrassed or harmed, he is a definite physical threat to you.

I second that you should inform the management on your job AND inform your local authorities that you NEED a restraining order. Don't wait, DO IT NOW!!

God bless you, we're all behind you on this.

posted September 30, 2008 12:25 AM         

If you really want to get strong, inform your boss. I don't think it's ever going to be the same at your workplace ever again.

Think of the worst case scenario - one of you has to leave. It ain't going to be you. Inform your boss and let your colleagues keep an eye out for you.

If he has any self-preservation skills, he will pull his head in and re-define his priorities. If he still carries on like an egg-head, you will have support from all quarters.

Protect yourself with all resources!!!

posted September 30, 2008 12:21 PM         

I talked to one of my supervisors and he is taking the proper steps. I talked to a few of my co-workers and they are more than willing to walk me outside, especially at night.

Its amazing how much better I feel now that its kind of out you know? Before I was feeling so anxious and upset stomach and coworkers who don't know what happened were asking what was wrong.. Now I'm smiling again and the upset stomach is gone.