posted October 01, 2008 10:28 PM         

love n peace

-Gooober

posted October 01, 2008 10:29 PM         

his:

posted October 02, 2008 05:23 PM         

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and then he tells me it hurts him cuz he realizes that we cant be together owing to our complicated circumstances and he's never going to feel how he feels for me and he's never going to get over me, but there's this girl he met who's crazy about him, who ironically reminds him of me, and he's thinking...THINKING, that he should maybe be with her
now call me crazy, but i feel really really hurt.

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Crazy?

I would feel quite insulted. Hurt, too.

Don't you think you deserve to be swept off your feet with a declaration of undying love?

posted October 02, 2008 06:45 PM         

The glimpse of the whirring cogs of his mind wasn't pleasant.

Mercury is a small planet whizzing around the Sun, Jupiter is a large ball of gas. Put that together you have a BIG MOUTH. There are some things you might think, you don't say. Pluto Square Mercury gets to the heart of the matter, but not always in a way the other person wants to hear. Jupiter Opposite Pluto imposes its opinion without considering the other side.

Put it all together, you get someone who thinks rationally, and logically, but is too inclined to offer the insights of their mind where it is better to keep quiet.

You get together with him, you will live with this every day. Most days it will be fine, every now and then you will get served up little treats like this one.

The good thing is, he has revealed the truth about what he really thinks/feels. Mostly when people are being mercenary and balancing things up in this way they will not say, or if they do, maybe to a third party. Now, you have it on the line.

posted October 02, 2008 07:08 PM         

With a Virgo Moon, rationalizing the emotions tends to be the default. My sense has been that although there is a deep sensitivity to this Moon, there is an inherernt need to keep feelings categorized and thus under control.

I would think especially with his Cappy Mercury what you would hear (no matter what was actually going on internally) would be filtered through a process of restraint, inhibition and careful analysis. With Pluto squaring his Mercury and retro Mars squaring his Moon, I suspect that there are indeed other things going on beneath the surface...but like blue moon said, this will probably lead to his own internal confusion being played out within your relationship.

posted October 02, 2008 11:47 PM         

I think he should take accountability for his own actions or lack there of. All relationships involve some work. Maybe yours involves more work than usual - I don't know.

If his choice is to never have a relationship with you, because he is unwilling to put in the work necessary - as he would have to get out of his comfort zone, then that's what he should be saying.

In that case, I'm unsure about his "love" - or perhaps the highest from of love he can feel, comes somewhere behind comfort.

I'm actually surprised at how well you're taking it. I think I would've given him a piece of my mind.

posted October 03, 2008 02:08 AM         

I've got a Virgo Moon, Love. I think you're about right with your assessment. In fact, I'd say a Mercurial Moon, whether Virgo or Gemini, bring out Mercurial qualities even more making the native's Moon an additional thinking planet. There is a lot of restraint with a Virgo Moon. We're supposed to be known for illustrating our love through actions moreso than words, and that can be true for me. Sometimes I do actually have trouble articulating what I feel verbally (I have Saturn opposite Mercury, too, and my Sun is square my Moon). There's also supposed to be an insecurity that we're not good enough to be loved.

Goober, as a Capricorn myself, that whole envisioning a future with the person is a pretty paramount requirement for me staying in a relationship. Unless there's some agreed upon time limit to the relationship (like one of the people is moving away), then we (or at least I) need to be able to see a future with the person. Is it possible you can neutralize (how's that for a dry word?) his perceived issue with going for his childhood friend's ex-wife? Can you negotiate out of and away from the "complicated" circumstances? Your ex is obviously getting married, and you're still friends with him, so it should be easy to get his blessing on your relationship.

posted October 03, 2008 05:14 AM         

btw Im also Aquarius myself.

posted October 05, 2008 05:13 AM         

his chiron in aries is conjunct my asc, n this is wat i found..
Chiron is known as the "wounded healer," and there is often one or more major wounds or traumas around the sign and/or house of Chiron in a person's chart. There can be decades between such wounds, so no one can afford to be complacent in these areas. Getting over the wound or trauma may involve realizing one's spiritual identity beyond worldly personality and ego, winning at a soul level while losing externally, and only later over time coming into one's own authority in the world in a particular subject area or niche. Chiron by conjunction in relationship synastry can bring great attraction and common interests, then sudden, inexplicable and bizarre reversals - the potential for mutual growth is enormous if the parties don't destroy each other and themselves in the process.

my venus is sextile his north node..
This pairing is a strong indication of a binding tie between you. You are likely to find it easy to cooperate with one another, perhaps even combining your talents successfully. A major focus of this relationship is romantic love, and in all likelihood the feelings for one another were instant. There is a true feeling of enjoyment and pleasure with one another.

Ascendant conjunction Jupiter: This is an extremely benevolent union. The Jupiter person likes and admires the ascendant individual and the ascendant person returns the same feelings with a mutual trust of each other. There is usually excitement when these two get together. If romance is indicated, then this deepens the feelings but if not, then these two will end up as friends. The Jupiter person has the capacity to make the ascendant person feel good about him/herself. The ascendant person is often instrumental in helping the Jupiter person take advantage of new worlds of opportunity.

his mars is conjunct my north node and my mars is conjunct his north node..

This combination of the planet Mars and the North Node indicates a fiery and fated relationship. This association makes a strong impact on both parties whether they are lovers or enemies. It is also possible that they involved in a dramatic or energetic project together. Whatever the path of this relationship, it is destined to change the course of their lives, in particular that of the north node person. Passion and an intense desire to relate may be central to this relationship. However, it is also possible that arguments and violence are at the core of this association. The challenge for both is to keep this association lively and positive so that fate can play its hand for the best possible outcome. In fact the north node person may benefit directly through the role that the mars person plays in his/her life.

neptune conjunct south node:
The Neptune person makes it difficult for the person to get out of any rut they are in by confusing the issue, so positive aspects from other planets are necessary to avoid stagnation; the Node person can bring out some of the lower side of the other person's Neptune qualities, such as causing them to fantasize more, or live more in a dream world, or seek escapism.

pluto conjunct descendant..
If Pluto is closely conjunct the seventh house cusp, this can be a deeply passionate, intense and powerful relationship, but it may involve secrecy, jealousy, underhandedness or manipulation. If Pluto is within a couple of degrees of the seventh house cusp, and there are major hard aspects from Pluto to the seventh house person's planets, there may be an element of obsession to the relationship.

aside from these we have the venus/mars aspects as well as the venus/pluto aspects and a lot of other conjunctions from his sun to my cappy planets..

so itz his virgo moon which'll be the death of me!