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Topic: cancer asked me out on a date....
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MoonPixie
Knowflake Posts: 616
From: New York, New York
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted October 05, 2008 02:33 AM
 
I've never dealt with cancer men in a romantic way and i need some experts to help. i'm not completely sure what to think because it's all happening kinda fast and suddenly as well...i mentioned him before: cancer sun/leo moon/cancer merc/gemini venus/cancer mars/libra asc (just recently got his birth time). i'm leaving for south korea for a year and he invited me down (read: paid for a plane ticket from chicago) to philadelphia for his film project for the weekend. he said that he wants to take me out before i leave and he wants me to be around for "moral support" because this project of his is a really big deal to him. after he and his crew are done, he wants to take me back to his hometown and to meet his parents and the house he grew up in and take me out to a nice romantic dinner & etc. we've been very good friends for almost a year now, and i don't feel uncomfortable meeting his parents or flying out to Philly to see him again - i really do like him a lot and i'm willing to give it all a chance. but i'm moving... for a year... i'll be back for our birthday weekend in june (he's the 30th and I'm the 24th) and i'm staying for a week and half after that weekend... but then i'm gone again for 4 months. i often wonder what he was thinking when i left new york a month ago to get ready to leave for korea. he took me out on our first date-ish (we always ate dinner on the weekends with each other) and we said our goodbyes... and then suddenly he calls me and tells me that he's flying me out to see him for a week after not seeing me for 3 weeks... to make this short, i'm not sure what his intentions are... i know he likes me a lot and that we would be dating if i were staying in new york but... i'm not... so why bring me to philly one more time? is he seeking a quick fling with me before he may not see me again or just in case he finds someone else while i'm gone? or is there more and is he potentially trying to date long (LONG) distance??? it feels like there's so much more to this trip (which i've accepted to go on, of course) than just me visiting him one more time before i leave for a long time...
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MoonPixie
Knowflake Posts: 616
From: New York, New York
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted October 05, 2008 02:35 AM
i also feel that sometimes we're a bit emotionally dependent on each other. we're very comfortable with each other and at times i think we cling on to that familiarity and security of knowing who we're holding hands with.our charts are really similar. we're both cancer sun, gemini venus, libra asc and both have water mars... we don't have the same house placements however... IP: Logged |
MoonPixie
Knowflake Posts: 616
From: New York, New York
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted October 05, 2008 02:47 AM
also, do cancer men usually move this abruptly (he bought me a plane ticket, for goodness sakes... it's romantic, but wow...)... i always thought cancer men side-stepped a lot.IP: Logged |
koiflower
Knowflake Posts: 1258
From: Australia
Registered: Jun 2008
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posted October 05, 2008 06:20 AM
My ex was Cancer Sun, my current partner has Cancer Venus.Both were suddenly there in my life. Knocking at my door, calling me for a chat, both in a very casual, non-intense way - before I knew it, I was involved in a VERY commited relationship. I thought "What just happened?" 
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Astra
Knowflake Posts: 553
From:
Registered: May 2007
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posted October 05, 2008 02:00 PM
That leo moon and libra rising is going to make him pursue this relationship very ardently and directly. I've been in a relationship with a Cancer man before and he behaved very similarly. He, too, invited me to visit him on the other side of the country. We ate dinner, visited his family (this is a BIG deal to Cancers, apparently) and went sight-seeing. He never tried to sleep with me on that trip. I never knew his rising sign, but he did have a Sag moon and a Gemini venus. He really was a genuinely sweet guy with no ulterior motives. I only ended it because he was just too clingy.So it is very possible that this guy just wants to spend time with you. Paying for your plane ticket to fly out to see him and have romantic dinners is a very grand gesture, which reflects his Leo influence. His libra ascendant makes relationships very important to him and he's probably well aware that long distance relationships typically don't last, so he's trying to make sure that you don't forget about him and drift apart. Now I cannot say for sure that this guy has good intentions since I don't know him at all. From the time you've known him, is he the type that is very direct or does he always say things he doesn't mean? Has he ever made you feel uncomfortable or do you feel safe around him? What does your gut instinct say about him? IP: Logged |
MoonPixie
Knowflake Posts: 616
From: New York, New York
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted October 10, 2008 05:59 AM
should have responded to this a week ago, but this merc rx has got me in a spin...anyways, i leave in a few hours which is why im awake... still packing... but procrastinating by being on here... he's not purposefully indirect, but he's not exactly direct either. he's a big user of double entrendres, which is why i'm a bit at unease (my need for security is heightened nowadays for some odd reason) as to why he would bring me to philly... most because i have no idea what will happen between us when i get there! basically, if he even gave me a look, i'd be on my back in an INSTANT... which i don't want to happen... part of me hopes that his is just a grand gesture because of his leo moon and i'm leaving and we has gotten fairly close before i left new york but also part of me just wants to spoil him with all sort of pleasures... but i can't... or rather shouldn't because im leaving for a year... to live in a country an 18 hour flight away... i think getting involved with him beyond flirtation would be emotionally irresponsible considering the circumstances. gosh, im tired and still only half packed...story of my life... wish me luck... hope i don't make any "poor" decisions :\ IP: Logged |
Ana
Knowflake Posts: 156
From: Romania
Registered: Sep 2006
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posted October 11, 2008 01:48 AM
MoonPixie, if you're still reading this, i'm wishing you all the luck in the world!
Im dealing with another cancer boy that has the same personal planets as yours 
Just yesterday he finally asked me out...so i'm hoping for the best for the both of us!Good luck dear!IP: Logged |
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