posted October 05, 2008 04:04 PM         

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the thought that you are not with that idiot could be of some comfort

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posted October 05, 2008 05:06 PM         

He is odd. People don't usually act like that, do they? Was there no fight leading to his disappearance?

A theory is that he had a girlfriend while the two of you were dating. His girlfriend then found out about you, gave him an ultimatum of some sort or dumped him. The only thing that could get her to trust him again, or to begin her road to trusting him again was to let go of you. He then proposed to prove just how much he loved her, to show her that he means business. He probably enjoyed your time together, but just couldn't risk losing his woman for you. He is likely very ashamed of how he treated you because he knows that he hurt you, but to apologize to you would require for him to explain himself and I don't think he is in the mood of also having to tell you that he had another woman while dating you.

Another theory could be that he was single but had just broken up with this woman he's marrying. He then met you, but soon after he reconciled things with his ex, and they decided that they can't live without each other and got engaged.

His behaviour is not as random as it sounds. I don't think he became pro marriage over night. He's probably always been pro marriage and commitment and acted as if he didn't so that YOU thought that, because you know that this could have been a tactic to draw a line that he didn't want to cross.

All in all, whatever the case may be, he is still a tosser. A loser!

About being in the same university, was it truly that random too? Both of you didn't know where the other was going to study? I ask only because it could explain or pose more questions to consider. E.g. If he followed you, he's really twisted. If you followed him... you're probably looking for closure and this could just be the beginning of the drama because you're likely to get more furious with him. Of course, he deserves all he gets.

posted October 05, 2008 06:00 PM         

You are NOT the problem in this situation, and you have no reason to feel bad about yourself.

I wish I had good advice, but I'm the last person who should be offering advice about this sort of thing right now. I just wanted to tell you that I'm sending you good thoughts, and to thank you for sharing your story. I've been feeling rejected and crappy, and reading your post helped me understand that there are wonderful women out there who go through tough times like this, and it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with me.

posted October 06, 2008 07:26 AM         

I agree with Peace Angel. He's probably cacking himself that you'll spill the beans. Hey, you're the one with the power mate, not that it feels like it I'm sure. I have Mercury in Scorpio so I'd be inclined to exploit this information to the max. Not tell, or hurt his wife, but you know.... there's always the possibility that you could.... he doesn't know you won't..... A subtlely planted comment about his aloofness and the reasons for it, which might or might not relate to the ring on his finger...