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Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 06:32 PM ok, l need help. can we discuss the term "sex buddies" and what it means because l have a sex buddy and i'm sure it's not supposed to be like this!! ie he wants to spend the whole night he tells me what he's doing all the time he talks about his life he gets jealous if l go on another date etc etc WTF is going on? aaarrrggghhhh!!!! IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 06:38 PM So is he clear on being sex buddies and what it entails? Some people you have to break things down to. IP: Logged
CoralFrequency Knowflake Posts: 1432 From: Registered: Feb 2007	posted October 24, 2008 06:39 PM quote: he wants to spend the whole night he tells me what he's doing all the time he talks about his life lol that's starting to sound more like best friend, than buddy quote: he gets jealous if l go on another date etc ok that's beyond buddy and friend LOL Is this the Leo guy? IP: Logged
CoralFrequency Knowflake Posts: 1432 From: Registered: Feb 2007	posted October 24, 2008 06:40 PM Lara - are you excited about his behaviour.. or does it put you off? I'm asking because usually when you mention the "Leo" (if it is him) you sound excited IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 06:47 PM this is the Leo guy leo sun aqua moon leo venus aqua mars l mean, when l told him l had another date he was on the phone to me "whose this guy?" "is he as good looking as me?" "how did you meet him?" "is he as good as me?" "l hope you are not going to break our agreement?" LOL !!!!!!! IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 06:50 PM problem is l like him as more... and it seems he does too - but where do we go from here? he seems insecure as to his position now! IP: Logged
Peri Moderator Posts: 2648 From: Kyiv, Ukraine Registered: Dec 2003	posted October 24, 2008 06:53 PM have you asked him, Lara? IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 07:03 PM no, we seem to be both avoiding the question/asking lol His behaviour is not very sex buddy, is it? IP: Logged
amowls Knowflake Posts: 866 From: Richmond, VA USA Registered: Dec 2007	posted October 24, 2008 07:15 PM seems jealous say to him "well if you want to be exclusive, we can be" IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 07:17 PM yup agree... i need to move him into a position where he is treating me like a g/f instead of a FB though... cos it's all topsy turvy now and almost like a dead end IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:17 PM Ok I'm confused now. You like him and he likes you, but you're sex buddies. And it bothers him that you're just that. Could you elaborate? IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:18 PM Okay, just read your last post. Maybe he needs to know for sure from you (the signs you give) before he tries to make it official. He doesn't want to get rejected, thats his main issue. Remember his moon is in Aquarius which is going to make him a bit aloof and wont always let you know what hes thinking, and he is a Leo. We HATE rejection. IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:21 PM Make him feel secure and he will make his move. IP: Logged
Libralove09 Knowflake Posts: 560 From: Registered: Sep 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:21 PM ok lets just cut the crap, i cant believe it took this many responses to figure out this "mystery" he bloody likes ya! definitely! you like him too, so just put 2 n 2 together n make a move amigo! p.s., if both of them turn sour, im available in london jk. lol IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 07:26 PM ask me any questions... how do you want me to elaborate? tell the story? ok.. so we met and he asked me if l wanted to be his sex buddy. I said yes, IF we did not sleep with anyone else... cos that's my one rule, along with respect and honesty. he said ok and l was happy as i'd just come out of my relationship with the New Yorker. From the start he texted me quite a bit and when we met up it was just for sex and a teeny bit of conversation. Gradually it became longer meet ups and more conversation, he told me about his life and work. One day we met up and he invited me for a drink.. then he told me that he might have to go abroad for a couple of months and would l visit him LOL! Recently, l had this date and after my date he phoned me and asked if he could stay the night. I said no. He said l can't believe you are turning me down!!!! I met him the next day and he was a little colder.. so my date and not letting him stay got to him l think. Then he went abroad and now he is back. he invited me to a business lunch of a charity l admire... He says things like "only for you" and "i missed you" nothing else. i never ring him, text him, ask him questions, pry... he just comes and goes but now l realize that l like him more than a sex buddy... that l want to know how he feels. he wants to take me away for a night next week... does that help? IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 07:30 PM ok Taurusleolady... im a taurean too HOW do l make him feel secure without him running for the hills?!!! IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 07:30 PM i've been married for the last decade so i'm a bit slow on the dating front hehe IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 07:35 PM LOL Libralove it's like we are doing an invisible dance... IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:37 PM Just be yourself Lara, I mean you are a Taurus, so it shouldn't be hard. We like security and routine. So, be there for him, and make him feel special. Tell him you miss him, that you are glad you met him, you know, be a lady, be subtle and I'm sure you know how to do that, right. Let him know without words that you are available ONLY for him. He is probably a bit worried about your other date. He is wondering if you are going to go back out with this guy. That's probably slowed him down a bit. He's thinking and analyzing, but worried about his heart more than anything. Oh ya, give him compliments, I almost forgot, and you'll have that cat purring. IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:40 PM Ask him why in the world is he single and whats wrong with these women. Tell him how attractive he is. Make him FEEL like he is the only one. Actions speak louder than words. IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:42 PM If you like him why dont you text or call him! What in the world! IP: Logged
Lara Knowflake Posts: 3274 From: London Registered: Mar 2006	posted October 24, 2008 07:47 PM hmmm OK, these tips are great. I always thought though that if l just gave it to him on a plate, he'll never make the effort to treat me as anything more than just a sex buddy lol IP: Logged
evander Knowflake Posts: 195 From: east of eu Registered: Apr 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:49 PM i think the not calling him part is smart. the not clingy-ness makes him clingy he proposed the sex buddies arrangement; so i think he should be the one to get things to the next level. and it does seem like he wants to people always appreciate more what they get the hard way. so no silver platter in my mind IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:52 PM Maybe he's thinking the same thing you are thinking. Friends with benefits causes this kind of confusion. You are going to have to end up having a conversation about this. First thing first, get him by getting in to him. The good thing is you don't have to worry about the sex part because the deed has already been done. So if he becomes disinterested, its not because you won't give him any loving. And obviously good to him because he's still around. Think positive Ms. Lara! IP: Logged
taurusvirgoleolady1974 Knowflake Posts: 270 From: where I am Registered: May 2008	posted October 24, 2008 07:53 PM objectivly speaking, you got him in a bag. Now work on sealing the deal. Really. IP: Logged

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