posted November 02, 2008 01:37 AM         

Some of you might remember me whining about someone who break up with me because he doesn't want me to be committed to him..he wants me to "be open". Whatever.

He's a

Scorpio ASC
Pisces sun
Taurus moon
Aries mercury
Aquarius venus
Aquarius mars

He basically stopped talking to me altogether except maybe once a month when he wanted sex. Well I'm done with that, but now he's been randomly talking to me.

Tonight he saw a picture of my Halloween costume, and asked if I was flaunting my body around and if I "put out" last night when I went to the bars. Why does he care anyway?

He's mean when he talks to me. Sarcastic, mocks things I say, puts me down. When we were together he was ALWAYS so nice to me, loving and flirty and everything.

He's the one who dumped me, and I am the one who has been nice and accepting to him 100% since the breakup. So why is he being such an ass? I don't get it. And texting me randomly and then not responding when I reply. What gives.

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Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon

posted November 02, 2008 01:48 AM         

Go figure.

posted November 02, 2008 09:53 AM         

VirgoMask how can someone who hated you and treated you this way be the love of your life?

This proves that with some women this kind of treatment really works best lol

That's the easiest trick in the book, be nice to her at first, show her your soft side, the gentleman side you perfected and worked hard on polishing all your life just to attract women when in reality you are nothing but a scum bag and so far away from beign anything gentle let alone a gentleman, then after you get her all wrapped up around your finger dump her knowing that she is head over heels about you and have sex with her till you are sick of her and the whole thing.

posted November 02, 2008 10:18 AM         

It sounds like your guy is a) still really into you and b) really messed up about women and relationships in general and c) very confused/at sea about what he wants.

I think the combo of his Pisces energy with a stalwart Taurean emotional life is probably a really tough one. It's like his moon is a 300-lb sandbag keeping him in the same emotional spot, just when his Pisces self is dying to swim, swim, swim away from the scene and fast.

My guess is that the reason this is still getting to you is because he is still trying to be involved with you and keep you hooked. He's not just letting you go. But yet, he is too confused and troubled to really be together. Dumping you was a power play. If he were a Pisces/Gem/Pisces combo or something, I might see it differently. But he got freaked by his own feelings and is taking it out on YOU. Ugh.

posted November 02, 2008 10:30 AM         

A big part of what got me hooked with the Scorp/Pisces/Taurus is that I THOUGHT he was really into me and was playing a sexy hot-and-cold game to get me interested...a game played with me (Leo) successfully by an Aries, tons of Geminis, and a couple of dimpled Libras, all of whom were crazy about me but (rightly) feared I'd be turned off by some clingy, romantic sap. (We Leos love men to get romantic, but we like to feel we've won them first in a thrilling foreplay hunt.)

And--yikes! Boy was I reading him wrong! Part of the reason was my own blinders, but the bigger part was his crazy stew of mixed messages.

I think the trick that most guys should keep in mind is not to manipulate anyone--just use the seduction style that comes naturally to you. If you try on a style that isn't quite you, you'll end up with some woman you can't stand.

Edited to add: by "got me hooked", I mean I was really into him. He apparently had no desire to ever have sex with me or even touch me, which makes him unique among the straight men I have known--c'mon, Leo here!!!

VirgOh, are you a Virgo sun? If so, you're going to be just miserable f--ing someone you're manipulating till you get sick of her. You need to be wooing a classy, glamorous, brilliant friend who you can trust.

posted November 02, 2008 10:41 AM         

You seem to be a victim too judging by your reply.

I just love to analyze trends, and I've known many women that got hurt by men like that in each and every case the trend is obvious and transparent.

Your question to me doesn't warrant an answer because even if I was a scum bag I'd say NO I am not

posted November 02, 2008 10:46 AM         

Don't assume the worst from people!

...that's my job. lol

You sound pretty bitter, there.

posted November 02, 2008 10:48 AM         

I enjoy relationships more than fleeting experiences based solely on sex.

posted November 02, 2008 11:17 AM         

You should work on your scales

posted November 02, 2008 11:25 AM         

So cool it. Both of you.

posted November 02, 2008 11:42 AM         

I'm not being pessimistic. I'm being real. Unless he has asked for forgiveness for his wrongs, he is not sorry. If he is treating you badly, he doesn't like you enough to treat you nicely. If you're confused about how he feels for you, unsure or whatever, he is likely unsure as well but more likely, he doesn't care about your wellbeing. You're only confused because you're not convinced, and you shouldn't try to convince yourself of his goodness. His actions must show it.

If someone loves you, not experimenting on you to see if he can love you, You Will Know. So, this guy deserves to be told to get a life because he's obviously playing with your vulnerabilities. Tell him to stop texting you if you care about your mental health. This guy doesn't give a flying **** whether you hurt or not.

posted November 02, 2008 11:56 AM         

It hurts them so much to hear the truth and reminds them of their realities so they start dumping on others hahahah

posted November 02, 2008 12:55 PM         

He is clearly manipulating you. Seriously, stay away from this guy unless you want more drama and pain in your life. When he was with you, he was unsure or frightened of his feelings in addition to wanting to have his cake and eat it, too. Since you didn't go for that, this caught him off guard and so he broke up with you. Now he realizes that he wants you (most likely because you're not the "easy" type and he sees you as a challenge), so that's why he's texting you. Ignore his texts. Don't even look at them. If possible, disable your text messaging option.

posted November 02, 2008 04:19 PM         

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Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon

posted November 02, 2008 10:00 PM         

I think even a thread was dedicated to Aquarius Venus and Mars. not too positive =(

Moon is exalted in Taurus and puts much stability in feelings/emotions. Pisces sun might make him confused and therefore even slow in entering/leaving the relationship completely but once in, along with Scorp rising might explain for the loving you once received. The sudden cool off, pulling out might be because of Aquarius venus/mars. He still wants you as friends, obviously...

Aries mercury and Scorp rising might be for the Halloween remarks, checking on you, being abrasive etc...

i'm not loving it lolz. you'll find a much better man!

my 2 cents