posted November 17, 2008 01:55 PM         

we worked together at a temp summer job, and she's probably the ultimate epitome of EVERYTHING MOON PIXIE HATES IN THE WORLD.

i was never outwardly mean to her or did anything cruel. i was in fact nice to her in fear of angering her because she's one of those extremely emotional types - the type of person you'd rather be on their good side because you can't even fathom how emotionally unsteady they are when they're even slightly angry at you. she's also the queen bee type who bosses people around and even argued with our boss when she thought she was right and he was wrong (neither was right or wrong; she just wanted us to use her methods instead of our bosses because she wants control like that). at the same time, she tries very hard to get people to be her best friend because she demands "respect" (through fear, IMO) and wants everyone to love her. and if you don't "like" her, she'll make you're life a living hell for it. basically, she's a narcissistic control freak. i'm not exaggerating or being biased because she's been cruel to me. my intuition told me all these things about her before she started all her bullsht with me.

so i never really liked her or what she stood for or the way she treated her coworkers or her outward insecurity blatant, and i made it clear that i didn't intend on us being friends (was i so wrong for being honest?) although i was still respectful since we were coworkers and she has been temping at this place for a few years now. for a few weeks we kept it cool and never really talked but then she developed a crush on this guy at work (she has a boyfriend) and he and i were the closest amongst the temp workers. he and i were just friends, but she started to outwardly do these passive-aggressive things like yelling at me over little things that she would never care to yell at anyone else about. or running into me on purpose making me drop everything that i had. or if her crush and i were eating together her would try to sit directly between us and go as far as getting a chair and forcing it between us so she can sit... she wasn't very subtle about her crush... everyone knew it, it was sad to watch... even more pathetic when her boyfriend came to work one time to visit and completely ignored the guy she liked in front of him and then as soon as her boyfriend left she'd go off and tell her crush that she "needed private time" to talk to him BLAH BLAH BLAH you're the only one i trust BS BS BS . . .

later on, several of my co-workers warned me that she was complaining to all of them about how i'm never working hard enough and that she's suggesting to our boss that i get fired. i, of course, didn't get fired but she somehow convinced our boss to let her watch over me like a hawk just in case i do slack off. that was pretty much worst week of my summer. i felt like i was in high school again. eventually, work ended and i haven't seen her since... thank god.

however, i found out from one of my coworkers that she tried to commit suicide this weekend and in her letter blamed me and several others at work who weren't fans of hers either for "emotionally battering" her and treating her with "unusually cruel treatment". WTF? first off - i was never cruel to her. i didn't even really talk to her at work unless we had to do something together. at the same time, i never excluded her. i never said, "hey, let's all go out to lunch and LET'S NOT INVITE *HER*" - she was always invited, mostly because i refused to be blamed for angering her otherwise. i never spread rumors, i didn't even complain about her at work (i did complain about her once we were out, though) because i was paranoid that she would be listening in from the next room or something. i tried to be as diplomatic as possible (libra rising) because i don't want work to be a living hell and i'll admit it - i'm freaking scared of her.

so WTF is going on with this chick? is it merc square mars? all that water placements? that singleton aqua mars? i have no idea what her rising sign is, but this is her chart and her transits:

posted November 17, 2008 04:51 PM         

the best thing to do is not let her in your life. say, "thats really too bad" and let it go. like a dog or an animal she sensed your fear and is trying to make you a target for her blame others for my instability game. The best thing to do is take no part in it.
When it gets brought up, say, oh thats too bad.....anyone see that new movie blah blah blah....two beats....change the subject...

what about your friend that let her squeese in the middle when you were talking? I mean, I would have said, uh, we are having a conversation here, you and I can talk afterwards.

Moonpixie, if you don't stand up for yourself...tell me this...who will?

Don't get drawn into her drama and if she gets in your space tell her to take a hike, do not be afraid of her, tell her to go get some medication and meanwhile... beat it.

No ONE is responsible for anyone else taking thier life or threatening to take thier life. That is strictly the mind set of the person making that threat and thier instability, so don't ever let anyone make you feel responsible for thier actions.

Practice "the look". I can get rid of people like that with a look. The look says...seriously, you are rude, the look says, seriously, you are interupting me...the look says,,,don't mess with me...the look says, puhlease take your game and be gone. People don't mess with people that have the look perfected.

posted November 17, 2008 05:00 PM         

Well she's got that stellium and her Mars square Sun/Merc makes her rather aggressive and volatile which is nicely topped by Chiron which is trine Mars and quincunx her Sun/Merc. Also Moon square Chiron. Her choices of hurt are words - Chiron in Gemini.

Simple thing is refuse to interact with her. She's manipulating you and obviously very good and volatile about it. Shut down and walk away and keep communication or interactions to a minimum. What can she do then?

If she persists and if you have air in your chart, use that verbiage to stick the knife in where it hurts.

posted November 17, 2008 06:55 PM         

i've decided to not give a sht about this girl anymore. at first i felt bad and started to wonder if i did in fact do anything to her and then i realized the only thing i did wrong was not doing anything at all - standing up for myself against her, for others, etc.

i really don't know her ascendent. she could possibly be an aries moon. it doesn't really matter in the end - it doesn't really justify why she's a total b**ch.

also, as far as the guy she had a crush on, he never stood up for me or against her. not once. i think it's because she spoiled him with everything.

posted November 17, 2008 10:00 PM         

It's very possible that this bully has a Pisces moon. The Pisces moon is actually quite common in the charts of bullies particularly if they have a naturally forceful and independent sun sign like Scorpio. Scorpios want to feel like they're in control and hate showing any weakness. A Pisces moon makes someone deeply sensitive and easily wounded by others. Combined with a Scorpio sun, this can make a Scorpio way too aggressive because they're trying to hide their vulnerable side and they often prefer to hurt others before others have a chance to hurt them.

And yes, people with a lot of Scorpio in their charts can be REALLY awful to the extreme. However, they can also be REALLY amazing and kind-hearted people. Scorpio, after all, is the sign of extremes. You'll often find the highest and the lowest under this sign.

posted November 18, 2008 02:47 AM         

Now I know this girl is the supposed villain of the piece but have you ever thought how sad and frightened she must have been?
She attempted suicide. That is a desperate and lonely place to end up.

And I think Moon that deep down, because you are a kind soul, you know this and you are frightened that you and others maybe unwittingly made her feel worse.

And I think by trying to justify her actions through whatever means you are trying to explain why you feel bad.
Because I think you do and you don't know why.
She's obviously disturbed but acting through fear not malice.

If for no other reason than to make yourself feel better may I suggest you write her a letter.

In it say, that you understand you had your differences and that probably you will never be friends, but that doesn't mean that you don't appreciate how sad she is.
You don't have to admit anything about your previous actions (she most likely did deserve it) but show her what a decent and good human being you are by offering her solace.
Not support, not an explanation just a "hey"