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posted November 19, 2008 12:36 PM         

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Has anyone had experiences with a person who is interested in you, but to the point of rushing forward too quickly. There is a person who is interested in me that possesses lots of qualities that I like in a man; smart, outgoing, financially secure, etc, you know, the basics (even though the basics can somewhat be hard to find.) He also has offered to fix things in my house, which is nice. Just one problem-I feel like he is trying to rush into the relationship. But dont get me wrong, this is not an "I dont like nice guys" issue. Also, his family knows all about me already and we only went on one date, but we talk every day. And he has made plans for us for the spring. Can we get to Thanksgiving first? I already told him lets see how things go and I think its just part of his nature and I also think he may be lonely. This makes me very uncomfortable but I do like him at the same time. Its making me want to run away. I feel kind of bad/guilty, but I do that anyway I make things my fault. Think its my virgo rising. I know I have one hard venus aspect in my chart. I think im blaming myself again. but here it is lets see if i can get some opinions here. THis may not even be an astrological issue! http://s354.photobucket.com/albums/r424/tauruslovelylady/?action=view¤t=natal.gif

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posted November 19, 2008 12:54 PM         

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No harm in asking to take the pace slower, I have male friends who have had problems scaring women off by getting too intense too fast. One case in point had Moon Pisces Opposite Venus Virgo. I told him about that aspect and he said it was just like him, and he got a bit emotional. He's now settled down with children but it took a while to get the balance right. So, no, it's not necessarily just you. Maybe he IS rushing things too much.

Relationships can often be about two people balancing out a personality tensions in each other. Maybe that will happen here ~ maybe it shows on your synastry chart.

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posted November 19, 2008 02:22 PM         

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Venus square Saturn would make one prone to fearing sudden relationships.

There are two options here: 1) You can confront him and tell him to take it slower or 2) You can confront yourself and figure out why this makes you uncomfortable.

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posted November 19, 2008 02:42 PM         

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Trust your instincts.

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posted November 19, 2008 02:45 PM         

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LOL Taurusvirgoleolady,

I know exactly how you feel!!! You know i have had this a couple of times and the way to stop the hundred mile an hour dash to the finish line (!) is to slow the pace.

For instance, when he texts you or phones you don't pick up, don't respond. Leave him to stew a bit and show him that you have a life beyond him!!!!

It will make him think more instead of behaving like a bull in a china shop

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posted November 19, 2008 02:47 PM         

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Just have a check of your synastry with him and see if there is any planetary connections* with his Uranus. Uranus will make things speed up and make him the excitable party.

* Such as Moon and Venus.

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posted November 19, 2008 04:01 PM         

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Yes we have a moon (yours truly) sextile uranus (him). There are some great aspects here as well like conj venus/mars and sextile sun/moon. our synastry also shows venus square pluto (hes pluto, damn!). I think my taurus is coming out as well as common sense. I will not, I mean, REFUSE, to be rushed! Maybe that is an ongoing problem he has had, he seems to be a good catch, hes so polished yet silly and overall an accomplished person. Heres his chart lets see. Pretty sure leo asc. he loooves compliments and attention. likes to dress nice and play around. http://s354.photobucket.com/albums/r424/tauruslovelylady/?action=view¤t=se-1.gif

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posted November 19, 2008 04:04 PM         

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I like Lara's advice on a practical level.

I don't think you should blame yourself too much either, and I do believe it might be some writing on the wall for you to think about. Is he hasty in every decision, or just this one? If he's always hasty, then you can probably expect that in his everyday decisions. If he's only hasty with the relationship, he may be overly intense and/or passionate, and you may want to consider what happens when his high goes away.

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