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posted December 09, 2008 07:09 AM         

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I have been dating a younger man for about 8-9 months now, but i have to make a decision either to break up for good or to continue the way we have it today, where we dont meet more than once a week. We really love eachother and cant be without eachother, but it's actually the age-difference that bothers at least me. Can you please help me to see if there is any future for us and how compatible we are through synastry or composite? I dont know if i can put up a chart on this forum, but it doesn't look like it i'm afraid.

ME: FEB 19, 1969 02.18 AM IN MALMÖ, SWEDEN
HE: MAY 11 1983 18.34 PM IN MALMÖ, SWEDEN

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posted December 09, 2008 07:30 AM         

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Astrology can't make decisions for you, at least I don't think that is a wise idea.

A synastry chart is something I find helpful as a guide to how two people interact.

Mars OPP Mars is passionate, but argumentative. That can be draining.

The Grand Square is a profound configuration to have on a chart. It suggests to me a meaningful relationship, one that may be hard to let go.

Your Sun makes his natal Venus Trine Saturn/Pluto into a Grand Trine. Again, that is a powerful piece of synastry. You are able to draw out some of his strengths in a most positive way.

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posted December 09, 2008 07:58 AM         

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I'm just wondering what aspect shows why it is so hard to let go of this relationship from both parts. I break it off, but he keeps coming back no matter what, and when he contacts me i just cant ignore him. We are like drugs towards each other.

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posted December 09, 2008 08:09 AM         

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If it's only the age difference I wouldn't worry.
He's not exactly a fossil and you are not a giddy teenager.

However is he married? Is that the problem?

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posted December 09, 2008 08:13 AM         

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Sorry love. Totally the wrong way round.
My third hubby was 11 years younger than me.
It was NEVER an issue.
In fact if anything it's the men of my age who depressed me most.
Men can get very set in their ways after 35-40 .
Nothing is guaranteed in life. Grab the man. Smoke him till you can smoke him no more and have fun!

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posted December 09, 2008 08:15 AM         

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Are you an Aqua or a Pisces gerda?
If you are an Aqua that Taurean male will bore the pants off you after a while anyway!

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posted December 09, 2008 09:47 AM         

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No, this man is not married and he doesnt have an other gf. I'm pieces, not aquarius, but only 0 degrees in pieces. Does that matter? I also checked our composite chart and when i look at that it looks really good with venus in the 7th house and sun & moon in the 5th. He also has his eros conj my venus and my eros is trine his venus. But what aspect shows the obsession that we have for eachother?

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posted December 10, 2008 07:25 AM         

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Anyone please?

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posted December 10, 2008 07:36 AM         

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Why let go? You're transforming each other. I have a grand cross with someone in composite. It hard to let go of, but it's like the relationship has a life of its own, for better or worse. It's making me see things in a totally new way. Painful, but it's been worth it so far.
Let it transform you.

Just my two cents.

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posted December 10, 2008 08:40 AM         

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Hello and Welcome to LL gerdahagge

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posted December 10, 2008 08:49 AM         

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follow your heart, not astrology.

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posted December 10, 2008 10:01 AM         

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My heart really loves him and he loves me, and i want to be with him, but it just isn't enough. He is too immature and too young and feels it's enough to meet only once a week. He is too much into his friends and room-mates. I'm a mature woman and want more after so long time. I had a lot of fun in the beginning, but the longer it goes, more i want from the relationship. I know astro doesn't tell me our future, but if someone could see the very good and very bad aspects i would be happy, because i do believe in astrology.

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