posted December 18, 2008 07:43 PM         

Thus, keeping his queen on the pedestal by dare not asking her to partake of such dark activities. He has too much respect for her. This type of activity may rear it's ugly head as the male cancer moves into mid life crisis age."

HI guys...

I was reading the above and was curious if anyone who has been with a cancer male has any feedback on it.

I realize that not all cancers are the same...

posted December 18, 2008 07:55 PM         

He likes to be fussed over (back rubs, feet rubs,etc) but not in an overly motherly way.
As far as darker fantasies, he is completely comfortable playing those out with me (but I have pluto rising and encourage a bit of the dark fantasies.)

I do think he is a bit of a big baby (five planets in leo contribute), but over all I think cancer men are very touchy, sensual, and into women overall.(emotional- yeah )

posted December 18, 2008 08:20 PM         

He was incredably touchy, paticularly when he felt ignored. He definitly LOVED massages and being taken care of. He adored any look on a woman that was 'cute' or 'adoreable' as oposessed to 'sultry' or 'mysterious'.

posted December 19, 2008 07:11 AM         

He actually admitted to me once, near the end of our relationship, that he felt that some things "you just don't do with the woman you love".

posted December 19, 2008 07:48 AM         

I like to do everything with the woman Iam with, including these so called dark fantasies and I do have a lot and was brought up Muslim, it's better to do so than have her on a pedestal and go cheat. I have heard many Cancerians say similar things, I think it's plain BS and an excuse to justify other things.

posted December 19, 2008 09:35 AM         

if we look at our parents or grandparents (and they are from another generation),if they are christians or catholics,( here in my country we are catholics),we usually see them as very inhibitted in their own intimacy and the relation they have with their own body.

if we talk about catholicism,yes they do view woman as inferior sometimes,and also pure,so pure that the Man cannot "do" some things with her wife cause are "sin of fobidden".

for me these are also a lot of lies and i do not believe that Christ would say sth like this. instead i believe he would say that love has to be shared in all forms that make us satifised and happy - with RESPECT and INTIMACY for one another.

posted December 19, 2008 12:52 PM         

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I am sorry but that "Brought up Catholic" remark was pathetic or not thought of, no where in any religion does it tell you not to share with your woman and go cheat on her because there are things you cannot do with her so let's not blame Catholicism now for people's incompetencies in the sense that people can misread things in religion and go apply it to their pathetic lives according to their understanding and narrow freaking mindedness. And no Iam not Catholic nor a Christian.
I like to do everything with the woman Iam with, including these so called dark fantasies and I do have a lot and was brought up Muslim, it's better to do so than have her on a pedestal and go cheat. I have heard many Cancerians say similar things, I think it's plain BS and an excuse to justify other things.

I am not too crazy about that sign (Cancer), males or females.

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Well I'm both a cancer and Roman Catholic and I definitely don't use my religion as an excuse for sexual repression. O__o However, it had to come from somewhere because my mother and the majority of my relatives think that way (she isn't married anymore of course). In their case, I think its more a cultural issue than a relgious one.

Other than that issue, I do agree with most of what you said. It kind of sucks when people think like that where there's certain things they just won't do with their S.O. only to end up trying to find someone outside the relationship to do these things with. I just don't agree that this is a problem specific to cancers.

posted December 19, 2008 01:57 PM         

Sorry if I wasn't clear about that since I was a little sleepy when I wrote it. But my ex never use being Catholic as an excuse for cheating on me, nor did he ever cheat on me (and I'm pretty sure my post did not refer to cheating in any way, just his discomfort with intimacy and "naughtiness"). He did tell me that he felt that his catholic upbringing gave him a sense of confusion over his sexuality in some ways. And those were his words and the way he experienced his sexuality/religion, not mine.

Sorry for any offence

*Edited to add*
"I am not too crazy about that sign (Cancer), males or females." Being a Cancer female myself, I'll try not to take offence to that