posted December 21, 2008 09:14 AM         

Am having the most terrible time...my mother has been diagnosed with breast cancer (it seems to be have been caught early, we are waiting for final results on Monday and im praying for a positive result), my older sister has apparently felt for years that we dont have a good relationship but she has never told me this. They also told me I act like I dont care (I think my Cappie Asc) may seem like that. But I do care! very much, but i have venus in libra so I tend to think things through rather than express them in a dramatic way. My mum has cancer venus so is very different to me.This has been a prob for years. But I am so distraught that my sister (she is 7 years older) and is married with kids while I have just graduated and begun my career, says we have no relationship and nothing in common. She told my mum that although we are blood and family it doesnt mean she has to like me. So after hearing for one hour the worst things my family think about me, I wrote a card to my sister (she lives in canada and I live in UK)saying that i do love her very much and im sorry if she thinks we don't have a relationship. She didnt reply to my card and my mum told me it will take 10 years to get a relationship back!

I have also had my heart broken in the last two months and I went on a date yesterday with a guy who i knew a few years ago who told me halfway through that he decides very quickly if something is friendship or more and he decided then that ours would be pure friendship. I am so tired of everythig right now, am trying to support my mum through cancer but she threw the last 8 years in my face, everything I did wrong. But I rose above that and went home to help her. And now Christmas is approaching and i've never felt so alone.

sorry for the misery in this post, but I need to find a way out of this mess.

posted December 21, 2008 09:50 AM         

I think you did the exact right thing with your sister. It could be one of those situations (that I know so well) where you can do nothing to please someone. It's unfortunate when you are related, but it happens. You just have to let it go (that's what I think anyway) and be true to yourself and your own life.

The boy (man/thing) on the date, bloody cheek, but ultimately he was right. He's not good enough for you, he must have sussed that out.

posted December 21, 2008 03:08 PM         

so i call her tonight to see how she is feeling. The results are tomorrow but she said she didnt want me there cause she wanted to be alone with her husband. So i planned to arrive in the afternoon...she got annoyed saying i should arrive earlier to help clean the house. So, i cant win basically. I asked about the christmas food and does she need help with the shopping? she said no she was doing it tomorrow after the results and my sister had offered to do it so she wasnt tired. Dammit, that was why i was asking too! i'm so angry and im trying not to be...