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Faith
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posted December 06, 2001 10:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message
i am a pisces married to a gemini and have just met a sagittarius. the sag seems to have what i desire. And i have felt that my only child gemini is sucking my life forces right out of me. I am so scared right now! If you have anytime please help me. My actions so far have been sane however im starting to hear voices!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Morning Storm
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posted December 07, 2001 12:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Morning Storm     Edit/Delete Message
Faith,

Is your child a Gemini or is that your child's name?? Also, was the child born recently--sometime in the last year?? I'm a counselor by profession who just happens to be an astrologer, and that's a line I usually hear from new Mom's who are just plain worn out. I would need birth data--day, time and place of birth-- for you and your child to help you with that.

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somehow, never again needing to speak
the eyes-into-eyes, like burning embers, were enough
we did not again need words
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Faith
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posted December 07, 2001 09:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message
Im sorry i mean my only child as in my husband is the only child in his family. he was born 6-9-66 at 1:13am in Sterling Illinois. My birth date is 3-9-72 in Denver Colorado at 11:37pm. I dont know if i love him anymore as a life partner which is killing me because we have 2 young children. At the same time i have met a Sagittarius i only know he was born 12-19-70.
He makes me feel alive again. Thank you for your time.

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Marigold
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posted December 13, 2001 07:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Marigold     Edit/Delete Message
Faith, I don't know about the astrological side of it, but it looks as if you are exhausted and need to recover your own strength...
What about a lot of water to fight stress and dehydration and some fish oil or flaxoil? (I'm not joking, it reconstitutes the reserves of prostaglandines)...

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Faith
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posted December 13, 2001 09:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks marigold i just need to feel some love right now. I shall try the oil and lots of water. Thank you Thank you Thank you

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Randall
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posted December 13, 2001 06:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Faith, you just need some occasional "you" time. Try a nice long bubble bath with nothing but you and the radio.

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"It is never too late to become what you might have been." George Eliot

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chronicprincess
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posted December 13, 2001 11:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for chronicprincess     Edit/Delete Message
Faith~ Oh man, can I relate to what you are going thru ... sigh ... but I don't think it has more to do with the stars than you just aren't being loved-up enough - as Randall said, you need more YOU time, and more than a bubble bath I'm thinking, but I promise you, you will be much more successful if you don't spend it with another man. I once mistook passion from another direction to mean I must not still love my husband. Easy mistake when all the passion that came with the falling in love is gone from the relationship we have with our life mate. I say at least give your husband a chance to make right *together* what went wrong *together* ... if there was Love before - chances are great that it is still there, but buried under the multitude of life's demands. If you do leave your husband, don't do it for another man. Leave knowing and intending to be alone rather than married to him. Remember, to this other man you are a married woman, and it's my experience those men consider that a plus

Well, that's my two cents worth ... Good luck

~Princess

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~We can try many ways to get rid of the darkness, but none is as effective as simply increasing the light.~ UnkNown

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Faith
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posted December 14, 2001 09:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks all for the understanding and advise. I have begun opening a doorway of communication with my hubby. at least now he knows how ive been feeling. and i have begun much reflection on my self and what i need to do to become healthy again(both body and spirit)Im hanging in and hanging on!!!! Thank you all!!!!

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posted December 14, 2001 12:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Marigold     Edit/Delete Message

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Randall
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posted December 15, 2001 09:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Faith, are you a stay-at-home mom? Two young children can really put a strain on anyone, and if your husband isn't being supportive, then it can be unbearable. Maybe all you really need to do is open up to him and communicate what you're feeling.

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Faith
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posted December 16, 2001 08:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks randall,
yes i am a stay at home but also work the nights my husband is off. I know how much it can overwhelm, however my husband and i dont make love anymore and im only 29years old. I did however tell him we needed counseling and he hugged me and told me i was being premenstral? So then i sat down and wrote him a letter telling him i was just done, and that i felt like a single parent. Since the letter he has helped a bit, but i guess ive almost already made my mind up that im not happy and that i need to feel like im important, sexy, special to him. For a month now i have been working out and not eating much. I have told my mom that there is a problem, sort of a heads up! I know or i think i owe it to my children and my hubby to try and make things work out, however i truley believe im dying inside a little piece at a time everyday. Hanging in and hanging on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ps my part time job is in Dialysis(working with the sick) so i know something is going to give very very soon. I have to much going out and very little coming in. I really am thankful for everyones responses.

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chronicprincess
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posted December 16, 2001 02:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for chronicprincess     Edit/Delete Message
Dearest Faith~ In reading your last couple of posts it's made me wonder just *when* your husband and you would ever have *alone* time together

I swear, you sound just like me some years ago, I too am married to a man (Cancer) with OCS (Only Child Syndrom) and it's symptoms have made it very hard for both of us in this relationship of TWO ... This Sag you spoke of has awakened your sexuality which never should have gone to sleep - but the demands our lifestyles and our society which we allow to be put upon us can suck the Love and Life right out of the most perfectly in-love couples anywhere.

I'd be willing to bet that you would welcome the attentions you are getting from Mr. Sag(who likes married women) from your husband instead - but the sad truth is Men don't understand that thier stay-at-home-with-his-kids Wife doesn't get the same nurturing of their self-esteem, or rewards Men get from their own out-of-the-house work place. Our children do not get up and hi-five us with a "Good job, Mom!" when we've managed to finally potty train them!

As far as counseling goes, just make the appointment and tell him you are going with or without him, but that you'd rather he were there to offer his input, insight and opinions

My favorite advice to newlyweds is to never ever stop courting and/or being courted ... That behaviour was a part of the original package one fell in love with - but seems to *vanish* the minute we arrive home from the honeymoon! This is how couples percieve their partners to have *changed* ... they haven't changed at all - it's just their *real self* in the comfort of *thinking* they no longer have to make the other feel special, loved, respected, appreciated... You two need to get a babysitter, and start making YOU TWO the priority before *anything* - even the children, for how happy will they be if Mom and Dad aren't? As religiously as one would slot the time for their *job* so should they slot time for THEM!

Ok.. I'll stop ranting now

But Faith, feel free to vent here, or you can email me if you wish... my heart goes out to you

~Princess

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~We can try many ways to get rid of the darkness, but none is as effective as simply increasing the light.~ UnkNown

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Faith
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posted December 16, 2001 09:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Chronicprincess youve given me a voice i really needed to hear. Im currently very very sick meaning im so down i cant see straight!!!!! Im crying in the car im crying in the bathroom, im really the saddest ive ever been in my life!!!!!! I like to think im a good person, ive always helped everyone and anyone. I have always put everyone before myself its my nature!!!! However i feel if i dont start letting myself have some happiness im going to just fade away. This is really all i can do to talk right now because i dont want to dissapoint all of my people(family and friends) im suppose to be the rock. How does one change from being the rock to the one that really really needs help!!!! Thank you so much for your time given thinking and writing about this.
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Morning Storm
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posted December 21, 2001 11:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Morning Storm     Edit/Delete Message
Faith,

I lOOked at the transits to find out what was going on and Neptune has been squaring your Venus. Neptune is draining and will wear you out. When it squares your Venus, it can cause disappointment and tension with your relationships. You may not see them clearly or for what they really are--and you will probably see them worse than they are since Neptune is so draining. Given what you have said, this is probably what has been happening. The good news is it's starting to ease up and will give you some breathing time, soon. Uranus was also squaring your Mars stirring you into action. That's a tough hit, especially with relationships. It's just now easing up, too. The other difficult transit you're dealing with is Saturn in your 7th. It will tear your relationships down unless you have a strong foundation. You really learn who your friends are during this transit. All other relationships will fall by the waste side. The good thing about Saturn in the 7th, is it allows you to build a strong foundation with your relationships. If you want to work things out with your husband and go forward, this is the perfect opportunity. All your problems can be brought out and sorted, so you have a rock solid base to go forward, together. It won't be an easy road, but if you Love him, it will be worth it. Just remember the way you two communicate is very different and you have a few aspects that show you lock horns and have emotional disputes. He also hides his true feelings, and that can't be easy for you. Be nice to each other and remember it's okay to be different.

BTW, This week is a really great week for you to express your true feelings!!

Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year with your family.

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somehow, never again needing to speak
the eyes-into-eyes, like burning embers, were enough
we did not again need words
......Linda Goodman in Gooberz

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Faith
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posted December 23, 2001 09:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you very very much. Well just an update as to where i am, on the 21st of December i finally just gathered my strength and had written him a 3 page letter(as i communicate more freely on paper) and gave it to him. He cryed and we talked a little but the kids were both up so it was put on the back burner. Later that night we sat in the livingroom and let it go. I told him i am just not in love with him and that i wasnt sure if i ever had been, i told him i would always care about him and as far as the boys are concerned we will always work together and come together for them. Ive got to tell you he really shocked me with his response, he actually said that he respected my feelings and that he had always felt that we had married in haste. We have been getting on very very well ever since THE TALK, we have even gone to a couple of the family gatherings and had a really good time. So i guess im not sure how everything will go in the long run but i can go on living right now with out the thousand pound weight on my back. I would like to thank everyone who in my time of serious sickness took time to comment or contact me via e-mail. It really really helped me keep a straight head which is difficult for this dreamer. Chronicprincess thanks a ton as it was nice to have someone really relate to my situation. I would also like to say that that was the single most difficult mountain i have climbed to date in my life and as for you 2002 bring it on baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
FEAR, HA I LAUGH IN THE FACE OF FEAR!!!!!!!

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to everyone, be safe out there!!!!!!!

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Morning Storm
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posted January 02, 2002 01:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Morning Storm     Edit/Delete Message
That sounds great, Faith. I hope you're still feeling stronger. The transits should be lifted from you, by now, so you can make some good decisions with a clear head. I'm back from vacation and will be available quite a bit the next week if you need anymore help.

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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
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