posted March 31, 2008 07:01 PM
here is a 'conflict in friendship' spread from http://www.illuminationtarot.com/spreads_friend.php - if it ok with you - i've substituted the word friendship for roommate.Card One: What is the conflict?
study, ability to learn
Card Two: How the querent perceives the conflict.
creativity, original thinking, definition of an order
Card Three: How the querent's friend perceives the conflict, if at all.
lack of self-control, lack of feeling, little to no sense of responsibility
Card Four: How does the querent feel about the friendship?
leaving
Card Five: What does the querent give to the friendship?
sadness, melancholy
Card Six: What does the querent take from the friendship?
colloboration, fair distribution, charity
Card Seven: How does the friend feel about the friendship?
falseness, instability, flight from reality
Card Eight: What does the friend give to the friendship?
hostess or lack thereof
Card Nine: What does the friend take from the friendship?
wisdom
Cards Ten and Eleven show how the past influences the feelings of each person.
Card Ten: Past influences or unresolved issues; for the querent.
charm, magnetism, friend, companion of adventure, dignity
Card Eleven: Past influences or unresolved issues; for the friend.
growth, sacrafice, maturity, concreteness
Cards Twelve and Thirteen show the attitude or behavior that needs to change ...
Card Twelve: Querent's attitudes and behavior that need to change.
security, ease, prudence
Card Thirteen: Friend's attitudes and behavior that need to change.
lack of skill and commitment, dexterity
Card Fourteen: How can this conflict be resolved? How can the two friends come together?
rival, obstacle, victory, success, honors
Card Fifteen: What is the future of the friendship? This card will show the overall potential for the friendship. It is important to pay attention to this card, because it will show the essential strength of the friendship.
agreement, harmony, peace
*clarity card*
making a commitment somehow someway whether it be to clearing this situation up with your roommate, committing yourself to moving out, committing yourself to moving them out - in either case, whatever you choose to do, stick with it - don't say one day you are going to move out and then worry the next day on how they are acting and how they can change so you both could live in peace. talk it out with your roommate and above all else - try to enjoy yourself. don't make what you are feeling now the root of your future. sometimes, people come into our lives to teach us a little bit and/or expose a little bit of ourselves to us. there was a meaning behind your meeting and living with one another - maybe one is supposed to be the "clear-headed" one and the other isn't so that you both could be a model for the other one to learn something about themsleves and their potential, from.
Lindaland
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posted March 29, 2008 07:49 AM
