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ronitpf
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From: panjim
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted April 26, 2008 02:42 PM
 
Hi,
I need some help for my cousin..She has recently been divorced after marriage which lasted only app. a year...
she is very depressed and need some inclination to live..
Please shed some light on the future if someone can
Her marriage ended due to her fears...
she has a phobia of someperson travelling long distance which she had since young age but she did not realise till she saw her ex driving long hours in high traffic 12-13 hours 6 days a week
She was so scared that she used to feel paarnoid..and she got very hyper and angry....
Her husband could not take it and felt that she may do something to herself..So he divorced herNow things are at a standstill..
Please help
DOB..15th march 1971..
TOB...03.45 am approximately
POB..Bombay,India
Thanks
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Quinnie
Knowflake Posts: 1082
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Registered: Jul 2002
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posted April 27, 2008 03:48 PM
Hi ronitpf Hope your cousin is dealing with everything ok.
Her progressed Venus and Pluto are in opposition suggesting she will find it extremely difficult to let go off her ex husband and that psychological couselling may help address issues relating to her relationship and past.It is time for upheaval in her relationships but also her values, attractiveness, affectionate nature, attraction etc.
Saturn in the 4th house suggests a childhood with struggle financially and emotionally, this is backed up by Sun in the 2nd house which also sheds light into her feelings of worth and value. In the natal chart her sense of self and worth is being opposed by the dominant forces of Pluto suggesting possible abuse or problems in the areas of intimacy, self sufficiency and finances (hers and others).
Uranus is at 21 degrees and moving closer to her natal Sun when this happens there will be a reawakening. An opportunity to deal with demons and issues once and for all. She needs to acquire stronger self confidence and worth and this transit will spark off a rebelliousnes that should give her a change in attitude to finally do this.IP: Logged |
ronitpf
Knowflake Posts: 16
From: panjim
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted May 14, 2008 06:26 AM
thanks a lot for the reading..she is taking counselling but her health is not keeping too good..she has lost the initiative to live..
Will she ever remarry??? She is so scared that i am afraid for her
thanks
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Quinnie
Knowflake Posts: 1082
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posted May 17, 2008 03:19 PM
Her 7th house ruler of marriage is in the ninth house suggesting two marriages.Pluto is on her Mars right now, not the best time to be attracting a mate as it could bring a relationship with will and control issues and potential for violence.
She needs to sit tight and allow the energies to work. Pluto operates at a subconscious level (Pluto also rules her 10th MC) so finding a career or place for herself socially and in the community will help her regain her spirit. After 6 months from now her progressed Moon and ascendant will be comjunct giving her a new persona and perhaps a new opportunity at love. In any case it will be good for her to find herself, as individual, to work and be self sufficient. She needs to understand her desires, needs and wants and to recognise that they have a value and to allow herself these valuable things and to be strong alone before she can find love again whihc I have no doubt that she will. IP: Logged |
ronitpf
Knowflake Posts: 16
From: panjim
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted May 21, 2008 06:04 AM
thanks a lot
She is a person who was very much into voluntary work and had been since many years..she used to teach as a part of her voluntary work and also was into voluntary work in many institutions..can she carry forward that work or she needs to get to paid work..she is not specially qualified in any department as she was also handling her parents business on daily basis..but she is finding hersel;f lost there as her brothers have taken the initiative there and they have good headsrrong wives too hot for her to handle anyways even earlier..she is a timid soul who cannot think beyond her parents and her sister and if she gets into all this again..i am afraid that she will become very very over occupied and involved so much so that she may not even have time for herself as was the case before her marriage..please guide as to which path will be right for her
thanks
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Quinnie
Knowflake Posts: 1082
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posted May 21, 2008 03:30 PM
Is she in a position to leave the family business and concentrate on her voluntary work.
Venus in Aquarius 1st house in her natal chart suggests he would be a very genuine humanitarian. Pluto in the 1oth house suggests that she would need to really believe in what she was doing as a career to feel fulfilled.
Their also is a need in her to create changes and help others. She has a very kind heart AND... Pluto in the 8th suggests she is strong underneath it all. She can find the psychological strength to get through this.
If she can get a qualification in the work that she does voluntary she could do this full time.
Psychology might appeal. She is a very concerned person and she could be a real go-getter for fund raising with her mars in the 11th house.
Her north node is in the 1st house. It is her destiny to come through this and become strong as an individual. But she will find love again.
The key is for her to concentrate on herself and the work that she wants to do.IP: Logged |
Quinnie
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posted May 21, 2008 03:30 PM
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ronitpf
Knowflake Posts: 16
From: panjim
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted May 22, 2008 07:37 AM
studying her for some days and spending time with her these days made me realise one thing very much.
she is scared and very apprehensive about her sister in laws ..she keeps saying all the time that her life has been trodden over by a bulldozer...she used to be so busy that she even did not think of having her eyebrows done..she felt that if she did not do the amount of work she did for the house, somehow her sister in law will kick her out..her sister in law somehow rules the house..even shabnam's mother is on her side and her brother is completely hen pecked...now she is doubly apprehensive and so very unsure of what step to take... thanks for your guidance..
she can if she wishes go back to doing what she was doing as else her sister in law has made her husband against the younger brother and his sweet wife so much that even if they go for a dinner or a movie neglecting the business, she claims that she wants to seperate so my cousin is so very scared and not sure what is in store for her... if you can analyse why her marriage broke up??? if she can have some concrete answers and be made to understand that all was not her fault..she may be better placed.. please if you can analyse these birthdates which are i m fearful reason for her being in this position... ex husband
Name initials
M M S
male
dob...29th july, 1968 at 12.56 pm at mumbai sister in law
name initials before marriage..HSR
name initials after marriage...HFL
dob...8th january,1977 at 3.13 am at mumbai i will be eternally grateful thank you so much..
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Quinnie
Knowflake Posts: 1082
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posted May 22, 2008 06:37 PM
Ronitpf I can look at the charts to see astrological patterns and speculate but I can in no way confirm what caused the breakup of your cousin's marriage.
I am a novice astrologer only so please speak up about anything that you feel is wrong in what I have written.
I wish her the best of luck knowing that I cannot fully appreciate the situation considering any cultural differences between India and Uk regarding marriage and relationships. IN my own life I would feel the need to be independant of a man and in control of my destiny so although a break up would be devastating for me I would pick myself up and start over KNOWING there will be another relationship and that I wil be fine and better off without him. I get the general feeling that underlying the breakup is your cousin's self worth and self respect. She seems indeed to be an extremeley sweet and beautiful person who has attracted a man with an extremely strong maternal influence and used to being perhaps dominated by the women in his family.
This would be the opposite of what your cousin is. Her chart suggests that she lives for her relationships, to give love and also generously gives her man space and time. She is slow to trust in relationships and really would prefer a man who can provide utmost security to her emotional and physical... This I feel is something that she will need to work on to be able to provide this to herself, to be self sufficient and strong in herself. By this I do not mean strong in personality and dominance, what I mean is strong in her boundaries, knowing who she is, what she needs and not accepting any less. I understand there may be cultural or class differences between your cousin and her husband.
Her Venus is Opposing his Venus... But right on this aspect and in her 7th house of partnerships is her ex's Sun and Venus ... This opposing her North node suggesting her ex to be an influence holding her back from her future....
Adding to this is her sister in law's exact conjunction of Moon/Saturn right on their opposition. The sister in law is a BIG factor, she restricts and controls her brother and his relationship (at least thAT is how your cousin's chart tells it). HFL is a very strong woman and a central figure in her family. She has a strong bond with her brother but it is controlling.
I would say that MMS trusts his sister and is used to taking her advice as she seems almost like a mother figure to him.... But HFL may use this trust to manipulate her brother.
This in the sign of Leo opposing your cousin's 1st house Venus suggesting that the sister in law did not approve of your cousin and has posssibly made restrictions on their marriage. Your cousin's ex is either so under the influence of his family or in need of becoming stronger as a man in his own identity and choices that he has in effect chosen the family, reputation, status and ambition over his marriage. This I believe he will come to regret. At the moment he is acting indifferently to his ex and if she wishes to have future contact she needs to give him time to think but also for her to regain confidence, to not give in to his demands and see their marriage in it's true light.
It was not her fault. He was very attracted to her and loved her but the strength of his family values, ideals and ambitions, their need to be the best and strongest were too much for him to contend with. He has given in to the family demands.
He is protected by his family, overly so. IP: Logged |
ronitpf
Knowflake Posts: 16
From: panjim
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted May 25, 2008 06:31 AM
thanks a lot..i really appreciate it so much..the fact is all what you are writing is somehow so true where my cousin is concerned
HOWEVER ONE THING I WOULD LIKE TO MENTION...THE SISTER IN LAW IS HER BROTHER'S WIFE AND NOT HER EX HUSBANDS RELATIVE..so if anything changes..please tell me and u are right he is influenced to a very big extent by his cousin sister from the maternal side who is elder to him by 12 years..so much so my cousin was adamant in believing that he has a relationship with her..she used to tell him that that is is 1st house and she a 2nd priority..in fact she is so smart by she is so insecure that from what she says she became very isolated there and ultimately alone there.. will the ex try and keep contact with her????????
she wishes so but that i cannot give her any guarantee about...
also will he ever marry again..that too is a question she keeps asking me..i tell her i will ask the forum and see what reply i am getting..
please guide thanks once again for being so patient with her case
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Quinnie
Knowflake Posts: 1082
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posted May 31, 2008 06:55 PM
Within 6 months her progressed moon will shed new light on her relationship. Tell her to allow for healing to begin, to feel herself changing. tell her something special and amazing is happening to her within and to trust it. There will be an opportunity to re-establish ties in 6 months or to find another opportunity with someone else.
Tell her not to lose faith but also to let go and allow herself to heal. There is much transformation at hand.IP: Logged |
ronitpf
Knowflake Posts: 16
From: panjim
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted June 09, 2008 04:33 AM
hi,
Thank you so much for your patience..and great guidance..
I was a little unwell so i could not reply sooner..
I have shown all your guidances to my cousin..
She is a little better..somehow i have a feeling that she is not telling me all..
One day she decided that given an opportunity she wants to go and study further in London..it will be a 2 year course and she will be staying alone..somehow i feel she is not up to it..she does not come outside her house at all..she has to be forced to do it..she has gone completely in her shell..do not know how can i get her out..have tried everything..also she wants to go and do some course here as well so that she can go out and work..but these are talks she has with me.. one day one thing and another day another..she was a very confident person who has become so insecure and undecided that i will need some guidance as to where should i help her take the step forward..
London or here????????? she desperately needs a miracle in her life..
please help???????? Do u see her going to London in her charts??????
will she ever trust anyone again????????? thanks a lot
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