posted June 04, 2008 08:40 AM         

Here's the synastry:

And the composite:

posted June 06, 2008 08:11 PM         

Only you can decide if it's worth your time. How long have you been waiting for this person? How long are you willing to wait? Are you willing to put yourself out there and say, "Hey, Mister! Wake up. What's taking you so long?"

And once in a while, some guys are so oblivious to whats happening you may literally have to...I can't believe I'm about to say this...but some guys don't get it until you lift up your skirt and yell, "YOOOO HOOOO!!!"

There may also be some aggressive communication issues between you. Do you say shocking things to him? I think your communication style may rub him the wrong way, it might be to aggressive for him.

Your Saturn also squares his Moon which may leave him feeling cold, literally. There's something stern or authoritative in your relating to him that's very heavy to his emotions.

Once again, it's up to you to decide if it's worth your time. He really may not rise to the occasion. There's also power struggle energy between you. You feel a bond with him and I want to say that it's mildly sexual but there's no BIG CHEMISTRY in terms of Pluto to Venus. None of your planets activates his Venus at all.

OK, I'm finished, maybe it's not worth it. The bond looks strong but kind of depressing. It looks work oriented.

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posted June 07, 2008 02:49 PM         

It's funny you say that about my aggressive speaking may rub him the wrong way. I feel totally the opposite. He has a very easy trigger when it comes to temper. Not violent or anything, but he has a tendency to snap at people a bit when he's trying to convey his feelings on an issue. I'm totally the opposite. I'm very objective and diplomatic. He eventually gets there, but his instant verbal reaction is usually a bit fire-fueled. Leo influence?

In terms of dealing with me though, he's very good at pulling me out of my stony silence. I do get hurt fairly easily, or dissapointed, and keep it all inside. I have a hard time expressing my emotions to the person I am involved with. He doesn't let me get away with it, and I appreciate it immensely.

I'm the kind of person that is stressed and firey at work, but very relaxed at home. I don't take it with me, you know? He takes work very seriously, and often talks about it when we are having "down time". We have totally different careers. His is very physical, mine is very mental. But he is probably the most caring person I know. He goes out of his way and then some for the people he cares about. I'm the same way. It's a nice thing to have in common, because there are no real jealousy issues. We had a bit of trouble a few months back, but having such open communication, we were able to get past it.

We have been seeing each other for about 8 months, and it has just gotten serious. I'm totally fine with it, but we do kind of have a Venus-Mars rubber band thing going on. I pull away, he springs back, and vice versa. I'm sure you can tell by my chart that I need challenge and adventure, or I will get bored and flutter away...

I think I'm just feeling pressure from people around me. Everyone I know is getting married or having kids, and I'm sorta just floating in a happy and drama-free relationship... I guess I just dont' know where it's going.. which maybe I should just relax about? Go with the flow? His friends all tell me how great we are together and how happy I make him.. I think I'm just doing the thing I do when I might actually have something good... looking for reasons to run...

posted June 07, 2008 02:53 PM         

... but it did take some getting comfortable with each other first.

posted June 07, 2008 05:48 PM         

In that case, have you discussed it with him? In relationship you are allowed to put your own needs out there. Since you knkow that he's happy with you, why don't you ask him what his intentions are. Tell him you are ready to make some plans to advance your relationship. What does your future look like to you? If he is a part of that vision, let him know.

Also, you and another client of mine just taught me that sometimes roles can be reversed with certain astrological aspects. You have Mercury-Mars conjunction which usually suggests a person who communicates aggressively and because it's in Aquarius it can have eccentric and shocking overtones to it, that's why I assumed that you were the one with the temper. Your Mars opposes his Mercury and that's usually not such a comfortable communication aspect, but it adds to the mental interest and perhaps you Mars touches off his Mercury. Anyway, it's great for discussion, debate and arguing as well. I understand that arguing can be an art form when it's with the right people, so it's not something to worry about. We'll just call you "The Loud Family".

I wouldn't make too much of the suggestion of "depression". It's just one of the ways that Saturn can manifest itself, but it seems to be expressing itself much differently in your relationship, so not to worry.

His Mars opposes your Venus and from what you've mentioned, that's definitely enough chemistry to hold you over. Just to repeat, there is strong bond energy between you both so I wouldn't be surprised if you do decide to solidify things further by getting married, but you may have to strike the match since you say that he's a slow mover.

Good luck and I'm glad to hear that it really is a relationship.

Geocosmic Valentine