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Snow_Dream
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posted August 29, 2008 10:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
I'm just learning Astrology. I have Solar Writer and it tells your planets positions and the interpretations, but it doesn't tie everything together giving the big picture-is this overall good or bad synastry? So I was hoping someone who is knowledgeable can tell me one way or the other, are the placements positive or negative for a long term relationship?



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Snow_Dream
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posted September 05, 2008 01:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Pretty please with sugar on top?

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snohawk1
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posted September 08, 2008 05:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for snohawk1     Edit/Delete Message
indeed, I'm also sick of aspect interpretations without the insight of for example which signs they are in instead of just square, or depositors common sense analytic interchange and such.
soooooo, which is you? is this about possible lovelife or a troubled current one, or friends, or parent, pets, or what?

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Moon: Libra
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Snow_Dream
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posted September 09, 2008 02:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Snohawk,

It's someone who I am in love with, but true to his Libra/Sun AND Moon, he is wavering on a commitment.

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deuxantares
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posted September 09, 2008 06:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Snow, how long have you been together? Did you start out as friends? The individual charts are too small, i can't see the info clearly. Can you re-post bigger images?

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Snow_Dream
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posted September 09, 2008 12:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Sorry about the size, and thanks for your help deuxantares. Yes, we started as friends, and I am in just so in love with him, he loves me, but isn't sure what direction if any that we should go.

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posted September 12, 2008 05:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for plutoprincess     Edit/Delete Message
I like your synastry chart!! It has a lovely trine in it and wonderful house placements (many planets in each other's 5th h.)
go for it if that's what your heart says !!!
Best wishes !!

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deuxantares
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posted September 12, 2008 09:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
Snow, sorry for not coming back soon. Actually, your thread earlier caught my attention because your guy has the same placements as my guy, though they were born 3 years apart. I have not had the energy yet to look into your situation because i'm having problems with my guy and i just don't want to think about Librans right now. LOL. Btw, i'm also a Scorp Sun, Gem Asc.

How long have you been together?

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Snow_Dream
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posted September 12, 2008 02:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Hi deuxantres,

We've known each other for about 9 months now. I have such a deep love for him, and I knew it almost from the start, as crazy as that may seem. He however, is waffling just like a Libra, he can't make up his mind. It seems that he cannot identify with my passion and intensity, and how all of my emotions are from the heart because he analyzes everything and tends to love from his brain. Is this the way your partner is? It is so frustrating. On the up side, we seem to have an almost psychic vibe often saying what the other was thinking etc. I saw on an earlier thread somewhere that we have the same Sun Sign and Ascendant, that's pretty cool. Does your partner have an October 5 birthday too?

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deuxantares
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posted September 12, 2008 04:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
Sis, don't expect him to understand your depth, it's impossible. LOL. Only another Scorpio can do that. His Cancer Asc, Pisces MC and
Scorpio Uranus may support his efforts to identify with you, but it cannot be 100%. So to get one problem out of the way, accept this fact and everything else will follow.

You are right about the waffling thing, but you have to get used to this part of him. He processes everything, even emotions, thru his brain. So your best bet is to reach him thru a mental connection. Another reason why he vacillates, is because subconsciously Libra is afraid someone better might come along, the grass might be greener somewhere else. His Saturn may also be contributory factor, as it sits in the 1st house making him fearful and cautious, always looking at the dark side. You have to make him realize that you are the one for him, some Scorpio tactics might work. LOL. He cannot be pushed, pulled or pressured. Ultimatums won't work. He has to feel that he is the one making his decisions, at his own pace.

I noticed his Venus is a singleton. It's the only earth planet in his chart. If you have not researched singletons yet, i suggest you do so. (EDITED)

Your Mars is also a singleton. It's the only fire planet in your chart. (EDITED)

His Mars is in his 12th house, giving him the tendency to hide his anger or aggression. (My guy's Mars and Pluto are in the 12th, he rarely gets mad but when he does he explodes).

How does your Scorpio Mercury match up with his Libra Mercury? Do you have lots of verbal arguments? What are your fights like? Though his Libran nature seeks perpetual harmony sometimes you cannot prevent being at odds on certain subjects.

That's all for now. I will write more later.

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Snow_Dream
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posted September 12, 2008 05:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Hi deux I can't thank you enough for your help on this. I agree with everything that you said about the way his mind works. And yes, I'm starting to see some of the benefits of using some Scorpio tactics. I only have the most basic of understanding as far as Astrology goes, and I've never heard of singletons, but the word reminds me so much of my late father who I adored, he always said not too bright people were "simpletons." I hope it's not a similar logic. How are things going between you and your Libra? Better I do hope. Are the two of you as far apart in chronological age as we are? Oh, to answer your question about how we fight, we've not yet had one, I think we're afraid to, because we don't want to scare each other away, but when we disagree, he says one thing and insists that he's right, I say another thing and I think that I am right, and then we both just get quiet. We started as friends so we're still tiptoeing around each other, feeling the waters, I'm ready to dive in, but he still only wants his toes wet. I can't thank you enough, so thanks again. Oh BTW, what about our double whammy of the Sun square Saturn? and I believe one of our Suns squares the others Venus.

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deuxantares
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posted September 14, 2008 05:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
Sorry for doing this on installment basis It's just that there's so many factors to consider in your individual and combined charts (plus my Gem Asc gets easily distracted ). I want to focus first on what each of you are bringing into the relationship, so we are looking at the natal charts first.

Jeremy's Venus in Virgo is also playing a part on why he is taking too slow in committing. You should know this, because just like him you also have Venus in Virgo, which means not jumping into relationships easily.

The major difference is that your Venus conjuncts your Pluto, which gives you the tendency to be more attached in a relationship (maybe even to the point of obsession). I have this placement too and it plays devil's advocate to my already psycho Scorpio Sun and Moon. By having this placement the Scorpion's desire to merge completely with the other person becomes more urgent and insistent.

Jeremy is protecting his vulnerability because of his past experiences and earlier relationships, probably in the family and the environment where he grew up in. He may have felt unloved during his childhood or other things may have turned him into an adult who is a bit cynical when it comes to relating, preferring to be alone. Though he is a Libra, his chart also shows a person that is introspective and at home with being alone.

Do you know the circumstances of his childhood/family?

Have you both been married before? Are there kids from previous relationships?

I would appreciate feedback.

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Snow_Dream
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posted September 14, 2008 11:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Hi again deuxantares,

I know what you mean about staying focused with having that Gemini Ascendant! It's really spooky how accurate everything that you have said so far is. Yes, Jeremy had a very bad childhood, both parents are drug addicts. The same with me, my father was alcoholic, mother is a drug addict. My childhood was more stable though. Yes, I have been married before-twice. The last one was a Sociopathic Aquarius. Jeremy was not married but in a long term relationship, and has three teenage sons. I have children too, but mine are all adults. Jeremy is not able to be with his boys right now, and that is part of the dilemma. He wants to be a good father to them so that they don't make the same mistakes that he has made. That is the biggest part of the reason why he has decided that he doesn't want to commit to me at this time. He thinks that being with me will take away from his children. I'm okay with that-I have to be, only a rotten person would argue with that, and while I do understand that, I also have reason to believe that he is still emotionally involved with and undecided about his boys' mother. What I don't appreciate is he wants us to "get together" every chance that we can, but he doesn't see himself committing to anyone for a very long time. So, I'm supposed to be comfortable with a noncommitted, part- time love type situation, and that's not working for me. I know what you mean about the Venus-Conjunct Pluto and getting attached, I fell too hard and too fast for Jeremy, and I'm still trying to figure out how and why. Again, I thank you oh so very much for your help, and I'm glad you're helping in installments, if it's easier for you, and so I can take it all in.

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deuxantares
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posted September 17, 2008 07:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
You have been experiencing Pluto square Venus transit, which is usually associated with divorce/separations, the beginning of an intense, fated relationship or its emotionally-packed ending. It could also bring about a change in our attitude towards partnerships. Pluto urges us to tear down things that no longer work, for us to undergo transformation. New relationships at this time are very challenging, because our desire for love becomes especially strong that we sometimes get attached to the wrong partner just for the sake of being in a relationship. There may also be matters involving large sums of money. Transiting Pluto is also moving in harsh aspect to your moon, which means emotional distress or issues concerning mothers, women and emotional bonds. Pluto contacts are big and cannot be ignored. Transiting Neptune may be making you feel drained and unfocused in terms of energy. You may be seeking a singular source of answers to all of your questions. Transiting Saturn is also touching your Venus now, which brings issues about making or breaking commitments in relationships. This transit urges you to make a decision in a love relationship, which is undergoing challenges and being stripped to its bare bones to test whether it is built on solid foundation or not. This will help you look inside yourself to find out what matters to you and what you really want in a partner or a relationship. The planets mentioned are moving very slowly, so their effects can be felt over several months.

Being a Scorpio I know how difficult your situation is. We want all or nothing. Anything half-hearted or half-baked is not enough. On the other hand, we are also capable of standing by our man if we are sure that he is worth fighting for or waiting for. Him being a Libra, he seeks harmony and tries to make everybody happy (he wants to be fair to you, to the kids, to the ex-partner etc), which is not always possible. Sometimes in trying to keep the peace he ends up all the more being the bad guy, which is something that he is trying to avoid.

Next time, my thoughts on your synastry etc. Btw, does the mother of his kids know that you are dating?

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Snow_Dream
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posted September 17, 2008 06:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
What you are saying about the current positions/transits is so right on. I am even dealing with issues concerning my mother at this time. Large sums of money-I wish, LOL. As far as whether or not the boys' mother knows about me/us, honestly I don't know if he has said anything or not. I'm leaning towards not. Anyway, he has told me that she is not want to let go, but that he is not going back to her ever because of things that happened in the past. He says "she just refuses to move on." I also want to say that if I knew that he was being completely honest, I would be willing to wait for forever, but it just doesn't make complete sense to me, unless it's because he undecided about the relationship with the mother.
I can tell you that her birthdate is Aug. 10, 1977 Cleveland, Ohio, don't know the birth time. Again thanks for all of your help, it is much appreciated.

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deuxantares
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posted September 20, 2008 01:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
ooops will post later

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deuxantares
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posted September 24, 2008 04:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
Jupiter, the ruler of your 7th House, is in tight conjunction with his South Node that falls in your 12th House (a karmic house), signifying a feeling of familiarity between you stemming from shared past life.

Your Suns fall in each other's 5th House. Your relationship has the potential to fulfill his need for security and safety provided by the home/hearth, encourage you to express yourself more, while at the same time granting the two of you an arena to discover the child within and enjoy the lighter side of life. This is also boosted by the conjunction of your Venus to his IC (his roots, his grounding), a powerful indicator of a strong attraction.

Both of your Jupiters fall in each other's 11th House, which means that you both appreciate the friendship part of your relationship. You truly enjoy being together; however, you have to guard against potential excesses in your indulgence in adventure and good times.

Saturn, the ruler of his 7th House, squares your Sun and Mercury. This reflects the restriction and limitations imposed on the relationship by previous relationships. In the long run, it could also pose problems if he falls into Saturn's tendency to be critical to you. There might be problems in communication if he will fall into the habit of interrupting you when you are trying to express your thoughts. Saturn, the planet of karma and restriction, is not always a bad guy. If handled well, this could help both of you to evolve and mature.

Your Saturn is opposing his Venus, usually signifying distance. Do you live far from each other? Do you have obligations that sometimes prevent you from getting together? Is there some sort of emotional distance which comes from fear of any kind?

Will add more later. How are things between you?

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posted September 25, 2008 09:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Hello again Deux. Yes, there is a or will be a distance between us. His actually lives in another state but has been here for an extended period for business purposes. Things are pretty much the same between us. I take it that the planetary positions that signify distance probably mean it will be permanent and we will always have some type of distance between us?
How are things with your Libra? I read your post about the letter. I've been meaning to ask Jeremy what his opinion is being that there couldn't possibly be anyone more Libra than he. I can say that from an experience I had with Jeremy I wrote an apology letter to him, and he instantly forgave me. At that time and in that particular situation I made a complete idiot out of myself due to a misunderstanding on my part. He said, "you asked me to forgive you so here I am", and he also said he knew that I wasn't seeing things clearly. What annoys me is when I ask questions like through an email or letter, and he doesn't answer them. Some are pretty easy to answer too, like chocolate or vanilla. His mind just works overtime, and he's thinking about so many things at once all of the time that the simpliest things get pushed out. He seems to always be concerned about making me angry. Like if he has something to say that he thinks will pi$$ me off, he will wait until whatever he has said settles (his word) with me, and then he will talk to me. Maybe your guy just doesn't want to mention your letter because he thinks it will open the wound up? Anyway, I will ask Jeremy his opinion and let you know. Thanks again for your help with our synastry and natal charts, very accurate and enlightening!!

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posted September 25, 2008 12:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
Regarding the communication thing, you have very different approaches because of different Mercuries (plus gender differences). Scorpios like to focus and are by nature nosey, I meant born detectives. I am not sure if you are like me, I try to answer all questions in an email and get frustrated too when the other person selects only the questions that they want to answer. And if there's a potential misunderstanding that their answer will cause, they will avoid it to preserve harmony. It's also possible that they have not decided yet on what to answer. Libra! (Yes they have lots of things in their head. )

When you are already together (physical distance not an issue anymore), the "distance" could manifest in the form of fear, fear that one of the partners might withdraw affection. So if that happens, you should acknowledge it but not give it energy because it is an irrational fear. Maybe by that time you will have already accustomed yourself to his Libraness.

Jeremy's desire to be there for his kids is a good thing. So the distance problem between you should be given solution. Would you be willing to relocate to his place?

Forgive my Scorpion nosyness, I have a question. How are things in the physical intimacy department? You have Venus-Mars conjunction and squares, which could translate to ultra amazing sex.

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posted September 25, 2008 12:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
I also did a booboo some time ago, it was my fault so I apologized eventually (after a short period of no communication), which he accepted readily.

Regarding my letter issue, well I just chalked it up to differences. BACK STORY: I had been doing some networking to help him out in his business. Then I just found out he accepted a project (short-term) somewhere else. I got pi$$ed because the things I had been lining up for him were time-sensitive projects and the clients could not be made to wait. Well, karma is on my side, because now he told me that his project fell thru. . In revenge, I told him I already ditched the projects I was preparing for him... Truth is I could easily find him other things to do but I wanted an apology first. I wanted him to learn his lesson. I was hurt because it felt like what I was doing had no value at all.

I have changed my mind and don't need an apology anymore. I realized that I also contributed to the problem by not following up things with him. I didn't exactly give him a definite picture of the projects, so I guess he assumed that they could wait. Oh well...

We are ok now. But I'm not sure anymore if I still want to pursue this thing between us. Let's see what will happen when the Mercury retro is over.

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posted September 26, 2008 09:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Deux

To answer that "nosey" question first, YES it is HOT, and I do mean HOT! Molten lava comes to mind, a powder keg of dynamite too!
If I ever had another lover before him, I don't remember? He knows just what to do and when to do it, and we just instinctively know what the other wants. I can never get enough of him. In my estimation, that's another reason to hold on to him. Would I be willing to relocate? At this point I would. The only thing that makes me hesitant is the same reason that he has, my family-my children are here so that would be difficult but not impossible.
As for your situation, I'm happy that he forgave you. I like your Scorpio vengeance, a dish served cold. How does Mercury retrograde affect a relationship? I say if it's hot, ride the wave!
I love how you said you are nosey, I tell Jeremy that I'm nosey all of the time, I call myself, "nosetta." I also tell him that I am a natural born detective, LOL.
Thank you again and oh so much for your help, I'm taking your interpretations in, making mental notes, I think it's all of tremendous help in my understanding of him and how to further develop the relationship.


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posted December 08, 2008 02:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message
Bumping in hopes that deuxantares will return.

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posted December 08, 2008 02:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snow_Dream     Edit/Delete Message

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posted December 09, 2008 01:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
I'm working on it.
Will reply to your email within the day.

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