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amowls
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posted September 17, 2008 06:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls     Edit/Delete Message
My boyfriend and I argue CONSTANTLY. The problem is we are the exact same (mentally), except we hold the EXACT opposite opinions on just about everything. How can we stop this?

Synastry chart:


I'm on top, he's on the side.

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deuxantares
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posted September 18, 2008 01:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
I don't know why i can't see the charts. Must have expired or something?

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amowls
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posted September 18, 2008 05:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls     Edit/Delete Message
Hmmm... I can see them. They're on Flickr so they couldn't have expired.

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deuxantares
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posted September 19, 2008 03:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
Oh, Flickr can't be accessed from where I am. Government filter, you know. Bummer.

Astrology aside, I think it will help if you come to an agreement: that your relationship is bigger than your differences. Both of you admit that you hate it when your clashing views lead to an argument. Just because the other party presents a different POV does not mean they are attacking the other.

You don't need to convert each other. When you feel the need to counter the other's view, begin or end it with a disclaimer such as "I am not saying you're wrong. I am not saying I am right. But this is how I see it..."

I've had the same problem only with Capricorn men. Two stubborn heads clashing.

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Sun:Scorpio, Moon:Scorpio, Asc:Gemini

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amowls
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posted September 19, 2008 04:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls     Edit/Delete Message
We both have Mercury in Aquarius, his is in the 10th, mine is in the 9th. Mainly we argue about politics. We also have double whammy Suns square Mars... so of course that doesn't help.

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blue moon
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posted September 22, 2008 12:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message
Avoid talking about politics? Both of you want to prove you are right, it will never end.

I have some ugly argumentative synastry:

My Mars is CNJ his Sun.
My Aqua Mars is Opposite his Leo Mars.
His Pluto is exactly Square my Sun.

Subjects we avoid:

Politics
Religion
Spirituality
Whose mother is the most irritating

Arguments that surface at intervals:

Money (he's a spendthrift, I'm a tightwad)
Who pulls the most weight
Tidiness levels (I'm a slob, he's Virgo Rising)
Feeding the children vegetarian food


Funniest argument ever ~> he threatened to divorce me if I ever bought him vegetarian fish fingers again.

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amowls
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posted September 22, 2008 09:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls     Edit/Delete Message
Lol! Yeah mine gets pretty extreme too. And then he gets into arguments with my friends and gets mad at me when I don't back him up because I disagree with him.

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