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posted November 02, 2008 05:01 PM         

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Hi there!
I used to have a co-worker friend for the past 2 1/2 years. We became close two months ago and I swear that she had the hots for me. I'm a girl too. Being the persistent Scorpio that I am I couldn't let her go and kept pursuing the issue to talk to her. I texted her everyother day, which I know probably ****** her off. She never text me back so I was full of questions and wanted some answers. Anyways, she just text me back to leave her alone and to not text her anymore.

She's a Taurus, is there any way that she'll come back to be my friend again? I really miss her.

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posted November 06, 2008 12:14 AM         

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Aw. Tauruses are just as stubborn as Scorpios in their own way, they HATE to be pushed. If she asked you to leave her be, she means it. Respect her wishes and give her lots of space.

When you next see her IN PERSON, tell her you are very sorry if you made her uncomfortable and you would love to be friends in the future, but that you will give her the space she's asked for.

There are a lot of issues here that might have made the Taurus uncomfortable, given that she's a Taurus, especially having an attraction in a work situation. Now is a time to focus on making new friends too and let her have space.

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posted November 06, 2008 12:36 AM         

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I don't see her IN PERSON anymore. Which frightens me because I don't think that she'll talk to me again. Do you think that she'll come around and talk to me?

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posted November 06, 2008 12:42 AM         

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I have a boyfriend and she knows this. I recently told her (before she stopped talking to me) that I was going to leave him and move out. Yet, I never said that it was going to be for her. I'm afraid that she mistook my comment and thought that I meant I was moving out to be with her. Not sure. Help?

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posted November 06, 2008 11:20 AM         

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You need to let her know that you respect her wish to be left alone, but that you would love to be friends if she ever wants to again. The problem if you text or call to say that is that it's as if you're not respecting her request that you leave her alone. Do the two of you no longer work together?

If you never see her, I suggest sending a card--"Sorry if I made you uncomfortable. I'll respect your wish that I leave you alone, but I would love to be friends again and I hope you will contact me soon."--and then leaving her alone. With a Taurus, respecting her wishes and doing things her way, at her (incredibly slooowww) pace, is your only shot. If you don't have a snail-mail address for writing a letter, email will do, since it's less intrusive than text.

I'm sorry, but I think there's a chance this friendship might be over for good. When sexual feelings get in the way and there are mixed signals and/or people are not on the same page or not comfortable with their own feelings, that can really end a friendship. It's hard to go back to the way things were. There is very little that Tauruses like less than being pushed, or grilled about things they don't want to talk about. And when one tells you directly to leave her alone, you know you've gone too far.

I really hope it works out for you! Being very respectful of the Taurus's need for space, to have things her way, and to go at her speed is your best shot.

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posted November 06, 2008 09:37 PM         

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Do the two of you no longer work together?

Yes, we no longer work together, though she lives in the area where I work and she works about 5 minutes away. I work with her brother. He's pretty ****** himself and doesn't really talk to me either. He asked me, "Are you pregnant? (the last time I saw her she looked at my stomach gave me a sad/****** off look and clenched her fist)," He also asked me, "Did you leave your boyfriend?" I said no, I didn't. He gave me a ****** off look. Then he said, "Are you going to get married?" I said, no. She asked me this same question and I said, "no" she got ****** off and told me that I needed to get married.

I don't know, maybe I misunderstood her signals. She sat once next to me and was completely turned on. I could sense her animal attraction/sensuality towards me. I thought, "Geeezus, how long has it been since she's had sex?" It completely turned me on. She kept trying to sneak a peak at my cleavage which I felt was a bit intrusive because I had a boyfriend and I didn't feel that her and I had anything official. After this I kept trying to see her to "talk" to her and she kept denying the invitations and told me that I was being "demanding" with her and that she couldn't handle "demanding" people. I didn't think I was being demanding. She just ignored me and it really hurt me and ****** me off. I just wanted to talk to her and she didn't want to.

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posted November 06, 2008 09:41 PM         

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Her brother told me that the reason why she stopped texting me was because I was full of "drama."

I kept telling her about all of the issues that I had going on. Problems with my boyfriend, issues at work, and health issues/scares such a a prob. cancer scare. She stopped texting me after the cancer scare. I got sad, because I thought, "If she was my friend then she'd talk to me." I still don't understand why her brother is angry with me. He won't tell me.

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posted November 07, 2008 05:37 PM         

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Geeezus love! Which part of NO don't you understand?

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posted November 29, 2008 09:14 AM         

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Hey I am a taurus. The way to get a Taurus is act like you dont want her.Taurus have this thing they have to have what they cant get. Just be pleasant but even if she starts talking to you again never act overly enthralled with her.Also be kinda secrative. Scorpio love secrets. Good luck.

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posted November 29, 2008 01:52 PM         

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I agree with much of what everyone else said. But if your looking for a little something extra you can do....(scorpions usually are willing to use any trick in the book)..
you can plan it so the next time you speak to her that the planets are in your favor. It gives the best possible chance (I believe) for a receptive response from the other person. By receptive I mean willing to at least speak to you.
Just a thought.

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