posted February 03, 2009 03:37 PM
I can't tell too much without a birth time for him, but it looks like you might have some hook-y Venus conjunctions keeping you mutually sucked in. You've mentioned a lot about your bad patterns/romantic challenges, but I think a LOT of the problem here is this guy, in his own chart, more than in the synastry. Again, I'm not quite accurate w/o a birth time...don't know his rising sign...but:-It looks like he has a Pluto-Venus-Mars conjunction that would endow him with a lot of sexual power, especially the power of sexual persuasion, and...
-Also a Sun-Saturn conjunction with nothing much tempering it, no real other influences touching his Saturn/Sun...
So it's like he has all of this explosive stuff going on, and then the unhappy influence of a highly critical, Virgoan Sun-Saturn situation, making him potentially judgmental and unhappy, and tossing some earth over all of his air. His happiness would come from really being able to get to know his Cancer Jupiter, finding a way to nurture himself and others. But right now he seems troubled.
Your own super-Virgo situation, with a packed 6th house, makes you eager to serve someone in a daily way. Your Aries moon in the 12th gives you some emotional fire that interacts uncomfortably with that 12th house moon feeling of wanting to merge with the universe. Aries wants to assert the self above all things,. while the twefth house eclipses the self.
If the synastry posted is at all accurate, this guy's Mars-Venus-Pluto conjunction of power is sticking directly to your own tricky 6th house stellium. With Pluto and Saturn in there, a part of you would struggle extra hard with a pull to submit to this man.
I feel like much of what'ds going on with you is about your own 6th house Saturn-Pluto conjunction. You are sucked in to power relationships and have a need to devote yourself to them (possibly even to be submissive), and the Saturn whammy thwarts your own expression of personal power. Your Moon and Venus trine Neptune (plus that 12th house Moon), can allow you to have a deep, giving, spirituality and creativity, but it also alludes to addictive situations in your nurturing. It would account for why you might want to care for someone who is deceptive or addicted. And your already challenging 12th house Aries Moon is opposed to your Saturn-Pluto conjunction. It could make relationships feel very, very hard or even hurtful inside you, with a pull of too many contradictory obligations.
It might be a nice time to take a break from sexual/romantic relationships as you connect to your very, very deep and inspiring spiritual potential, and to your ability to truly help others through service. You would be a skilled counsellor and guide for women in abusive relationships and/or people suffering from addictions, and/or children (I'm looking at that 5th house Leo Venus too) who have had a tough time because of these situations.
You are probably alluring to men and it can make it hard for you to say no and take the space that you need. You need to find an arena OTHER than romance to fulfill your need to give service. Romance is not the right arena for your service or sacrifice.
Hope this helps and does not sound too negative. You are a person with a lot of power to really help others. This guy may have the capacity to misdirect and take advantage of that power.