posted July 04, 2009 08:59 PM         

To me, this looks like a very painful relationship...your Venus conjunct his Neptune would cause you to have a clouded, fantasized view of him (the fantasy would not necc. be that he's an ideal--you'd just have trouble seeing the real him behind some idea of him.) To top it off, YOUR Neptune is opposite his Sun and Venus and conjunct his Moon and Jupiter. (If this Ascendent were right, it would also be conjunct his IC)--that's a whole lot of fantasy and clouded vision and PROJECTION.

Then there's your Chiron conjunct his Saturn, opposite his Neptune. I would think that this would make the relationship tap into learning some deep lessons about the ways you work with emotional pain--your pain/tenderness could end up being met by his distance/disapproval/coldness with that Saturn, and then with the Neptune opposition, he could end up being confusing, too.

Even if you managed to get closer, I worry that without stronger binding aspects (but remember, that might be different with a real birth time), this relationship would end up being about fantasy or projection.

Sorry to be discouraging! I just can't see enough balance or glue here--the Neptune goggles are what leap out at me!

But some people see Neptune-Venus as very romantic and enchanted! So please don't take mine as the only possible interpretation of that.

It looks like he has a natal Venus-Pluto square, which could make him very sexy, but could also cause frustration in how he expresses his sexuality. Natally, you've got an intense 1st house Sun-Pluto conjunction and Mars right on your IC...you know what you want.

posted July 04, 2009 11:14 PM         

I'm just thinking from the synastry that this connection you feel might not go anywhere. You may be projecting the idea of a connection onto a person you don't have a real connection with. Ironically, turning to synastry readings to figure it all out, instead of just exploring it in real life, is a sign of tricky Venus/Neptune issues.

But, try to find out what's between you in real life if it feels important to you.

My advice would be either:
-drop it, if possible OR
-pursue a relationship with him in real life, but stop obsessing/analyzing/interpreting...when you're not with him, focus on other things (friends/studies/intellectual interests)...when you ARE with him, be openhearted and get to know him

The one thing not to do with all this Neptune is exactly what you are doing...turning to others for guidance instead of living out the experience or trusting your intuition.

But I'm going to butt out now and give others a chance to respond to your thread!

posted July 04, 2009 11:36 PM         

Cor, now I really feel like an idiot! Thanks for your input and reality check Lucia!

posted July 05, 2009 11:59 AM         

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is there any romantic connection at all?

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posted July 11, 2009 08:49 PM         

Also his saturn trine your asc and sextile your dsc. I think this is positive in the sense of your personality and his responsability goes hand in hand. But may be it could be interpreted differently. Im no expert.

Is his time of birth accurate? To know about his asc?

posted July 11, 2009 10:39 PM         

An accurate birth time for him would help us tremendously. It opens a whole new world in synastry. Is there any way at all you can finagle that info? Social engineering? Are you still in touch? I am very sneaky with it sometimes. Questions like:

"You are such a night owl! You must have been born at night you creature of darkness LOL. At the stroke of midnight or something..."

That can get a person to respond with "No, I actually I was born in the day at XX:XX."

-OR-

"My mom is such a flake (lie). She doesn't even know what time I was born. What kind of mom doesn't know that lol?"

Which yields...

"Wow. My mom loves to talk about my birth story. I was born at XX:XX in XXXX, XX"

posted July 16, 2009 04:29 PM         

but very intense love for sure.