posted July 14, 2009 06:51 PM
I don't see Neptune as so much disillusionment, but delusion that never quite goes away, yet is nearly impossible to break though.What always worries me in synastry is not Neptune squares or those neat quintiles--actually, it's more the "good" aspects--tight conjunctions or trines.
You can see it all the time on Lindaland:
"He won't talk to me and just stammers and shakes when I come near, are we Soul Mates?" "Even though we are both married to other people and live 1000 miles away, she is my one true love and Soul Mate and she feels that way too" (also, Neptune goggles make you act like a a--hole!! How lovely this was for this guy's real wife who shared her real life with him!) "Look at my yooyoo double whammy with his Eros! We haven't spoken yet, is he The One?" NEPTUNE GOGGLES!
If you look at the synastry for these people,you will see a tight Neptune conjunction with a personal planet or with the obsessive person's Node. I had this with Pisces Moon Man--my NN conjunct his Venus-Neptune. I really felt like he had all these intense feelings for me and he was too shy, scared, overwhelmed to express them...and every time I tried to get past the haze, he (or I? or Neptune?) seemed to make more haze. It was awful.
To me, your synastry looks fine Neptune-wise...that Moon-Neptune square might thwart or retard efforts to fully realize your emotional connection...those nice quintiles the other way would add to the inspirational potential of the relationship. I don't see and huge red flags like a snug Neptune-Venus conjunction.
BUT I am worried that you are worried. Ironically, needing an astrologer to tell you that the relationship is okay or mutual or a go is a key sign of Neptune goggles. So give yourself the following tests:
-are both of you living in the same place and actually seeing, touching, talking to each other in person and looking into each other's eyes? If yes, proceed. If no, it's a delusion, not a relationship, unless you were involved in person in a real relationship with each other in the past.
-have you been feeling like there's "something between you" for over 8 months, you are both adults, and yet nothing has happened? If yes, Neptune goggles. It's almost like Neptune goggled people CAN'T ever actually get it together, but yet at least one nurses the delusion even more fervently when they don't.
-are both of you actually single and/or in consensually open relationships? If yes, proceed. If not, it may be Neptune goggles, or you might just be being an a--hole, and you should DROP IT.
-if there's some big, deep reason you can't be together, yet your love is true--ICK, Neptune goggles. ("He has to stay with her cause she's dying, but he loves me"--dude, do the dying woman a favor and be honest and stop emotionally cheating on her.)
I don't think just having mutual Neptune contacts creates these situations...also, with your natal Neptune, you might be more familiar with how to work with Neptune in a constructive way romantically. I don't get that bad Neptune feel from this synastry.
Don't worry about Neptune, but do use basic ethics and common sense.