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han's
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posted October 18, 2004 09:12 AM
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Randall
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posted October 18, 2004 12:03 PM
Welcome!  ------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
sesame
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posted October 19, 2004 04:02 AM
When you give love. Especially to yourself. I'd love for you to read Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsh. It is very inspiring and yet just lets you know its great being You. I've never understood suicide. I've always felt that I am here because I chose, and I never chose differently. If you do choose differently then you should really analyse that, as your meaning for being here in the first place could be quesioned.I hope you cheer up. Heaps of Love,
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Sheaa Olein
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posted October 20, 2004 08:45 AM
Hello han's   I'm sorry to hear of your heartbreak How are you feeling today? Please don't contemplate suicide. It's an awful option when you have so much to live through & so much to learn. I went through the heartbreak of splitting with someone I loved so completely and thought I'd never recover. However I did! The lessons learnt through times of hardship are so very valuable. Please rememeber the essence of yourself & all the power you have to allow yourself to gather strength & see things in perspective. There will always be challenges, how you choose to deal with adversity makes you what you want to become. Have faith, OK? Nobody is stronger, nobody is weaker than someone who came back.There is nothing you can do to such a person because whatever you could do is less than what has already been done to him. We have already paid the price.
-Elie Wiesel Sending positive thoughts to you han's, Sheaa   IP: Logged |
han's
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posted October 20, 2004 11:52 PM
Thanks Sheaa... I am feeling better now... I think whatever happens is for our good... ------------------
Never explain...Your friends dont need it and your enemies are not going to believe you anyway..!! IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted October 21, 2004 11:54 AM
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"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Sheaa Olein
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posted October 21, 2004 12:18 PM
Excellent  ------------------
"There is nothing worth more than this day!"
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future_uncertain
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posted October 22, 2004 09:35 PM
Hang in there, han's! I believe with you that everything happens as it should and for the best. (Even when we can't see the grand design from where we stand.) What happened? Are you still talking? Have the two of you broken up before? Let me know. I feel for ya! Nothing's worse than a broken heart. If you want to talk, you know where we are. These things take time! In the meantime, take care of yourself. Are you still thinking about suicide? I'm worried about ya! Take care,
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posted October 23, 2004 04:00 AM
You guessed it right Carissa,we had broken up once in september,2003. But that time i was too busy to worry over it..Then he came back to me after 3 months. But this time i feel bruised..still Day before yesterday i literally begged him to come back.. he was stubborn but by the evening he sort of gave in... i really dono y i wanted him so much.. i talked with him yesterday night but he sounded uninterested.. i dono what to do... i wanted a steady relationship coz i sort of worship my guy.. IP: Logged |
purple_scorp
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posted October 23, 2004 07:02 AM
hi han'sI don't know anything of your situation and I certainly don't wish to trivialise things but I have a phrase that I want to share with you: "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened". There is nothing that we can say to you to ease your broken heart. The only thing that will repair that will be time. But please know, there are lots of members here willing and able to help you through this difficult time. Sending light and love to you. You know, I believe that people come in and out of our life for a reason. If this is true, then we need to acknowledge if their purpose has been served and let them go. I hope you can find some happiness in celebrating what you have shared with this person over those three years and use this to heal your broken heart. purple_scorp IP: Logged |
han's
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posted October 24, 2004 12:11 AM
Oh! purple_scorp thanks for this line:
"people come in and out of our life for a reason. If this is true, then we need to acknowledge if their purpose has been served and let them go."
Yes i have been contemplating over letting him go since last April.
But his financial state was(is) poor & i wanted to protect him.
Also he brought peace into my life and i was afraid if i let him go,i'll lose it..i am very insecure by nature.I guess it was coz i was brought up by my grandmother. when i was hardly 2 yrs old my mom went for higher studies, leaving me with grand mother.. i feel still i am a kid deep inside.And i wanted him like a kid wanted a toy..
thanks to all ur love i will let him go
i have a feeling that i am living in a big family now love u all IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
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posted October 24, 2004 05:39 PM
I'm glad to hear things are going better for you. I find that the hardest people to let go of are those we feel responsible for. It's hard to know that your needs aren't being met, but if you leave the situation then you're afraid the other person will fall. I've had to learn to let people be responsible for themselves, even though this hurts sometimes. Sometimes, out of love, the best thing we can do is let the other person learn how to take care of him/herself. Carissa
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purple_scorp
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posted October 29, 2004 07:37 AM
Carissa wrote:
"Sometimes, out of love, the best thing we can do is let the other person learn how to take care of him/herself."Very wise words, Carissa. Han's - even if it's a karmic debt, you cannot continue to protect this person forever. You really do need to let go....when you are ready. There is another saying: "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all". Every day it will get a little easier and remember to care of yoursElf. purple_scorp IP: Logged |
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