posted August 17, 2010 10:39 AM         

But I guess I'm more after some advice on the situation I'm in, from an astrological POV. I'm really torn up by all this, and I jsut don't really know what to do about it anymore, so I figured I would turn here and see if anyone had insight on it. Any comments or advice is highly appreciated! I very much respect the esoteric topics, and I believe that astrology can help me work through this, but I guess I am looking for outside opinions.

Me: DOB- 3/9/84 in Chicago
Him: Dob- 6/23/80 in New York

So here is what I posted in another section:

I am just now starting to realize just how in love with a cancer man I am (I'm a pisces woman) and I have no idea what to do about it. I haven't seen him in almost 2 years, or spoken to him in almost as long.
When we met, we were working together, and I immediately noticed him, but not really like that (I kind of had my eye on someone else at work!) But he started to hit on me, and that made me pay attention. He was pretty intense at times (that's his scorpio moon) but he was also really sweet. Sitting on my lap, telling me he loved my chicago accent, telling me I'm the highlight of his day, lots of cute things. I admit, I was scared, I've always had trust issues and I deflected him quite a bit, but we still flirted a lot. He is extremely cute, and works really hard on his body, and I'm kind of a chunky chick, and I think he was used to girls being all over him, but I am definitely not one of those girls; I am positive that many girls have given in to him quickly, but I wasn't one of them. He really grew on me. In the end, we both were a little bit stupid and hurt each other and then just parted ways, we had never even kissed.
Well, now I am unable to stop thinking about him at all. I keep kicking myself because I missed the opportunity to be with him, and I really did not realize how much I was going to be missing him now. I figured I would just forget about him, but I've never been able to. Even though other guys have come and gone, I haven't been able to get over him.
So I don't know what to do. A part of me thinks that he is maybe kicking himself too, but I don't really know. I sent him an email about 6 mo after we parted ways just to say hello to him and that I was thinking of him, but he never responded. I also get the feeling that this is not over and he will come back into my life someday, or maybe that is just me hoping I'll get a second chance? I’m not the kind of girl people forget easily, but I’m scared that he has moved on and I’m just here pining for something I can never have.
I'm in a really tough spot, because on one hand I want to get past this, I don't want to feel bad about this anymore, but I still want him, more than ever.

So I am at a loss, and lately I've been feeling particularily bad about it (mercury about to go into retrograde maybe?) Anyway, any opinions or if there is some reading you can do or something that would be so great. I feel like I am at my wits end, so anything would help.

Oh, and also, are we going to get married in the future? LOL, just kidding ;-)

posted August 19, 2010 03:46 PM         

Our needs in a relationship are mainly highlighted by Sun/Moon/Venus/Mars/Merc positions (and of course the angles but I am not talking about them since you don't know the time of birth) and you both seem to satisfy each others' needs pretty well:

your Sun trine his Sun (you get along well naturally)

your Merc trine his Merc (you get each other)

your Moon is in Gemini he has Venus there

his Moon is in Scorpio you have Mars there

your Venus is in Aqua trine his Moon conjunct his SN (this might be an indicator of past life connection)+ you have NN in the same sign as his Venus! (10 degrees apart) >> very karmic positions

his Venus as I have already mentioned is placed in the same sign as your Moon

the same with your Mars and his Moon

his Mars sextile your Mars

also the following aspects are the indicators of great attraction and sexual chemistry:

your Mars conj his Uranus (sizzling chemistry)

your Pluto conj his Moon (deep emotional involvement)

and of course your Venuses/Nodes being the same sign and conjunct

so it all looks very nice; of course you two have challenging aspects too but most of them only add to the attraction e.g his Uranus square you Venus and conj your Mars (you might find him a bit too rebellious but that excites you at the same time)

What I don't like is his Mars conj Saturn opposite your Sun/Merc: looks like he is very stubborn and no matter what your say it won't change his mind + you have expansive Jupiter opposite his Sun and unconventional Uranus square his Jupiter >> it looks to me like he feels his 'authority' or 'manlinnes' is somehow threatened by you in addition your Pluto is conj his Moon (the Pluto person always seem to get the upper hand in the relationship) besides he is a sensitive Cancer so having Sun in this sign does not add to his self-perception as a strong male (although Scorpio Moon and Mars/Saturn in Virgo do make him a really strong personality) so judging by what I see, I think he is now playing 'who's the boss' game, I checked his solar arc chart he has some stressful aspects to Venus so, yes, I think he is kicking himself too, but again for the time being his pride is winning.
That's how I see it.

I don't have any particular advice to you because you have already contacted him and he never replied ... I don't think you should write him again, he knows where to find you if he feels like doing so, right? so let him decide and do your own thing in the meantime.

posted August 20, 2010 01:41 AM         

As far as contacting him goes, no, I don't really want to, at least not by email. I won't even get started on the 'signs' I've seen since we spoke last that all remind or lead me to him, but lately I've been getting particularily strong vibes about it all, and while I have no desire to send him some silly email, I do want to make sure he understands that it would be ok for him to contact me. LOL, does that make sense? I want him to realize that it actually would be ok to come and get me, even if it's something small like friending him on facebook? Or would that even matter? I absolutely dread being some chick who is chasing him around.

Thanks again, so much for the info! For the time being I am just trying to get some things done, have been working really hard on getting into shape, I figure if I ever do see him again I want to look slammin! And I just love the boost I am getting from shaping my body into something I love. Anyway, that is neither her nor there, but thank you again, you have really shed a lot of light on the situation. :-)

posted August 20, 2010 06:03 AM         

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When you refer to the Venus/SN connection, what do you mean by karmic positions? I will say that there is a very strong feeling that I've known him for a longer time than I have.

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I will say that there is a very strong feeling that I've known him for a longer time than I have. ~ yes, that's what I meant by it, node connections give a feeling of destiny in the synastry

yes, I think it's a good idea to add him on FB, write him a short encouraging message somethig like "I am sorry we parted like that, just letting you know I don't have bad feelings towards you" or something like that?

posted August 23, 2010 03:42 AM         

So, long story short, I think maybe that this is a sign I should just wait for it to happen? This is my problem with this whole situation, I waffle between thinking I should contact or try to seek him out before it's really too late and thinking that I should just let it happen by itself (if it's meant to be it will happen anyway, right?). I'm just afraid that I won't read the signs right and I'll f*** it up again. I don't know if astrology can help me on this one, but you've already been super helpful and had some great advice, so I thought I'd ask.