posted December 01, 2010 06:26 PM            

I looked a few years into your chart transits and what it seems to me, is that you will be going through fighting and reconciling for a while...

Big fights. Big makeups that seem to be healing, and get things really out into the open...

But, with Neptune transiting your 2nd house and opposing Mars in 8th in Leo...

You may be unaware of where you stand "financially"... and this maybe is undermining your decision to split from your husband for a while...

Regardless, expect "fight and makeup" for a while. This is the effect of Pluto square Mercury, and Pluto trine Moon, transits, along with a heavy Pluto conjunct Ascendant...

With Uranus moving into a conjunction to Mercury and a square to your Ascendant in the next couple of years.

With Uranus in Aries conjunct Mercury in 3rd in Aries... I really believe this is going to result in a "completely different way of thinking" that desires a certain degree of freedom of restraint of communication...

You are going to want to say what you think, and your new way of thinking is really going to challenge your ascendant, too...

So, this could also mean continued fights, and even a new way of thinking that demands freedom from the "old, conservative, stuffy" you....

Regardless... these transits indicate change, and big change...

The other transits that seem to indicate the potential for a relationship split is Saturn transiting your 9th house in Libra, that will conjunct your Midheaven, oppose your Sun in 3rd, and then Moon in 4th.

So, a good deal of maybe not wanting to split followed by a definite change in the Home front... indicated by Saturn Opposite Moon, along with Uranus sextile to Venus...

The 2 transits that seem to indicate re-starting a new life occur in late 2012...

When Uranus sextiling your Venus, and Saturn opposing your Moon...

It's as if you start again somehow romantically, as you break away from the home front...

Regardless... don't worry yourself too much about a dramatic split, because that doesn't seem to be indicated by your transits alone...

This will be more of a back and forth, and an eventual push... out into a new identity and way of life.

Whatever that new life is, you will see it happen over the next 3 years.

Good luck!

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The good is the beautiful.

posted December 01, 2010 07:01 PM            

thank you for your time.

A little background:
It's been eight years, of push and pull. He pushes, I pull to no avail. Financially, I'm not really confused about it, although he just bought some property overseas that I will never be entitled to. That frustrates me, because he spent nearly $300K on it, with my help. The only ones to benefit will be our children. I walk with nothing.

Funny, 2012 is the year I said to myself i'd take my life back. When my third was born, I gave myself a 5 year plan. My youngest will be 5, and in school full time. Back to work, back to being independent, taking my life back, at least until the kids come home from school.

posted December 01, 2010 07:21 PM            

Any Uranus transit to Venus is fun, but centered in the 5th house in Gemini makes a lot more interesting!!!

Just another thing to look out for is 2013, Saturn in Scorpio Squares Mars in 8th in Leo...

This happens after Saturn opposes the Moon in th house of family and home (4th)... so, there may be some backbiting and nasty things come from the husband... and this may indicate financial seeing as it concerns the 8th house and Saturn in Scorpio...

I would make sure you financially plan this all out very well, so when this transit hits there are NO concerns whatsoever that the Hubby can take anything from you, or deny you anything. I just want to emphasize because Neptune is in th 2nd house... And Neptune does indicate confusion and possible deception...

What you said about your husband so far seems spot on, with that...

I just want to put that out there, because it was something concerning. It could also mean just a great deal of pent up frustration and anger in general... maybe hindsight is 20-20, and you just really have to bite your tongue in order to be nice to the ex... and that's what this transit amounts to...

I can't read too much further into these slow moving planets, but there was quite a bit of illumination so far, and I'm glad this helped.

Good LUCK to you. Take care of yourself!

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The good is the beautiful.

posted December 01, 2010 10:44 PM            

I'll be sure to ask my sister to open an account for me when I go back to work.

I would really love to start planning for my freedom. I would appreciate a separation without the drama.

It's only my kids I worry about. My oldest, 6,(Just recently) began becoming attached to Daddy. We'll see...

posted December 04, 2010 09:06 AM            

A feeling is only for the present time. I have no sense of later or when later.
For now, I feel like you should not

posted December 05, 2010 12:39 AM            

Today, we had a bit of a break through. After he told me that I was a "bad woman" and threatened to overturn our coffee table with my freshly poured cup of joe sitting right in the middle...

He calls me later in the day, and actually apologizes, no prepping from me, and tells me he loves me. First time in 8 years he was sincere.

I was looking at him yesterday, and got sad. I asked him, "when we get divorced, can we still be friends?"

He said "sure, didn't we build memories together?"

posted May 26, 2011 01:54 PM            

I just came across your thread and am concerned. What did you end up doing, and how are you faring now?