posted May 08, 2011 02:34 PM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by love being Aries:
the image files have expired dear

---

posted May 09, 2011 11:09 AM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by littlecloud:
give me 5 days and I'll get back to you

---

posted May 10, 2011 09:17 AM            

Here are the charts, natals and synastry.

posted May 10, 2011 09:36 AM            

Your Pluto is opposite his Mars
His Pluto is square your Sun/Venus conjunction in the 7th house.
To top that all off your Mars is square his Venus and Neptune.

The combination of all these aspects is fairly dangerous when one is involved but with all of them involved and all fairly all of them have little relief from sextiles or trines can make for a very difficult relationship. There is an immense element of power play between the two of you. You as a Sun conjunct Venus in the 7th house person have a hard time dealing with that sort of harshness. Despite that you have the square nataly I believe he further activates the two-yods in your chart.

I wouldn't be surprised if there is an element of abuse from you to him.

Your mars is also opposite his moon with only one 'relief aspect', your mars squares his Neptune which is trine your moon.

You are also 16 dating a 21 year old which is very difficult at that age to begin with. Those 'growing ages' contain huge gaps within 2 year alone. Not many people have the ability to overcome those obstacles.

posted May 10, 2011 06:33 PM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by littlecloud:
You need to describe the situation. I wouldn't be surprised if there was some element of mental/emotional or physical abuse. If there is physical abuse I advice you leave immediately.

Your Pluto is opposite his Mars
His Pluto is square your Sun/Venus conjunction in the 7th house.
To top that all off your Mars is square his Venus and Neptune.

The combination of all these aspects is fairly dangerous when one is involved but with all of them involved and all fairly all of them have little relief from sextiles or trines can make for a very difficult relationship. There is an immense element of power play between the two of you. You as a Sun conjunct Venus in the 7th house person have a hard time dealing with that sort of harshness. Despite that you have the square nataly I believe he further activates the two-yods in your chart.

I wouldn't be surprised if there is an element of abuse from you to him.

Your mars is also opposite his moon with only one 'relief aspect', your mars squares his Neptune which is trine your moon.

You are also 16 dating a 21 year old which is very difficult at that age to begin with. Those 'growing ages' contain huge gaps within 2 year alone. Not many people have the ability to overcome those obstacles.

I will post further analysis once you have responded

---

well ever since the first date he started kissing me passionately and tried to even touch my breasts..and well he's older and i started thinking that he probably just wanted to be with me for sex..but then i wasn't sure cause he's a really friendly and cool guy and his sister and I are like really good friends at school..well anyways there was this one day that i let him touch me like "down there" (i was just curious and it didn't feel guilty or shamefull)...and i think i've abused him verbally/emotionally as you said right there because there was this one night he wanted to see me and I had to escape through my window and I was all scared that my mom might catch me so he was like "do you wanna see me or not" and well that got me mad cause i do wanna see him but he didn't want to understand that i can't just escape like that..so i started telling him like all this mean things (such as that people keep on telling me that him and i shouldn't be together and my mom says that you're not good for me) and that hurt him so much cause he even stayed up all night drinking :/ the next day we made up but i think that sort of change the way he was with me..he used to be so sweet and loving and then little by little he started not caring about me..or so i felt that way. Also every single night that we saw eachother we just couldn't keep our hands off each other so i started feeling as if sex was all he wanted with me...at the end i just couldn't take it anymore and decided to break up with him...we just lasted like a month (it didn't end good)..and well we still keep messaging each other with hurtful words..like yesterday he said how much he really like me and that he now sees that i only cared about myself and i didn't gave the relationship much importance..just looking back at it this wasn't a healthy relationship but I still feel something for him :/

posted May 10, 2011 08:05 PM            

I'm assuming when you say 'tried to touch my breasts' that his hands went that way several times and you had to push them away more than once.

It definitely does sound like emotional/mental abuse from him to you. Like how he said 'do you want to see me or not'. Then drinking all night and blaming it on what you said to him. What escapes many people is the fact that they are responsible for their actions which includes reactions. By this I mean just cuz you said those hurtful things doesn't mean he has the right to go drinking.

My advice to you is be more aware of how your words may affect another person, don't say thing just because you know you'll hurt them. I know in some cases you may really want to get back at someone but it will only create a vicious cycle. You might come to realize this as you get older but try to be more aware of it starting from now and your future relationships should go a bit more smoothly. Also with your Pluto square your Sun/Venus conjunction in the 7th beware of abusive partners.

In the case of this relationship. Yes. End it. Now and forever. I say this because I didn't see any real reason to stay in the synastry and from what you describe continuing such a relationship will only become worse, more abusive. This is not healthy. You're young and if you're going to date someone that much older than you they need to understand that you just can't up and leave your house. They need to respect you, your family, and you again. What you describe is fairly parallel to a relationship I was in. It was not enjoyable in the least. So to try to prevent more people from getting hurt I strongly urge you to cut communications with this guy.

posted May 10, 2011 10:42 PM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by littlecloud:
Did you two ever have sex?

I'm assuming when you say 'tried to touch my breasts' that his hands went that way several times and you had to push them away more than once.

It definitely does sound like emotional/mental abuse from him to you. Like how he said 'do you want to see me or not'. Then drinking all night and blaming it on what you said to him. What escapes many people is the fact that they are responsible for their actions which includes reactions. By this I mean just cuz you said those hurtful things doesn't mean he has the right to go drinking.

My advice to you is be more aware of how your words may affect another person, don't say thing just because you know you'll hurt them. I know in some cases you may really want to get back at someone but it will only create a vicious cycle. You might come to realize this as you get older but try to be more aware of it starting from now and your future relationships should go a bit more smoothly. Also with your Pluto square your Sun/Venus conjunction in the 7th beware of abusive partners.

In the case of this relationship. Yes. End it. Now and forever. I say this because I didn't see any real reason to stay in the synastry and from what you describe continuing such a relationship will only become worse, more abusive. This is not healthy. You're young and if you're going to date someone that much older than you they need to understand that you just can't up and leave your house. They need to respect you, your family, and you again. What you describe is fairly parallel to a relationship I was in. It was not enjoyable in the least. So to try to prevent more people from getting hurt I strongly urge you to cut communications with this guy.

I wish you the best and please be safe. I get really scary vibes from this situation. Please just stay away from him.

---

noooo..we didn't had sex..And I thank God that I didn't got to that point cause in the first place I wasn't in love with him..how could I if he didn't respect me? but i do admit escaping with him a lot of nights..and that's when it got too sexual :/ by the way this whole relationship was behind my parent's back. It's wrong to disrespect your parents and God too..so I'm willing to wait for sex
till i marry with the right guy for me It's worth the wait.. Thank You very much littlecloud

posted May 12, 2011 05:42 PM            

Beneficial aspects to sun and moon are always regarded highly i.e ideal in a relationship. Same with venus and mars in relation to each other to the sun and moon. However you cannot look at a few aspects and determine whether it's a good relationship or not. You need to look at he entire picture. The natals and their relationship to the synastry and then the composite as well. It gives a better idea of who is feeling what and why.

I was in a relationship with Sun trine Sun, Moon trine Moon. Great you would think? Not at all the worst relationship ever. We had barely any venus aspects and Saturn square Saturn. Among others. The Sun trine Sun and moon trine moon is nice for your basic personalities and emotional needs. They are very similar and you can relate to each other in terms of that. However when you throw in so many other harmful aspects it gets hard to show love especially with hardly any venus aspects at all. Even though you might notice the nice Sun and moon aspects right away, a perfect relationship this does not make. The outer planets also play a huge role and their effect is usually noticed over time and in some cases is devastating.

The key to any relationship is communication. People overlook Mercury aspects a lot because it's not really a 'love' planet. But how can two people 'relate' to each other without any communication?