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Topic: What's going wrong here? (synastry)
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frankie2912
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: yep,ks,usa
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 05, 2011 05:14 PM
  
My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year, 4 months. I was never passionately in love with him or anything, but we seemed to mesh well and get along and our sex life was always just OK. For the past year I've had on and off feelings about him, ranging from love/appreciation to complete disinterest and annoyance. What's happening? I don't want to be with him anymore but he still loves me very much. Here is our synastry:  IP: Logged |
feitlebaum
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: AZ
Registered: Jan 2011
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posted July 05, 2011 05:37 PM
I'm not a big chart reader, but I noticed your Sun is exactly conj your Desc. You are the kind of person he wants to be in a relationship with. He feels complete with you.Your Saturn trines his Sun and Mars. Maybe you feel a little more grown up than he does, being Saturn? IP: Logged |
Applegreen
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 05, 2011 07:20 PM
Also, along with your Sun conjuncting his Descendant, your Neptune is also conjunct there too.
Which is causing an extra amount of "dreaminess"/"delusion" of you in his eyes..
I think he really sees you as the girl of his dreams.IP: Logged |
Applegreen
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 05, 2011 07:26 PM
His Pluto conjuncts Your Asc..
Do you feel like he tries to control you at all?
Or he feels like he can really change/transform by being with you? I'm not very good at interpreting synastry, but these are my thoughts. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 13606
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 05, 2011 07:33 PM
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Originally posted by Applegreen:
His Pluto conjuncts Your Asc..
Do you feel like he tries to control you at all?
Or he feels like he can really change/transform by being with you? I'm not very good at interpreting synastry, but these are my thoughts.
You are doing GREAT Apple .I am loving reading your posts  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomon
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs IP: Logged |
Applegreen
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 05, 2011 07:37 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
You are doing GREAT Apple .I am loving reading your posts
Thank you, it means a lot!
I want to try to help if I can, like how you are helping me and so many others  IP: Logged |
Applegreen
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 05, 2011 07:45 PM
Your Uranus conjuncts His Moon.I've read that with this placement the Uranus person (you) need mental/intellectual stimulation in order to stay interested.
Maybe he is too emotional for you?
Or perhaps conversations aren't exciting anymore? Or both? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 13606
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 05, 2011 08:06 PM
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Originally posted by Applegreen:
Thank you, it means a lot!
I want to try to help if I can, like how you are helping me and so many others
My heart is so warmed .Thank you so much for that beautiful sentiment, Apple .You made my day  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomon
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs IP: Logged |
frankie2912
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: yep,ks,usa
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 05, 2011 09:03 PM
Wow! You guys are REALLY hitting it on the head. He has actually told me that I'm the "girl of his dreams", and yes I DO feel more grown up than him (not to mention i have 3 years older..he is only 21), and yes..our conversations have been lacking any depth for a while now. And also, yes, I do feel he tries to control me on subtle levels. I notice it though and really resent it.IP: Logged |
Applegreen
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 05, 2011 09:22 PM
I'm glad that we are on target!I noticed that you've been with him for a year and four months, but you have been disinterested for a year already (!) You are a Cap sun. In fear of generalizing, I hear that Caps tend to stay in relationships even if they are dissatisfied and usually wait it out. What do you plan to do? IP: Logged |
feitlebaum
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: AZ
Registered: Jan 2011
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posted July 05, 2011 09:23 PM
Your Uranus squares a lot of things! Do you feel like you want more freedom in the relationship?IP: Logged |
frankie2912
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: yep,ks,usa
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 05, 2011 09:56 PM
Yes, I feel like I need space, freedom, I'm sick of a person keeping tabs on me..I just want to be single! This is my longest and most serious relationship. But it's just not for me anymore.He graduates in December. I still have another year (at least) left of school..I think that will be the right time to tell him he should focus on his own life, move out of this town and state (there's nothing here for him..besides me) and move back to San Antonio where he can be near his family. I'm going to tell him that I need space from this relationship and I want to live on my own. I feel like a total b*tch for doing this to him but I have to for my own sake. IP: Logged |
Applegreen
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 05, 2011 11:19 PM
 A year is quite a long time. Are you sure? Don't feel like a b*tch. On the contrary, you're very sweet for thinking the way you do. I understand that you don't want to hurt him. I did that to my ex-boyfriend too. For a year, also. I dreaded breaking up with him everyday until I did it. But when I did it, he was very hurt of course. And I was very hurt too. But a month later, I wondered why I didn't do it much earlier. It felt like wasted my time and his time. I just don't want you to feel that way too. But I understand how you feel, too well. It's a very complicated and delicate situation. Have you guys talked about it at all? Or is this just something you have been thinking about? IP: Logged |
frankie2912
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: yep,ks,usa
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 05, 2011 11:48 PM
Thank you for understanding  We talked bout it the first time I felt this way (about a year ago) and he said he'd leave if that's what would make me happy. But neither of us could afford to move out on our own and I couldn't stand the thought of him with someone else (selfish, I know). But now..the thought of him with someone else doesn't bother me. But we still can't afford to move out. The time I have planned would be perfect. So Scorpio of me to sneak around behind my lover's back.. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 13606
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 06, 2011 12:13 AM
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Originally posted by feitlebaum:
Your Uranus squares a lot of things! Do you feel like you want more freedom in the relationship?
Awesome insight.Thanks for that Feitlebaum
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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomon
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs IP: Logged |
feitlebaum
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: AZ
Registered: Jan 2011
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posted July 06, 2011 01:46 PM
No problem!! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 13606
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 06, 2011 02:29 PM
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Originally posted by Applegreen:
Your Uranus conjuncts His Moon.I've read that with this placement the Uranus person (you) need mental/intellectual stimulation in order to stay interested.
Maybe he is too emotional for you?
Or perhaps conversations aren't exciting anymore? Or both?
Great insight Applegreen! I am learning so much from your posts ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomon
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs IP: Logged |
Applegreen
Knowflake Posts: 131
From:
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 06, 2011 03:15 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Great insight Applegreen! I am learning so much from your posts
Thanks ^^; I'm glad. But I'm not so great, I just google the aspects and try to explain if it makes sense to me... I don't have a feel for them without google help lol 
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We talked bout it the first time I felt this way (about a year ago) and he said he'd leave if that's what would make me happy. But neither of us could afford to move out on our own and I couldn't stand the thought of him with someone else (selfish, I know). But now..the thought of him with someone else doesn't bother me. But we still can't afford to move out. The time I have planned would be perfect. So Scorpio of me to sneak around behind my lover's back..
When I left my boyfriend, I saw him talking to my good friend, so I came back into his life. It was very selfish of me. So, I can understand that too. You guys live together? I see why it's even harder now. >_<
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Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 13606
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 06, 2011 05:33 PM
Well Apple
We all slowly get better in Astrology.It is a life long pursuit ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomon
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs IP: Logged |
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