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posted July 10, 2011 04:16 AM            

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Hey Ya'll,

I am just having so many problems understanding this guy. I have been reading a lot of the other synastrys you guys have been doing and they seem to really help.

My guy friend is very confusing. I cannot read him at all and he sends me nothing but a lot of text messages and mixed messages that leave me scratching my head. He is one of my best friends, but lately he has been doing or saying things that say otherwise, or making me feel unimportant, like I don't matter to him, but then saying or doing things to contradict himself. I am at my wits end! If anyone here is able to help I would be very grateful.

If you need anymore information, holla at me ya'll! Would appreciate it greatly.

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posted July 10, 2011 04:23 AM            

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posted July 10, 2011 08:07 AM            

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I will look later !

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posted July 10, 2011 08:09 AM            

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I will tell you what I see. Then, you tell me about the relationship and we will see if we can get to the bottom of it.

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
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I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
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He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted July 10, 2011 08:51 AM            

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compatibility or no compatibility, i think we should ALWAYS stay away from this type of people. seriously there is more to life than figuring out what he wants specially when that he is not even worth it..

coming to the chart he is an Aries rising, and you can count on my words that if he wants to tell you something, he will tell you in the most straight-forward way possible.

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posted July 10, 2011 09:00 AM            

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I agree with aries. If something is blinding you from the reality of this person then you need to talk to someone who will give you a different point of view, or objectively look at the situation, and figure out what's best for you

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posted July 10, 2011 09:39 AM            

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Welcome!

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posted July 10, 2011 11:15 AM            

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When reading this post i felt it was me im in the exact same situation except my friend is a male gay, the connection we had was very deep too, like soul mates

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posted July 11, 2011 06:22 AM            

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Thanks for the replies everyone!

I just feel like I am at my wits end... everyday seems to get harder and harder, and even the tiniest little things make me so miserable its hard to motivate myself to keep going. I just need some advice on what to do, on where this relationship is going because I honestly can't take much longer of it.

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posted July 11, 2011 06:54 AM            

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You got a LOT of interesting stuff going on.His Mars conj your ASC.
Are you attracted to each other?

You have a fascinating thing going on.It will take me some time to think on it.
Perhaps,it will help to answer your questions.

His 10th house overlays your 9th. He may bring structure to you.
He may help give you a reason to be,show you reasons WHY your life has meaning.

His NN conj your moon and MC.

You got lots of MC stuff going on. I will be back.

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
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He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted July 11, 2011 07:12 AM            

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His Cancer Stellium--Sun, Chiron, Jupiter and Mercury in the 4th opposes his Cap planets in the 10th--- Saturn ,Neptune,NN and MC.

He has a strong polarity going on within himself--a strong pull between opposite forces--home-- outside world .
He has many oppositions between strong planets here.
So, he is pulled between these two parts of life--home and social world.
Also, many planets are pulled in this opposition so he struggles with many,many opposing forces on many levels, we can say.

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
Be as wise as a serpents,gentle as doves.

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted July 11, 2011 07:17 AM            

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You want to attach to him--where he is going. You feel your "star",place in society AND place in your own heart is with him.

is this right?

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
Be as wise as a serpents,gentle as doves.

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted July 11, 2011 07:18 AM            

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Your heart wants to hitch on to him and the direction in which he is going in life. Your oath in the world is linked to him--in your mind.
Is that true?

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
Be as wise as a serpents,gentle as doves.

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted July 11, 2011 07:20 AM            

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JUST as his Cancer stellium is opposing his OWN Cap planets, they are opposing many of YOUR planets.
He has a fight with himself and with you,also,in many key areas of life.
I could see where this would feel like a crazy relationship.
On top of all that ,you guys are really attracted to each other.

Did I hit these things right/wrong lol

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
Be as wise as a serpents,gentle as doves.

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted July 11, 2011 07:30 AM            

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Ok Let me say this more clearly
I think he is struggling with himself in a BIG way.he is struggling with the 2 opposing parts of life--home and society/career.

He has VERY strong oppositions between planets in these two opposing signs so his struggle is super enhanced.

You fit in there cuz you are tied to HIS purpose in life.Your heart/moon and MC/place in the world conjuncts his NN/purpose.

Ths makes you want to hitch your star to his.
I think this is the problem.

Also his 10th house overlays your 9th.This is the same theme.
You want to find your place in society through him.

On top of that,you are both super attracted to each other.

That is my summary.What do you think ?

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
Be as wise as a serpents,gentle as doves.

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted July 11, 2011 08:13 PM            

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Wow! That is somewhat amazing. I can totally see a lot of what you are saying which relates.

Like I said, he sends a lot of mixed messages, he must be very confused about a lot of things in his life. He works for his parents so maybe his home/work life are clashing in that respect perhaps?

I do feel very linked to him. I have a lot of friends who tell me he is not worth my time and effort, but I cant imagine him not being in my life, I feel like I am connected to him in a way I can't really understand. It is annoying to me, because I get so torn between wanting him out of my life, but at the same time, I can't NOT imagine him being there.

I am attracted to him, but I am not sure he is attracted to me. He cannot say one nice thing about me. His grandmother told me I was pretty, and as soon as she walked away, he turned to me and said she was clearly blind! He is quite a vain person, he rates women based on how they look, and he is a womanizer of epic proportions. Everytime he sleeps with a new woman, he will text me as soon as it has finished with a "+1" text message, and this is usually followed up by an early morning phone call telling me of how it all came about. He has told me that no one really understands him and that I am one of the only people who do.

In the last few weeks, he has reconnected with an old best friend, and he texts me about her all the time. I feel like he has replaced me with her, and I can't understand why he bothers to keep contacting me. I cannot understand him. I am told him a couple of times that I feel like he no longer cares about me, but he assures me that he does, 'a lot more than I realise'. :S Am I reading into this all wrong? I do not feel like he is attracted to me. He tells me all the time about how he is attracted to different women, but he has never said one nice thing about me.

Anyway, I think a lot of what you said is scary accurate! Thanks so much for your input.

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posted July 11, 2011 08:37 PM            

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Welcome Darling!

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
Be as wise as a serpents,gentle as doves.

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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