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Topic: At my wits end: how do I make my ex own up?
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Aya_and_baby
Knowflake Posts: 988
From: Space (and sometimes Antwerp)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 12, 2011 03:03 PM
  
In short: my ex still owes me a lot of money. I KNOW he had the ability to pay at least half of what he owed me, but despite his promises he would, he eventually said he could only pay me 1/4 of what he owes me and now... he even broke that promise.I feel this, along with my financial situation, is driving me to the edge of nervous breakdown again, and the only air-tight fool-proof solutions I can get, are MONTHS away. By that time I will have broken down already. So I desperately need to find a solution NOW. The only way I'm going to get it is by getting through to him personally. If anyone needs his chart and transits, please ask. I'd be happy to share. But otherwise, tarot or horary are of course welcome too, and of course, so is intuitive reading  ------------------
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Aya_and_baby
Knowflake Posts: 988
From: Space (and sometimes Antwerp)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 12, 2011 03:09 PM
Just for the record: the law here in Belgium is very pro-equality, which is a good thing in some ways but has me pretty much with my hands tied:Men who are recognised as the father on the baby's birth cert have every right to that baby, which means that even if they don't pay up they are ALWAYS allowed to see their child, even if the mother refuses, and... it also means, because his name is on the birth cert, that I cannot in any way revoke his paternal rights. He has those regardless of whether or not he fulfills his duties and I simply cannot revoke them because he DOESN'T fulfill his duties. Because believe you me, if I was able to do that - in need of maintenance money or not - I would have done that. I'm better off breaking all ties with him because he doesn't pay for his son anyway but as long as he has paternal rights, I have the added stress of being forced to still be involved with him. ------------------
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sassaqua
Knowflake Posts: 115
From: Australia
Registered: May 2011
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posted July 16, 2011 08:32 PM
Oh my god aya, it sounds hideous and I feel for you!Im not sure what the answer IS though? I have access to ex chart, and even with that I cannot MAKE him DO anything. I would like to help - how? Can you telephone his parents maybe? Politely explaining that you are utterly broke and you need - and are owed - financial support to take care of the son? Awful situation, and this world really gives me shytes sometimes. Women do so much work which goes unrecognised and unrewarded, and they are denied supported. Sometimes they are also abused. It's all so wrong. I hope you can get to a place to rise above him in some way that, he is not at all on your radar and you create a beautiful life for yourself and your son with him being only a distant memory, if even that!
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 17, 2011 10:14 AM
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