posted August 13, 2011 01:35 PM
Hey everyone. I posted this on the 2.0 thread and while understandably there was little response, I'm reaaaally curious to see some objective perspective on this synastry chart. After my first boyfriend - who was something of a major soul mate to me and I still consider such - I was positive I would never fall in love again, because to get those emotions out of me again with a new person seemed unbelievably exhausting and I now "knew better" then to get swept up in extreme sentiment anymore. This was in 2007 and since then while I've dated around and had a lot of fun, I stopped viewing romance with beauty. I always had the upper hand in my relationships with people and there was nothing that evoked admiration and a deep friendship anymore.. for years. Until I meet this person! Some background story: My step dad is a pretty well known dude around his community, super gregarious, funny, good natured, always does things for the surrounding community and is generally just a very chill person. He’s on good terms with a lot of people that work for the state, and has a regular place where he gets discounted (delicious) breakfast. Every now and then some people from the state will also have breakfast with us (whenever I happen to join him) and we’ll talk and whatever strikes the mood. A lot of those people are fairly bland (and notorious for being such), and not really worth much.. second thought after the conversation is over?
Well, a few months ago I was having breakfast with my step-dad and his new girlfriend, and some people from the state were eating breakfast across of us, and we were having a conversation about some of the crazy things that happens to them while they were on the job. And there was just this one particular guy who had the freshest sense of humor. He was a GREAT story teller - he completely had intelligence, former street smarts, a perfect self depreciation, and razor sharp wit that made him this fascinating personality -- he was cracking me up the ENTIRE time, which is pretty rare for me. Anyway, eventually they leave and that was that. When he got up to leave I remember being very surprised at the fact he was like, 6’4”.
Then.. a month after that I’m having breakfast with just my step-dad, and he’s there again with one of his partners. Surprisingly, I found myself very thrilled with the fact he remembered me and went out of his way to say hello and shake my hand. As the conversation progresses, we both notice the fact that despite the fact there's two other people with us, we find each other really fascinating and.. it's hard to explain. Just a rare moment of supreme, unspoken chemistry. Normally things like that deeply put me off because I can tell when someone is just trying to impress me for the hell of it, but his sincerity was impressing. Whenever jokes would be cracked around the tables, we would laugh, suddenly look at each other, smile some more and stare for a prolonged period. You know. I Have A Crush On You sort of things. When he wasn’t looking at me I’d steal glances at his general countenance, he’d look up I’d look away, vice versa. Later in the conversation, I was going on about the pitfalls of gender roles in terms of expectations in femininity/masculinity, and he seemed surprised and would perfectly add onto my point. Anyway, they end up leaving, I have a very serious and meaningful 'goodbye' from him with a firm and lingering handshake.
I turn to my step-dad. "Do you know that guy?"
"Who? Officer ______?"
"Yeah, I guess?"
"Sure, we go out drinking every now and then. Why do you ask?"
"Well. I think I like him."
".... So... what do you want me to do about that..? Call him and tell him?"
Now, I'm a super demure person. Prudish, actually! I rarely ever make the first movie, even with my first boyfriend, but I felt so psychically compelled to pick this new persons brain. I HAD to know him, I HAD to bask in his energy, I HAD to just.. consume him, I don't know! It's so difficult to articulate. Something had to be done and I found my typical shyness melt away. I wasn't even yet physically attracted to him - I don't even think I expected romance out of the whole ordeal. I just had to know him.
"Yeah, I do want you to call him and tell him."
A few days pass, obsessive thoughts go in and out of my mind. I'm shocked at how much I'm thinking of him because I was so sure I was going to get back together with my exboyfriend this summer. I get a call from my step-dad, "Hey _____, guess what?"
"What?"
"You have a date with Officer ______ on Friday, his name is Bryan, and don't **** it up!"
Anyway, we've been dating for a bit (I'll spare you the details but our first date was perfection and then some) and everything is just so unbelievably nice. What does the synastry say - anything I should look out for?