posted October 03, 2011 02:18 PM            

My ex sort of came back. We had a stormy short relationship that ended about a month ago. No contact since. Silly me looking for closure, I wrote to him. He confessed he suffered as much as I did and still loves me, but we ended up in a fight, AGAIN, for the hundreth time...

I'm stupid enough to still want him back after everything that has been said and done, though clearly this isn't a positive relationship for me, not until he mans up and stops putting his big ego ahead of our relationship.

Is there still any hope that we will get back together and make it WORK, at last? Because I have another man wooing me and don't wish to be a double player. My heart still beats for the Sag, but if there's no chance with him, I will cut him out completely and start fresh with the Libra.

posted October 03, 2011 03:10 PM            

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Do You Think This Psychic Is Cute?

posted October 03, 2011 10:40 PM            

Now S is a Libra and makes TONS of oppositions to my Aries planets, he is a good and gentle guy, but sometimes I find him boring *slaps face silly*. It sounds like I'm more into the bad guys... *sigh*

Well the Sag isn't ALL bad, Ami... He didn't play me like I thought he did, everything he said was true. The problem with him is that he's too proud, too stubborn and too thick-headed to realize the two above! But he LOVES me, still... While we were apart, he hovered around my work place to get a glance of me.

The two of them could not be more different. Though about the same age, Sag is a man in every sense, S the Libra is still a boy and lives with his parents. With the Sag, I always get into a fight, but when we made up it was so sweet and emotionally intense that I forgot all about the fighting. With Libra (S) I cannot fight because he agrees to everything I say! Now I'm an Aries, some degree of fighting is necessary for me because it's hot and allows me to blow the accumulated steam but not ALL the time! That's just exhausting.
As for what I feel about them... Sag is an all-consuming passionate-spiritual-emotional love. Libra is (so far) platonic affection (have not yet seen the Venus-Mars square in action!).

My mind is set, I want A (the Sag) back. What I'm asking is if it will work out this time. I guess I was hoping that he will realize, after a month of separation and suffering, that he needs to change his ways and make an honest effort with me. But... I am afraid his big ego wins over me. This is my question...

posted October 03, 2011 11:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
My mind is set, I want A (the Sag) back.

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That`s what I`ve been thinking reading your first paragraphs. I think it is never a good sign if you think a possible love interest is "boring".

I hope you two, Sag and you, can work it out; really sounds as if it was just a misunderstanding. Mercury retrograde? do the two of you have confusing Neptune-Mercury aspects?

posted October 04, 2011 12:04 AM            

He has a Mercury-Neptune conjunction which conjuncts my Neptune widely and trines my Mercury tightly (so we both have Mercury-Neptune aspects natally and a dw in synastry).

posted October 04, 2011 04:30 AM            

sounds like Mercury retro has been a big one this time.

I think though the Neptune may figure in; Mercury-Neptune can be psychic and telepathic and inspiring at best, but can also cause some confusion and unclarity in communication.

And with that Mars squaring Mercury, this may pile up and blow into your face. at least Mars tends to clear the air.

posted October 04, 2011 11:44 AM            

The synastry/composite would be great, if it wasn't for too much Martian energy, we both have our Marses on the other's angles (his on my Asc, mine on his DC), we both have a Mars-Pluto hard aspect natally, which is repeated in the synastry (dw) and of course the composite. THAT is the problem here...
So far we managed to deal with the misunderstandings, eventually, but they lead to anger and frustration and you know how that went.

Another issue is Uranus, because there are shocks at every turn. First, his illness. Then, his lab results getting mixed (which unbelievably actually happened). Now, final shock... We made up, decided to get back together, he even said he'd like to marry me... BUT... he's no longer in the country and won't be until January and is actually uncertain if he will ever come back...

This is so friggin' unfair... It's not enough that we fight amongst each other, but when things get better, something external comes up to shake things up again. I sure like drama in my relationships, that's for sure!!

He said he can't ask me to wait for him... but what choice do I have? I never felt like this for anyone, not even Bull... Yes, that's right... Sag trumps Bull! Despite everything... I didn't think love could overcome so much and still go stronger... and I know it's not delusion talking. This time I am certain.

posted October 05, 2011 07:46 AM            

I see your Page of Cups, the message of being reunited with this man.
There's even a whimsical Magician in the middle that made you feel healed and relaxed that he loves you.
Currently and in the near future, he is prominent in your life: The Devil and the Emperor. You will give in to your passion for him and he will be a central piece in your life.
In the long-term position, and the answer to your question about whether this one will work out, I get the Temperance. Yes, with patience and persistence this relationship can be transformed into something beautiful.
It is your energy and will that will transform it. So the question is: do you really want to do this? If your answer is yes, I say go for it 100% and expect work but also plenty of rewards.

posted October 05, 2011 12:27 PM            

this story between you and Sag is pretty unbelievable, Uranian, definitely, who would have thought that this is really possible?

posted October 06, 2011 01:32 PM            

hugs
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Originally posted by Hera:
Thank you, Anon! Your reading is very spot on, especially about the hard work part... and it being up to me. I love him to no end, but sometimes I wonder if maybe he is unfixable, too hurt in the past to ever learn to count on someone else. It will be something to ponder on in the following period.

Thank you, again!

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posted October 09, 2011 05:46 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Yeah, in theory I'm doing alright, it's the practice that's killing me LOL. Hope to get it right this time.

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Same here.

posted October 09, 2011 07:05 AM            

You know what I did the other day? Well, I have ALWAYS hated to shop for clothes. Always thought the selling ladies were looking at me funny, like I'm some sort of white trash wanting to try on a Cinderella outfit. But I went to the mall, where all the cool kids and super-elegant ladies go to and I entered all the fancy shops looking for a suit for the Congress. I was in my jeans and slippers, looking pretty much like white trash, but I had ATTITUDE! Not in a rebellious, revendicative sense, but I went there all relaxed and sure of myself and I tried on various suits and in the end I bought my elegant suit, 2 shirts and a fancy dress! In my friggin' slippers!!

posted October 09, 2011 07:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
[B]the only one who's judging you and looking downwards at you is your own self. [B]

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Yes, just recently I started thinking that maybe noone is really judging myself as harshly as I do (and my mom maybe), because noone is really THAT interested probably.

Actually that reminds me of a little incident, when we were going to see Jude`s performance looking for our seats, my friend suddenly tapped my shoulder and said: "That guy over there was just totally checking you out."
My first thought was: don`t be silly!
And then when she insistead I was thinking: What is wrong with him?

Tells a lot about my opinion on myself, right?

And yes, I HATED going shopping with my mother. It was really exhausting. She has Moon, Venus and Mars in Virgom,, ASc in Cancer and Sun and Mercury in Scorpio.
Yes, she is critical, and yes she will express it in her typical Plutonic way, though of course I know it is just because her Cancer-nature wants to protect me, and therefore she is telling me the truth and reflecting back to me how I look and how I should have a straighter back and so on. Of course it took me many years to figure out that it was not the truth but just HER perception of it.
Still struggling with it though.

But honestly my Stellium in Sag and Moon in Aqua have a hard time really getting her on that level.

(my Sag stellium falls into her 6th house also, i suppose I am driving her crazy)

posted October 09, 2011 07:25 AM            

I guess more moms are like that, hu?
Actually mine is still trying to tell me what to wear and what not to wear for work or whatever.
She doesn´t succeed that well with it though; basically I will just ignore her at a certain point after having made clear that I do not care, as I like that pullover and that is just it, and if she doesn`t like it it is her problem not mine. Of course she goes into silent pouting angry mode then, but I learned to shut up myself.
I only pity my poor Dad in these situations, who is not well equipped to deal with that kind of silly tension (he has Sun, Venus, Jupiter in Aquarius; mars in Libra, though is ASC and Saturn in Virgo and Mercury in Cappy - but it IS silly to be upset about the question what cloth to wear. ).