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Take your time, I'm in no rush. Look at it when you feel comfortable doing so.

posted November 08, 2011 06:06 AM            

Q: Whats in store for Hera and this new guy?

Storks - Birds - Ring - Clover- Ship
Base = Woman

posted November 08, 2011 06:49 AM            

Welcome back!

I cannot read the charts above (they don't show on my screen as charts).

But I feel you are still pretty stuck on the exbf and committing to anyone at this point would be wrong.

I'm not sure how old you are btw, but are you aware that men will say anything to get u to sleep with them? That he said he wants a committed relationship with you means nothing at this point, since he has no idea who you are beyond your looks! The "honeymoon" joke is very telling in that respect.

And, honey, I said it before and I will say it again: forget about the exbf. What holds you back is a (well justified and human) mix of bad habit, obsession, and old feelings. The heart needs to mend. It takes time. Mending won't happen when you keep hoping you will get back together.

My 2 cents in a very straightforward Sag-style manner....

Please take care.

Anongrl10

posted November 08, 2011 07:10 AM            

I see some nice things in the composite, but this Mars-Neptune-opposition on the MC-IC-axis, squaring ASC, and all within tight orbs...
I am not totally sure how to judge this, especially since it is part of a Kite with Venus-Pluto-Mars-Grandtrine.
But it still is something to look out for. I do not like challenging Neptune aspects in a compoosite. In the best case it is simply confusing.

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posted November 08, 2011 07:40 AM            

You have a moon conjunct Lilith, which I would call soulful. That one, I would put in the category of soul, rather than pure attraction, wheras the former seems like pure atraction.

Tell me about the relationship, Hera. How does it feel?

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posted November 08, 2011 07:50 AM            

Re- Mercury conjunct my Saturn... at times I found him a little boring... in the beginning, when I just met him... He would talk about the weather, if you can imagine that... Guess I was expecting something more exciting. Lately the conversations have improved greately, but I guess I tend to be critical with him in my head over minor details. I am like this with almost everyone, myself included (Mercury opp Saturn natally).

Re - Moon conj Lilith. I had this one before, I was Moon, he was Lilith and I got hurt. I don't want to hurt him. He is into me more than I am into him. I am very confused atm... and don't want to give him false hopes.

posted November 08, 2011 07:58 AM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
Hera,

I see some nice things in the composite, but this Mars-Neptune-opposition on the MC-IC-axis, squaring ASC, and all within tight orbs...
I am not totally sure how to judge this, especially since it is part of a Kite with Venus-Pluto-Mars-Grandtrine.
But it still is something to look out for. I do not like challenging Neptune aspects in a compoosite. In the best case it is simply confusing.

And I agree, I think you will proably not be able to fall in love, until you get over your exbf. Also the break is so super fresh, give yourself time!

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posted November 08, 2011 08:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Anon, he's not like that. I've known him longer than my exbf, we've been friends so far. And yes, he does want a commited relationship, not all men tell lies and are out to get me, take advantage of me or abuse me. Not even my exbf, whatever opinion you may have of him. If he was after that, he could have gotten it already.

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Hera, it's not my business at all. You asked what we think. I'm your friend. I based my feedback not only on what you post here but also -and mostly- on what you have intimated on your emails to me.
I wonder about this: you say he is a friend that you know longer than your exbg; so I assume he knows you're fresh out of a disastrous situation? If he's truly your friend, and saw you in the turmoil you had been as a result of the previous story, not only wouldn't he rush you but also he would be very wary to say. do or promise anything to you just now.
Perhaps he's not after sex, but surely you don't want to commit to someone just because you want to commit to anyone soon! You need to figure out if you get along as a couple first, right? If it was a matter of just wanting to commit, people would marry anyone who wants a kid (and we all know how failed these marriages end up being esp. for strong-willed women like us who want specific things from a relationship and won't compromise easily or with whatever). Alas, it's not enough.
We all -you included- seem to agree that you need to take a break. In the same thread (here), you have both asked to look at the synastry for you and this "friend" (potential new bf, more like) and you also confessed thoughts about going back to your last bf....... Do you see what I'm seeing? It doesn't sound like you are over anything quite yet.

The way I see it is this: even if Mr. Right knocked on your door tomorrow, you would have to say "no sorry". You have some serious issues to deal with. It's not time to think seriously about kids and marriage - even with a man who would be perfect for you. Why? Because you are not in this place. Wanting something so badly that we overlook everything else in life... not a good recipe for success and happiness.

And that's my last post on this. I know you hate to hear the truth and I'm not one to withhold it. Sorry.

Please take care.

posted November 08, 2011 08:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Thank you, LBA! Your cards picked up on something... yes, we are thinking of traveling together. He seems very much into me and said he wants a serious committed relationship with me. He even showed my picture to his mom and joked something about a honeymoon lol (re: traveling).

The problem is me... Obviously I'm not over my ex and a part of me is still holding out a candle for him... which is stupid. But I loved him like no other man in my life, ever. I know you said you don't feel confident to do readings for me because I'm at a crossroad and have to make big decisions, but can I please ask you to draw for me and my ex?.... I know I probably shouldn't... but I can't stop thinking of him ... I'd wish to feel something for the Libra, sometimes I think I might... but it will never be like I felt for the Sag... Please, if you can, I just need to get it out of my system... know there's no hope left. I'm trying to move on, but something prevents me. D@mn karmic relationships!

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I know exactly where you are, because i have spent two precious year of my life there. and finally i came to terms with my heart, i said to it 'ok I agree with you, you still love him and you always will, I will not fight you back now, i rather admit that you are right that you cannot get over him, so now that I have agreed lets make a deal, I won't fight you and you won't fight me the next time i tell you to make some space inside you for another man'
and it worked. I'm so much at peace since after i came to accept that i love him and i always will BUT at the same time he is not good enough for me and he who is, will come along very soon.
So make a pact like this with yourself and then i know it takes time and all, but with such a positive spread i do not think we should ask about your ex- since you already know he is gone, there is no way now for him to be with you, and it has happened because someone needs YOU in his life more than your ex does/did. Therefore, focus on yourself, and everything for a while, then I will do for you and your ex- if you still want to know.Things happen, relationships make and break all the time, you are not the first person with a heart-break but you know we all have to move on at some point.

I was not sure about ship indicating either travel or longing for something, but you confirmed it was travel, and closer to ring it can actually be a honey-moon. The luck is favoring you so take a step. If you do not make a move towards life now, you will remain stuck in this for a long time trust me! The quicker you get out of it the better it is!

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posted November 08, 2011 08:47 AM            

Tree/Fox --- Child/Anchor---Rider/Scythe
------Snake/Fish-----Book/Letter--------
---------------Key/Ship----------------

Present Situation:
Tree/Fox - Child/Anchor - Rider/Scythe

Tree does represent a past life connection, which is not exactly what it seems. The Fox tells me there has been some dishonesty and cheating involved in this relationship which leads us to the Child/Anchor. If it represents the Child he is having with Other woman (Snake) then this child (which I think is a girl) is going to stay for a long term, its not going to disappear.
Since the child has not bee born yet, I would look at it as you, who has stagnated her life because of him. You are not looking forward to the things you should rather you are being sticking to one ground not moving at all. The Rider/Scythe tells me its because of an unexpected news. The Child is happily staring at the Tree and her back is towards the Rider. You are probably so engrossed in this relationship that you are not seeing other men or opportunities that are coming towards you.

Outcome: Snake/Fish + Book/Letter

Some betrayals, jealousy will come out in open. In relationship readings, Snake often represents the other woman, the ex-lover of the man in question.This woman has since come out in open so in the outcome position it shows that you will soon realize that whatever happened (the betrayal or the other woman) was not something you would want to mess with. The Combo with Tree and Child on snake's top tell me that she is going to having his child and she is going to stay definitely in his life for a long time.
The Book with Child-Rider combo tells the baby hasn't been born yet but the news will arrive in future. This baby will bring a news for him/you which you both did not expect (The news would be that there is no chance for him to leave her and the baby now). A quick question, is the other woman very emotional or rich type? I wanted to decipher the Fish next to her.

posted November 08, 2011 08:58 AM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:
Hera, it's not my business at all. You asked what we think. I'm your friend. I based my feedback not only on what you post here but also -and mostly- on what you have intimated on your emails to me.
I wonder about this: you say he is a friend that you know longer than your exbg; so I assume he knows you're fresh out of a disastrous situation? If he's truly your friend, and saw you in the turmoil you had been as a result of the previous story, not only wouldn't he rush you but also he would be very wary to say. do or promise anything to you just now.
Perhaps he's not after sex, but surely you don't want to commit to someone just because you want to commit to anyone soon! You need to figure out if you get along as a couple first, right? If it was a matter of just wanting to commit, people would marry anyone who wants a kid (and we all know how failed these marriages end up being esp. for strong-willed women like us who want specific things from a relationship and won't compromise easily or with whatever). Alas, it's not enough.
We all -you included- seem to agree that you need to take a break. In the same thread (here), you have both asked to look at the synastry for you and this "friend" (potential new bf, more like) and you also confessed thoughts about going back to your last bf....... Do you see what I'm seeing? It doesn't sound like you are over anything quite yet.

The way I see it is this: even if Mr. Right knocked on your door tomorrow, you would have to say "no sorry". You have some serious issues to deal with. It's not time to think seriously about kids and marriage - even with a man who would be perfect for you. Why? Because you are not in this place. Wanting something so badly that we overlook everything else in life... not a good recipe for success and happiness.

And that's my last post on this. I know you hate to hear the truth and I'm not one to withhold it. Sorry.

Please take care.

Anongrl10

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Jeez... The honeymoon thing was a joke. He apologized for it after that, he said he would like for that to happen, but knows it's too soon. As I said, we're spending time together AS FRIENDS right now. He made his intentions clear and I was asking about the POTENTIAL of a relationship with him IN THE FUTURE, when I will feel I am ready for it. I'm not gonna marry the first guy who comes along just because I desperately want a family.

posted November 08, 2011 09:27 AM            

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Originally posted by love being Aries:
Hera:
I did a spread focusing on you and your ex-
The cards were very clear. Here it is:

Tree/Fox --- Child/Anchor---Rider/Scythe
------Snake/Fish-----Book/Letter--------
---------------Key/Ship----------------

Present Situation:
Tree/Fox - Child/Anchor - Rider/Scythe

Tree does represent a past life connection, which is not exactly what it seems. The Fox tells me there has been some dishonesty and cheating involved in this relationship which leads us to the Child/Anchor. If it represents the Child he is having with Other woman (Snake) then this child (which I think is a girl) is going to stay for a long term, its not going to disappear.
Since the child has not bee born yet, I would look at it as you, who has stagnated her life because of him. You are not looking forward to the things you should rather you are being sticking to one ground not moving at all. The Rider/Scythe tells me its because of an unexpected news. The Child is happily staring at the Tree and her back is towards the Rider. You are probably so engrossed in this relationship that you are not seeing other men or opportunities that are coming towards you.

Outcome: Snake/Fish + Book/Letter

Some betrayals, jealousy will come out in open. In relationship readings, Snake often represents the other woman, the ex-lover of the man in question.This woman has since come out in open so in the outcome position it shows that you will soon realize that whatever happened (the betrayal or the other woman) was not something you would want to mess with. The Combo with Tree and Child on snake's top tell me that she is going to having his child and she is going to stay definitely in his life for a long time.
The Book with Child-Rider combo tells the baby hasn't been born yet but the news will arrive in future. This baby will bring a news for him/you which you both did not expect (The news would be that there is no chance for him to leave her and the baby now). A quick question, is the other woman very emotional or rich type? I wanted to decipher the Fish next to her.

Advice: Key/Ship
The key tells you that this is destiny, you cannot help it, so be wise and accept it. The Key also provides you with solutions and with Ship next to it I can clearly see it says "Move ON" and that is good for you. Remember, The Key is the destiny, its Kismet so what it reveals is definitely going to happen, so if it says you have to move on that means eventually you will, the "when" part depends on you. Surrounded by Snake and Book I would say some woman involved with counselling or some really educated woman might help you in moving on.Try writing or reading.

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Thank you, LBA for doing the reading for me and my ex. I needed that. The situation is very complex. He did not cheat on me, he slept with her before he met me. If there's cheating and betrayal taking part, it's not by me for sure. And he has been honest with me about the details, so I think it's her, because she has done it before (trying to trick him into having a relationship with her - not gonna go into details, but she is a sneaky one).
I did a horary on the pregnancy and the paternity of the baby and posted it somewhere else. While one user said it is his baby, most agree it is not. It is very clear, he was Mercury, she was Venus and the baby's father is Sun. The baby was Mars and I was Jupiter. Sun conjuncted Venus at the same spot where Mars (the baby) was in the horary. Mercury (my ex) conjuncted Venus after that, while retro (not thinking straight). I don't know much about her, just that she is younger than me and kind of desperate. In the horary she was Venus in Scorpio in detriment, suggesting ill-characted, which she sure has proven. Mercury was applying to conjunct her, but will never perfect the conjunction, because after entering Sagittarius (which I rule - meaning he might try to win me back) he will go in retro motion and Venus will move on. So he will NOT marry her either way. If it's his child, he will recognize it and spend time with him or her, but he resents the baby's mother for deceiving him and telling him she is 6 months pregnant with his kid out of the blue. She will be in his life, yes, but he will never marry her. The only way horary will show he's the baby's father is if Sun is his secondary significator. Him (Mercury) is not tied to the baby, he is applying to square him, but she (baby's mom) prohibits that square. WHY??
They are taking the test again, the first one was sort of inconclusive.
There are a lot of scenarios that could have taken place. She could have faked the test, providing different DNA sample for the father than my exes (he wasn't in the country and didn't take part in the test, which was done through a "trusting" friend). Libra guy suggested something which is even more despicable, that she had IVF with his sperm from the condom (he was adamant about using protection). The first DNA test shows he is related to the baby, so she could have slept with my ex's brother. There are a lot of unaswered questions about this and it all looks very suspicious to me. But as your cards indicated, I have decided to dissociate myself from their mess, not have anything to do with it anymore. I am curious about the result and the real truth, but too much has happened for me to turn back.
The baby is a boy from the horary. I don't know yet in reality.

I will move on. I am decided to do so. And I really don't have much of a choice, do I? It's just that I have to think very carefully and analyze my choices for my future. He said he's coming back in the country for me in January, but if I start something with the Libra guy by then... it's not going to matter anymore. And I cannot put my life on hold for him anymore, either. So yes... I will move on. Where to? I don't know at this point. Still have to clear the mess in my head about all of this.

posted November 08, 2011 10:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:

I know you mean well and only look after me, but you come off as cold and a bit cynical right now. Maybe I need a reality-check, I don't know. I am confused right now, in quite a vulnerable state and this is not helping me. As I said, I know you have the best of intentions, and I am grateful for that and for everything you've done for me, but right now it is not helping me. Maybe I'm just not ready to hear it, I don't know. But right now it's more discouraging than it is helpful. I know that's not how you meant it, but it's how I am receiviing it, probably due to my hypersensitivity at this crucial time in my life.

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posted November 09, 2011 02:53 AM            

you asked about compatibility, and I find it interesting how your relationship-house rulers (5th, 7th, 8th) have so many oppositions with your Sun`s also being exactly opposite.
It usually is a big attraction factor, but can swing back and forth again.

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Originally posted by Hera:
I myself am kind of numb right now... I enjoy his company and he's fun to be with... but I don't know if I will be able to love him... or forget my ex.

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You need time to process emotionally what happened.

If you enjoy his company, just keep it there. In friends` mode and see what develops.
Maybe you will have deeper feelings for him, maybe not. It is probably too early to say that.

BUT just one thing: you met him before the Sag and did not fall for him, did you?