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Topic: stuck and I can't get out - synastry help needed
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sis
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posted November 22, 2011 05:55 PM
  
I have been studying our synastry with this guy, hoping to find the information I need to get him out of my mind. It was an extra ordinary affair, extra ordinary things happened , to my suprise he got married to a rising star. Yes, he is married now and I am patheticaly, still hoping for a reversal of events. So, I keep looking and looking to our synastry chart to see if there is any hope. I'd like to know how he feels about me. Our Venus is dead..Can anyone help please... I do not know how to attach the synastry chart here, please teach me how. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted November 22, 2011 06:25 PM
Man, it sounds bad. I am sure someone will take pity on you and do a chart lolI would, if I knew how. ------------------
Want a peek in to my journal?
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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yuting
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posted November 22, 2011 06:55 PM
quote:
Originally posted by sis:
I do not know how to attach the synastry chart here, please teach me how.
Go back to the previous page with the topic listing. On top left hand side, there is a link called how to post a chart. Click the link and follow the instructions there
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sis
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posted November 22, 2011 07:18 PM
 may be I should quit studying synastry by looking to the chart I have with him. It keeps refreshing my memory. I have investigated every aspect... by now I should have had some answers. Maybe I see the answers but deny them. That's why I think an objective eye can help.We have way to many Chiron aspects. As a matter of fact, we have too many aspects which is making it harder to interprate.. If anyone can help, it will be very much appreciated. Thank you.
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sis
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posted November 22, 2011 07:19 PM
Yuting, thank you so much ! I will try it now.IP: Logged |
sis
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posted November 22, 2011 07:38 PM
http://s1127.photobucket.com/albums/l629/thechironicdance/ IP: Logged |
fireopal
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posted November 22, 2011 07:39 PM
 Thought I'd post it up for you. IP: Logged |
sis
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posted November 22, 2011 07:42 PM
THANK YOU SO MUCH  IP: Logged |
fireopal
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posted November 22, 2011 07:46 PM
np...someone will feel in tune with it and help you I'm sure. If you dont' get a response just bump it up okay no worries!!IP: Logged |
sis
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posted November 22, 2011 07:58 PM
I shall do that. Thank you again IP: Logged |
starcrossedleo
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posted November 22, 2011 10:14 PM
As the Pluto person in the Venus square Pluto you are having a hard time letting go. You have some challenging aspects (besides for him being married). He seems unpredictable (Uranus) which makes you feel emotionally insecure (moon). His affections are unpredictable. Running hot and cold unexpected breakups Venus square Uranus. You have some fated aspects. Node and vertex contacts to angles but your chart rulers do not make any aspects to each other which is important. Also his Saturn square mars tells me he can be pretty hard on you. He has Saturn in the 7th which means he takes his one on one relationships seriously. But also that he has some karma there and that his spouse may be older and more responsible than him. He just seems really unpredictable to me. Moving on is hard but you will get there. I hope this makes sense. Hugs to you Starcrossed leoIP: Logged |
sis
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posted November 23, 2011 03:46 PM
Well very much sounds like him Unpredictable. He was changable all the time but him deciding to marry a woman from head to toe different than what he used to like before. a complete change of attitude, even dressing style... to be honest I thought of this change as an act. It was so sudden and so not him, it did not seem natural. The woman he is married younger than him but a very ambitious lady who is rich & a rising star I was not easy to deal with. And I've got nothing to give him realy. Both of us had strange attitudes against each other. But somehow I was healed by him. He was an inspiration. Sex was great What I had with him was like a fantasy.. But all the things you mentioned on your reply about him are so true. Gotta learn to let go Thank you so much for your insights.
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sis
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posted November 23, 2011 04:10 PM
Sorry ! I just realised the outer circle is "I". I have my Uranus on MC on my natal chart. Saturn in my 7th house. Well, to be honest all the things you mentioned are so true about me as well. I am always confused with this man. We used to confuse each other a hell a lot. Hit me, beat me, you can'T hurt me attitude towards each other but a lot of passion in bed Puff... why do I so strongly feel I have an unfinished business with him. Gotta stop this... He's married now for god's sake ): IP: Logged |
sis
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posted November 23, 2011 05:19 PM
I am such a hasty person. That's why my replies come in pieces.I would be grateful if you can explain our chart rulers do not make any aspect to each other ? My Mercury opposes his Saturn ? Does not this count ? Thank you for your replies IP: Logged |
starcrossedleo
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posted November 23, 2011 06:33 PM
I think it is your Venus that opposes his saturn. Your Mercury is out of orb. Your chart ruler saturn makes no aspect to his chart ruler mercury. He has saturn in the second which is associated with a fear of poverty and issues surrounding self worth. Except for his moon in Taurus, he has no planets in earth or any other fixed planets.
His moon in Taurus tells me he can't deal with any deep issues. Material security and practical considerations are what he is about so marrying the rising star could be a motivation. Your NN conjunct his DC . when I think of the NN conjunct anything it is like a giant sucking sound. I have this with my boyfriend's conjunct my IC and to this day I can't totally verbalize what draws me to him and him to me but it's like a magnet
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sis
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posted November 23, 2011 08:10 PM
Yes, it's my Venus opposing his Saturn.
Our Venus aspects are miserable. How come, I feel so much for him. with these Venus aspects I do not know. Deep in my heart, I sense that he got
married to the rich rising star for security purposes. He had a very tough childhood. Divorced parents. Father absent. He had to support his mom since he was a teenage. He was kinda homeless for the last couple of years, before he got married. Living like a rolling stone at that time. That Magnet thing... It's so true. I don't understand my feelings for him. Never did.
I could never say "no" to him. However, whenever he disappointed me, I tried to distance myself but he did not let me go. So, it was like he takes one step towards me, I take one step towards him and then he drops the ball, I take a step back, he steps in, I get closer, he drops the ball.. this cycle went on & on. So, I believe he as well had some kind of weakness for me. I always felt like I could get under his skin. I would really love to know what I meant for him. Thank you so much starcrossedleo. I truly appreciate your help. IP: Logged |
starcrossedleo
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posted November 23, 2011 10:19 PM
I don't know asteroids but came across an interesting aspect. His Juno conjunct your SN might indicate a marriage in a past life. You really have some karmic connections and you do affect him. YOu drop your stellium of planets in his 8th house which rules both sex as well as shared resources. This is a very intense house you are activating and both the planet and house person are affected. Your description of him describes to me someone lacking in fixed planets-He only has one. I know someone with no fixed planets -quite rare and she is quite a free spirit with no roots whatsoever but his second house saturn has him searching for material security and his taurus moon reinforces that. Hope this helps. IP: Logged |
starcrossedleo
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posted November 23, 2011 10:20 PM
I don't know asteroids but came across an interesting aspect. His Juno conjunct your SN might indicate a marriage in a past life. You really have some karmic connections and you do affect him. YOu drop your stellium of planets in his 8th house which rules both sex as well as shared resources. This is a very intense house you are activating and both the planet and house person are affected. Your description of him describes to me someone lacking in fixed planets-He only has one. I know someone with no fixed planets -quite rare and she is quite a free spirit with no roots whatsoever but his second house saturn has him searching for material security and his taurus moon reinforces that. Hope this helps. IP: Logged |
sis
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posted November 24, 2011 12:36 PM
A past life marriage... Reincarnation is a concept I neither believe nor not belive. Can be, can't be. But I feel like I know the very core of his soul... And I don'T know where that is coming from. Such a weird connection we had.He is / was a free spirit. A funky, wild man. Till he got married and converted into something else. So, if the relationship is karmic, what does it mean in this life time ? What's the aim ? or was the aim. Why can't I choose to let him go ? Thank you
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mintgirl123
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posted November 24, 2011 02:27 PM
Sis this is definitely karmic, and fated that you would have a relationship with him. However, most soulmates come into our lives to teach us lessons, they're not meant to last long term unfortunately =(. I know how you were feeling. I have had that feeling before because I was in a soulmate relationship also. I felt like I couldn't ever see myself without him, but I'm still here right? It's extremely extremely hard to let go, I know. But you know, it's not a good idea to hang onto him in this way. You need to move on. What is meant to happen WILL happen. If he is meant to come back to you permanently, he will. But in the mean time, don't have your life on hold for him hunny.IP: Logged |
starcrossedleo
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posted November 24, 2011 02:40 PM
Sis. Anon girl is right. Do not hang onto this guy who is currently unavailable . Your south node in the 5th makes you attached to the drama of romance and your north node in the 11th is pointing towards working on friendships in this life. The attachment to romantic relationships is seen in your south node as well as Saturn (karma) in one on one relationships . Trust your intuition and expand your horizons in developing friendships. Developing more friendships may be the key to detaching from
This guy.IP: Logged |
sis
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posted November 24, 2011 07:01 PM
Yeap, what is meant to happen will happen
I should stop investigating and carry on like you say. Facebook makes getting over part harder Romancewise, I am a case study. I always manage to distort the shape of my affairs and confuse everyone involved including myself. I am 37 and never had a proper relationship. I had affairs lasting many years but never become "lovers"
Although I got a long very well with children, I've never wanted to have my own.
Can this be how South Node - 5th house manifested in my life? North Node - 11th house / I have a lot of close friends. I know them for decades. From time to time, I was accused by some people & my family for being too close to my friends and neglecting other parts of my life. North node on the 11th so I did the right thing by being a friend oriented person in this life time. I might have overdone it though Thank you both. I appreciate your kind help.
I'll let go and find a new one. Hopefully ) IP: Logged |
starcrossedleo
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posted November 24, 2011 09:54 PM
Sis. I know that it is hard. Many times in my life I have been stuck on someone who is unavailable and held out hope. All I managed to do is waste a lot of time. I am loaded in the 5th house in libra so I am all about romance but I find if I can use my 5th house side for creativity I am better off. I'm also a Leo so more 5th house. With the sn they say that is an area where you are overdeveloped You seem to be on the right path by having many friends and taking the path of the 11th house. Hugs to you. Starcrossed leoIP: Logged |
sis
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posted November 25, 2011 02:20 PM
How funny human physchology is; the possibility of being married in a past life helps to soothe the obsession. I think because it makes you feel like you never really loose anyone. All of a sudden, you let go. Thank you IP: Logged |
starcrossedleo
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posted November 25, 2011 05:32 PM
Sid. It is so true. I never married and I always thought I missed out on something until it was proposed to me that maybe I mastered that area in a previous life and am here to work on another path. Kind of a nice way to look at it. The saying that you don't get everything . Well maybe you had it before so no you're really not missing out on anything! IP: Logged |
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