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Topic: Reading request about temper issues husband has
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amelia28
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From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted November 30, 2011 01:36 PM
  
I am married and husband is a good guy with a real good heart but struggles with temper issues that are significant enough to be of concern as is something that I really don't want to deal with for the rest of my life and I am really hoping he gains the maturity needed in the next year or so to deal with frustrations in a more balanced and rational way.Natally he has: moon sesquisquare mars/uranus
Sun square moon
Mars conjunct uranus and both square venus
Sun semisquare mars and uranus
Moon in the first I feel all these aspects contribute to his poor management with frustration. I would like to know if there is an aspect that hints that he will have a transformation in his personality and when this transformation will take place. I Like to use sidereal. Here is his chart:
 Should I post his transit chart or something else? Let me know what you need to help me with this question. Thanks in advance for all your help! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted November 30, 2011 02:27 PM
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amelia28
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From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted November 30, 2011 02:56 PM
Thank you Ami Anne  .IP: Logged |
prettywords
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posted December 02, 2011 03:52 AM
I don't do sidereal, but all those aspects you mentioned are spot on for temper issues.Can I ask if you knew he had a temper problem before you got married? IP: Logged |
amelia28
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From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 02, 2011 08:14 PM
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Originally posted by prettywords:
I don't do sidereal, but all those aspects you mentioned are spot on for temper issues.Can I ask if you knew he had a temper problem before you got married?
Why do you want to know this? I am asking if this will get better not trying to be judged for how I make decisions...that is personal. He takes care of me when I am sick, cooks for me and works hard to provide for us and so do I. He has good things. Everyone has defects so marriage is about making it work in spite of the defects. We have overcome a bunch of obstacles together and his temper issues could very well be another of the tons of things we have overcome. Every relationship always has something or a number of somethings. He is trying to get more control of it and I am trying to deal with him better too. I just would like to get if possible some confirmation that this obstacle will be overcome and if is not if I will leave him or stay in spite of this. and if I leave what year will this happen.
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prettywords
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posted December 03, 2011 12:00 AM
I asked because some people change after marriage, but your snapping at me tells me it was before marriage. I also asked because it does matter for interpreting. If its suddenly arisen it could be some weird transit. He won't change wo counseling. If u post the chart in tropical, I'll take a look. To know if you may leave I need your chart too. I also need the composite. I don't need synastry. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 03, 2011 12:43 AM
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Originally posted by prettywords:
I asked because some people change after marriage, but your snapping at me tells me it was before marriage. I also asked because it does matter for interpreting. If its suddenly arisen it could be some weird transit. He won't change wo counseling. If u post the chart in tropical, I'll take a look. To know if you may leave I need your chart too. I also need the composite. I don't need synastry.
Thanks for your help prettywords . I will post all three shortly.
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amelia28
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From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 03, 2011 12:52 AM
My tropical Chart:
His tropical Chart:
Our composite tropical:
 thanks for your help! IP: Logged |
iQ
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From: Chennai, India
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 03, 2011 10:33 AM
He loves you and you love him. No doubts about that from the Composite.He is "over thinking" [Look at all planets below the Axis, heavy introversion]. Anger is an outlet. He is not angry at you at all, just using anger as the easiest outlet. He could also be having regrets about not achieving enough. 3 planets in 6th, there are some Self-Pity issues and chances of depression. Mars-Uranus in Scorpio square Venus in Leo 2nd: He is not happy with his salary. Venus in Leo 2nd needs to be able to earn enough for say, heavy tipping every once in a while. Gemini Rising with 26 degrees [opposite Galactic Center] has to be a very powerful intellect, strong enough to come out of any psychological issue. Tr Neptune in his 12th is a drag, but I strongly feel Pluto when it comes to his 11th will drastically change his outlook to a more positive one. ------------------
http://tamsoft.co.in/articles.html Readings IP: Logged |
amelia28
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From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 03, 2011 02:13 PM
Thank you IQ........you described him very well and this brings me hope. Yay .You are right when he is angry is not about me usually but sometimes he makes it about me although I can see right through that is really not about me and he has high standards of how much money he wants to make and feels he is not accomplishing enough but this is changing and in part is because of my influence in him and helping him see that he is accomplishing more and more little by little (he belittles his progress) and bec he is super freaking smart and very creative so every year his financial situation gets a little better. It just sucks that he lets his state of mind be influenced so much by his perception of how well he his doing bc then the relationship suffers as I have to witness the anger and sometimes he displaces the anger on to me. But he is making a huge effort to change this and I am making a big effort to deal with situation when he gets like this better than I have historically. Your interpretation tells me we will probably overcome this issue . IP: Logged |
amelia28
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From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 03, 2011 03:09 PM
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Originally posted by iQ:
Tr Neptune in his 12th is a drag, but I strongly feel Pluto when it comes to his 11th will drastically change his outlook to a more positive one.
Hi IQ, I am looking at his transit chart on astro.com and I don't see neptune transiting in the 12th. Neptune appears to be transiting in his 9th and pluto in the 7th. I suppose that pluto transiting in the 7th could transform any negative relationship dynamics to positive ones though right? IP: Logged |
amelia28
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From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 03, 2011 04:22 PM
I looked up pluto transiting the 7th:
Pluto through the 7th house- Partnerships of all kinds go through major changes and are never the same. In new love relationships, there will be extreme depth of feeling. There can also be significant legal issues. Others will exert strong influences and incite personal changes in the person whose 7th house is being transited by Pluto. Attractions to dominating, strong secretive types, those in positions of power. There can be partnerships formed, business alliances or love/sexual associations with people in positions of power. Sometimes these will be kept secret. This transit will last several years so it seems that I will be a good influence in his personal growth and that changes esteeming from my influence will stick. My relationship with him has already been a good influence in him and it will continue to be so for a while. When I met him he was living at an office making hardly any money just barely enough to get by. He was then helping his friend manage a store who was taking advantage of his situation and was also a pick up artist who didn't want to move in with girl, get married or have kids. He says that I have changed him so much and fights for the relationship bc he says he changed for me. My support got him to get out of that office and once I got a job as a case manager we were able to move to an apartment town home and since then he has been growing financially every year. We moved in together and several years later got married and he now wants kids. IP: Logged |
iQ
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From: Chennai, India
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 04, 2011 05:23 AM
My bad Amelia, I looked up the transits on your Composite. I will get back to his transits later.IP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 889
From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 04, 2011 12:31 PM
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Originally posted by iQ:
My bad Amelia, I looked up the transits on your Composite. I will get back to his transits later.
OH ! thanks for clarifying.
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