posted December 06, 2011 04:55 AM            

Please can I have a reading re this situation

I posted this and got some astro responses but they may not be accurate because I dont have an accurate birth time for him.

Here goes...We met on a dating site and somehow things never got going and we remained friends yet there was always "something" there. He professed to be still not over his ex at that time.

There came a time when I told him how I felt and he said suggested that we have no contact until I "fell out of love with him". I respected that and 18 months later when I had healed myself and went back on the dating site where we had first met he contacted me. (Two days after I subscribed - he was still on the site) I suspect he had seen me back on the site but he sent me an email saying he thought he had seen me at a mall and was wondering how I was. I told him I was well. Emails continued for a bit and then I told him that I still loved him and this wasnt the wisest thing. Then he told me that he contacted me because of a dream that he had that compelled him to call me. He had been making love to me in that dream. He said he didnt know what this was or where it would go. I told him I didnt want to ruin the friendship and he said that he held me in his heart as a true and dear friend and that he was sure that neither of us would want to hurt the other.

Long story short we fell into a relationship but he didnt really treat me as though he cared for me. He wasnt cruel, just very evasive and distant. I never made any moves or demands on him all this time. Whatever happened between us was at his initiation

We 'broke' up when i told him that this limbo was painful for me. I was going through personal stuff with my family and all this went down at a time my life was turned on its head

Its been a year and he has contacted me again. He says he wants to be friends and that he regrets nothing that happened between us. We recently met again and he asked me if I was seeing anyone. As before he is the one who initiates all communication. He is acting strangely now. I love dogs and he recently sent me a picture of a dog that had been killed on the road.I told him that he is sick and he simply laughed it off

My quetions...

Why is he doing this? If he doesnt want me why has he always sought me out over the years? Will he ever forgive me? Will we ever meet again?

Please help me understand what is this thing between us....

posted December 06, 2011 06:27 AM            

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Why is he doing this? If he doesnt want me why has he always sought me out over the years? Will he ever forgive me? Will we ever meet again?

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I remember your story; I had probably responded on the string with his chart and your synastry.

I have no doubts this is a special relationship to you and probably also to him.
But even twin flames sometimes meet at the wrong time. If either or both are not evolved to a healthy emotional and spiritual stage they are simply not ready to handle the bond.

To answer one of your questions: there is nothing for him to forgive in you. The relationship didn't work for you and you had to break it up. It happens all the time. If he doesn't get over it, it's not your fault.
You don't need his forgiveness. Stop feeling guilty.

Why is he behaving as he does? You already answered this q of yours. He's sick. And you're special to him (even though he might not fully realize it or accept it or he may not even be ready to handle it).

Will you meet again? Life is long. Live it to the best of your knowledge. Aim for happiness. Does this relationship make u happy?

posted December 06, 2011 11:09 AM            

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posted December 06, 2011 11:13 AM            

You always seem to have just the right words to soothe my mind

I have wronged him in the sense that when we were apart, I contacted him on the site ..as someone else. There was no flirtation just sharing thoughts but these were deep thoughts. I misrepesented myself not because I wanted to hurt him or be deceitful but because I missed hom so much and just wanted to be in touch with him "without him knowing"
We connected at a very deep level "a soul connection" that we both felt and acknowledged but when he asked to meet i backed out

A few days ago he told me that he knew it was me and all of what he has done has been in revenge for my duplicity. he says he "fell in love" with the person I pretended to be and I hurt him by my actions

So you see I do have some responsibility and I do deserve this. I have asked his forgiveness but he has not responded

posted December 06, 2011 11:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Natsukashii:
Hi Anongirl

You always seem to have just the right words to soothe my mind

I have wronged him in the sense that when we were apart, I contacted him on the site ..as someone else. There was no flirtation just sharing thoughts but these were deep thoughts. I misrepesented myself not because I wanted to hurt him or be deceitful but because I missed hom so much and just wanted to be in touch with him "without him knowing"
We connected at a very deep level "a soul connection" that we both felt and acknowledged but when he asked to meet i backed out

A few days ago he told me that he knew it was me and all of what he has done has been in revenge for my duplicity. he says he "fell in love" with the person I pretended to be and I hurt him by my actions

So you see I do have some responsibility and I do deserve this. I have asked his forgiveness but he has not responded

I wish I had had the courage to tell him then. But its too late for tears and he hates me now

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Sweetie, it might not have been right to pretend to be someone else but you are not responsible for his falling for that persona. You said there was no flirtation only talking. Did you tell him in the end that it was you and why you did it? This is not a crime; you obviously wanted to be in touch because you missed him but you didn't want him to know that at the same time. So although it was not a commendable action, you didn't cause him any harm. The fact that he fell for that persona was his doing and he's just using this now to make you feel bad. I say stop looking for forgiveness. That's manipulation that he's doing.

I understand that you feel attached to him emotionally. As you say, you have not been happy with him. I know how hard it can be to disengage from such relationships. Something inside you always wants to see the good side of the other person. I think, you need to accept that you both have feelings for each other but at this point it is not for either your happiness or to your benefit to pursue these feelings further.

posted December 06, 2011 05:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Natsukashii:
Hi Ami

I have done the synastry thing already and you have offered some insights there but I dont have his time of birth, so I dont know how useful that will be to you

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OK I thought your name was familiar!

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posted December 07, 2011 01:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Natsukashii:
Hi Anongirl
Again, thank you for this. I love the way you have with words. This may not have been a tarot reading but your words have touched and inspired me. Thank you for your interest in my story and the kindness you have shown.Stay blessed.

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