posted December 10, 2011 11:36 PM            

I am not crazy about the Venus...

posted December 11, 2011 10:30 AM            

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Originally posted by downtomars:
[B]So, how does this composite look?

I am not crazy about the Venus...

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First to qualify, I am only a beginner, but I feel this is not a bad composite. Maybe not very sexily intense, but there is good emotional connection: Ceres conj Asc, Sun trine moon with moon in 7H and Sun in 4H on IC.

Ven conj Jup is always nice and good will. Them on 3H cusp and Gemini on top, I think maybe very communicative about each other's feelings and goodwill. Venus is also sextile Asc (though orb not very tight, but with Venus & Jup together, should still feel some effect). The relationship is probably quite mentally stimulating too, Sun conj Mer trining moon/NN in 7H, plus mars trining Uranus nearby, so maybe the msg for this couple is to seek mutual communication of emotions & mental stimulation through their partnership

posted December 11, 2011 11:34 AM            

For a beginner you hit the nail on the head right away!

posted December 11, 2011 11:50 AM            

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Originally posted by downtomars:
Yuting,

For a beginner you hit the nail on the head right away!

This was not a sexually fulfilling relationship but I have never been more intellectually stimulated. I think that Saturn in the 5th squaring the moon might have something to do with that also

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Thanks! I welcome feedback, whether I am right or wrong. I am learning.

For the sexual part, instead of the Sat/Moon sq (which is very wide orb), I would say it might be because there arent any aspects between Ven/Mar or Plu. In addition Uranus is in 8H (sexual house & in Scorpio) trining Mars, but squaring Sat (which is more exact than Sat/Moon). So I would not say there is not sexual intensity, but it could be on and off and one or both party might be somewhat a more conservative/inhibited person. Cant tell unless we see the natal charts of both.

Btw, could you let me know the level of emotional rapport. I would think this would be quite a strong theme and potential key to fulfillment in this relationship (Sun on IC trine moon in 7H conj NN).
Family & partner

posted December 11, 2011 05:41 PM            

We actually have Moon-Moon widely conjunct, but out of sign, in our synastry chart (my Moon in Libra, his in Scorpio) and my Sun hits his Sun/Moon midpoint.

As for one of the partners being conservative/inhibited: his Venus is afflicted. His Venus is in Aries and it squares Saturn exact, squares Mars in Cancer (which should produce some heat I thought) and opposes Pluto. It does trine Neptune though. His Sun (in Taurus) is also in the 12th house. His Saturn and Mars are also widely conjunct. He has a double t-square thing too. Venus-Mars-Pluto (again, I thought this might bring heat!) and Venus-Saturn-Pluto.

He is a Taurus and really sensual but he is a little more passive sexually. He has gotten pretty aggressive though and that was great but that wasn't as often as the slow, sensual, expecting me to do most of the work...

I like someone who is a little more aggressive in the sex department. I have Venus in Leo conjunct the DC, Mars in Gemini in the 5th house trine Moon exact and Pluto widely. Sex is easy for me, I don't have hang-ups, but I am willing to work with him. Although sometimes it made me feel insecure because, well, I am sexy! He should've been worked up all of the time! (That is my Sun/Venus in Leo talking, don't mind me...)

posted December 12, 2011 10:10 AM            

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See, that's the thing about the composite/synastry, knowing to look for what isn't there instead of analyzing what is there. But the lack of Venus/Jupiter aspects really stuck out, immediately.

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I thought I saw Venus/Jup conj sextiling Asc. Shouldnt be that weak, unless the synastry was very weak in that or otherwise afflicted

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As for one of the partners being conservative/inhibited: his Venus is afflicted. His Venus is in Aries and it squares Saturn exact, squares Mars in Cancer (which should produce some heat I thought) and opposes Pluto. It does trine Neptune though. His Sun (in Taurus) is also in the 12th house. His Saturn and Mars are also widely conjunct. He has a double t-square thing too. Venus-Mars-Pluto (again, I thought this might bring heat!) and Venus-Saturn-Pluto.

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12H sun might make him less confident?
Trining Neptune, and Taurus, sensual, romantic, but not passionate. Your Leo might be somewhat heavy taste for him. T-sq could bring power/heat, but only when he had learned how to control/channel the power. Are you two still quite young? If he is still young, my guess is gotta wait at least till past Saturn return

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(That is my Sun/Venus in Leo talking, don't mind me...)

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No problem. You are talking to a fellow Sun/Venus in Leo

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We ended things with a question mark and I keep getting confirmation that I will probably have to be the one who makes a move toward reconciliation. So really, I am doing this composite to see if it would be worth it. (But, if I am questioning it, maybe it's not. I know for sure that it still isn't the right time thought...)

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Synastry is the energy flow between the 2 of you when you interact. Composite is when the 2 have meshed to form a single relatinship entity. The dynamics of synastry are probably more easily felt by the natives, while those of composite might take time to evolve. I guess is if a composite aspect echoes a synastry aspect or a native's natal aspect, it will be felt sooner, but if that aspect is lacking in the synastry or natal aspect or a positive evolution of a syanstry aspect (eg a synastric square to a composite trine of the same pair of planets), the aspect will take longer to show.

You know, before you gave me the feedback, I was thinking, if you two are young, or if one of you have strong sexual needs (seems like you in this case), then this might be a good friendship with warm feelings & goodwill, but the sexual disharmony would cause trouble. However, if both of you are older and seeking a more mature relationship based on companionship, it would be very nice.

All a matter of the nature of relationship you want and timing. If you two are both willing to be friends, rather than pushing for something more, I think you can have a good friendship.

If he were female or you male, he could be your close buddy

posted December 12, 2011 01:02 PM            

I am 32 and he is 37 - I guess that's just the way we are, set in our ways, so I should just get over it! LOL!

We have Venus trine Venus exact, which is great for friendship also but I am not interested in being friends with someone I am attracted to.

It is just about me, having a hard time getting over this man. Usually guys are more responsive to me and are aggressive about moving things forward so I was not used to his approach and it threw me off. Based on my chart, posted below, I need passion and commitment which are two things he avoided/is unable to give. Oh well. There will be someone else...

posted December 12, 2011 07:48 PM            

We have Venus trine Venus exact, which is great for friendship also but I am not interested in being friends with someone I am attracted to.

Still young yet, at an age something's learnt, something's yet to. Can see why it is difficult for you right now. Women are usually more sensual and sexual when they are in their 30s than 20s, unlike men, and you do have a chart asking for passion in love partnership.

So maybe when you have finally found your match and him his, you two could explore your friendship again.

It is just about me, having a hard time getting over this man. Usually guys are more responsive to me and are aggressive about moving things forward so I was not used to his approach and it threw me off.

Human chemistry is very interesting. eg, for me, I've had a relationship I was obviously in the more traditionally "male" role, while in another, I was obviously in the "female" role regardless of the gender. It can be seen in the synastry.

Some people are comfortably taking either role, and some will be less comfortable. So, 32 is still young. Find someone with whom you can be your comfortable self.

For some people, I would say wait to see if you meet someone, but for you, with a strong 3rd quadrant, you have strong relationship needs and one that can be shown to others at that. So I expect you will look proactively