posted December 22, 2011 10:31 PM            

We just drive each other completely crazy!!! I'm not sure if its a communication problem or what...but I often feel like he doesn't understand where I'm coming from. But he tells me he knows exactly what I'm feeling and what I want/need/. We get into these fights with each other but he doesn't see them as fights because he loves to debate and argue and my problem is I get heated so easily and it escalades. I tend to have a short temper and he has trust problems.

One big problem we have is that when we first met I hung out with a co-worker of ours (who ironically I met the exact moment that I met him) and nothing romantic happened. We just hung out and chatted. My boyfriend and I were not exclusive at the time and were nowhere near relationship status so I didn't think I needed to tell him. Well, two months later he found out that I had hung out with the other guy and got so mad about it saying that I lied to him and kept this from him and therefore I must be hiding something. 7 months later he still brings it up. He says he's over it but yet it still comes up. He doesn't get on me for it, although I feel like he is whenever it comes up. But he says that's not his intent but if the conversation fits then we get into it.

I'm not sure what to make of all this. He says that in time he'll be able to act as if he doesn't think I'm hiding anything from him but he currently feels like I will hide things from him. And I'm so hurt because thats not the kind of person I am. I am incredibly loyal and wouldnt do anything to hurt the ones I love.

Also, he keeps saying that he has no emotions and isn't capable of giving me all the affection and mushyness that he assumes I need. I don't see the problem (most of the time)...but of course him constantly telling me this makes me worry. Can this be due to his moon in scorpio and venus square pluto??

Anyway! Here are our charts...please help me make sense of this mess!!

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posted December 22, 2011 10:41 PM            

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posted December 25, 2011 11:29 AM            

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posted December 25, 2011 11:33 AM            

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posted December 25, 2011 11:34 AM            

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posted December 25, 2011 11:36 AM            

Your finances may be up and down. Also, you may learn your life lessons through this.Is this true?

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posted December 25, 2011 11:36 AM            

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posted December 25, 2011 11:37 AM            

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posted December 25, 2011 11:38 AM            

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posted December 25, 2011 11:41 AM            

A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?

Answer these and keep it bumped up and I will be back.

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posted December 25, 2011 11:44 AM            

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posted December 25, 2011 11:50 AM            

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posted December 25, 2011 05:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
You have Pluto in the 12th. You may have a secret fantasy life or a lot of primal emotions you feel you cannot share because you feel embarrassed or ashamed. is this true?

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As far as fantasy life, eh. I am realistic enough to know what to expect out of life so I don't try to hold on to many fantasies. Primal emotions YES but,I don't really feel like I can't share them with him because he likes honesty and he likes to know what I feel and think. Honesty and openness is the most important thing to him. His responses to my feelings, thoughts, etc can get me riled up and I get fiesty defending myself then we get into a fight.

But, I've always been encouraged to be myself and speak my mind.

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
You have a Scorpio ASC like I do. We have deep emotions of like or not liking someone.

Your finances may be up and down. Also, you may learn your life lessons through this.Is this true?

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Um...Yes with deep emotions. I can't meet someone (even a friend) without developing strong emotions for or against them right away. My finances can fluctuate but for the most part they are pretty steady. When money starts to run low I usually come into a lot of it shortly. I am very thrifty in this sense. I'm not sure about life lessons...but, I do realize how important it is to properly maintain finances.

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
You may have a hard time seeing HOW to make yourself financially stable.Is this true?

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It's funny you say this. As this current point in my life I am working a job that will end in April and I hope to never work for anyone again so I need to find a way to make my own money. So this is something that is currently affecting me.

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
You have a great desire to communicate. This is a great passion for you.

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Most definitely. I am very open-minded, vocal, and opinionated. I love to talk to people (although I usually do most of the listening and input occasionally)

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Your Sun combust your Merc in Aries. You are direct and come out with what you want to say. Do you have a hard time standing back in arguments? Do you jump in, fast, as a reflex?

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Yes, its actually a big problem because I don't think before I speak and the words that come out don't always properly reflect how I really feel. I have to try and take back the words I said and rephrase them. One of the things I'm trying to work on now. Take a breath then speak.

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
You have a very big warm ,soft heart which wants to just love people like a puppy.Is this true?
Your venus in Gem loves words and a man's mind. You want to have a loyal committed relationship. Your Chiron in the 8th may make deep emotions and deep passions have pain with them. Is this true?

A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?

Answer these and keep it bumped up and I will be back.

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HUGE HEART!!! I have sooooo much love to give!! I have such strong maternal instincts I long to have a family to take care of and love, it fulfills me.

I have always been fascinated by peoples thought processes. This is how I figure people out. I like to know how they got to their thought or where they're coming from. He says his best feature is his mind. I think it's so sexy. I do have very deep emotions I am an incredibly emotional creature.

When he and I first met he said that he was done with unemotional sex with random people and was looking to connect with someone on an emotional level. My exact response was "I'm as emotional as they come."

posted December 27, 2011 07:43 PM            

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posted December 27, 2011 10:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?

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