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Topic: Difficulty creating boundaries in this relationship
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JohnFKennedy Knowflake Posts: 472 From: US Registered: Aug 2009
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posted January 10, 2012 12:34 PM
How can I describe the relationship I have with this person.. it's thoroughly perfect in every way. I've never met someone so intuitive to the small subtleties to my moods like he is, and I've met and befriended a lot of empathic people in my life, so I have no shortage of that. But he takes it to the next level. I find his essence extremely endearing - that's an understatement. I love hearing what he has to say, I love hearing him describe the course his life has taken, his personal philosophies. When we're together it is the height of dreaminess. Just beyond the tales of romance novels. Now, that's all fine and great, but the fact of the matter is that it's not feasible for us to be together. It's just not realistic in the slightest - but it's hard to cut him off! It's not even a question of physical needs, but the fact I feel extremely emotionally nourished and healthy while with him. It's one of the best friendships I've ever had, but I feel like we lack boundaries and live in our own world. I'm an extremely realistic person and I know I shouldn't be doing things like this - things that "waste" my time, but I don't know. I feel so lost and ambiguous about all of this. What are the downfalls you guys see in this relationship? Be as harsh as you want, I'll take all the objective opinions I can get. He's on the outside and our birth times are accurate. Mine 100% so and his has been rounded up based on the general hour he gave me. IP: Logged |
carl Knowflake Posts: 870 From: Currently in DC, also China/CT/ME/France/my soul is all over the world! (aka vagabond) Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 10, 2012 12:38 PM
I don't get American women, or those brought up in the culture for a long time. I guess this post is one small example.Astrology aside, from your description. It sounds fine, nothing wrong. Try talking. See if you can agree to the idea of making better use of your time? But honestly I don't get it. And I do not mean that in a rude way, but saying that in a befuddled sense. IP: Logged |
lalalinda Moderator Posts: 1932 From: nevada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 10, 2012 12:38 PM
transferring to Personal ReadingsIP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy Knowflake Posts: 472 From: US Registered: Aug 2009
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posted January 10, 2012 12:46 PM
quote: Originally posted by carl: I don't get American women, or those brought up in the culture for a long time. I guess this post is one small example.Astrology aside, from your description. It sounds fine, nothing wrong. Try talking. See if you can agree to the idea of making better use of your time? But honestly I don't get it. And I do not mean that in a rude way, but saying that in a befuddled sense.
Well, he's 24 years older then me with two kids and we're at completely different stages in our lives, hence the fact it's not like anything substantial is going to result from this, and I already find myself having deep feelings for him when I know they have no roots for the future. I like stability. IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 2192 From: Saturn-free H12 ;) Registered: Aug 2010
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posted January 10, 2012 01:39 PM
Is Moon in sq to Saturn? (I hate charts without numbers) I have experience to share based on Moon/Saturn contactIP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy Knowflake Posts: 472 From: US Registered: Aug 2009
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posted January 12, 2012 06:58 PM
Yes, his moon is square to my saturn by 2 degrees. He really gets under my skin. I've never felt romance as more beautiful then when its with him, and there's never really been a shortage of men in my life. IP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy Knowflake Posts: 472 From: US Registered: Aug 2009
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posted January 13, 2012 12:17 PM
Man, does someone have to be in a desperate panic mode to get a response around here? I wonder sometimes with the calm way I phrase things. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 25726 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted January 13, 2012 12:18 PM
I have been looking, but getting caught up in other things. ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 25726 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted January 13, 2012 12:20 PM
This is a VERY intense and fated relationship. Ok ---is your question--"What are the bad things in it"? Are you willing to dialogue if I put up questions?------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 25726 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted January 13, 2012 12:26 PM
This is what I see so far. He is more "inward". You are more "outward". His 12th house planets which will be turned inward and be hard to express are conjunct your DSC so he brings them to you.His has a hard complex of planets in that they are Chiron, Saturn and Venus. You have an Aries venus, so you may be the chaser in the relationship. Your Mars energizes his Stellium with the above planets so you are like a strong force to get him moving. Is that true? His Stellium hits your Vertex point, so it is a very fated relationship where YOU will be more of the teacher and leader to him. Is this true so far? ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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carl Knowflake Posts: 870 From: Currently in DC, also China/CT/ME/France/my soul is all over the world! (aka vagabond) Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 13, 2012 11:04 PM
JFK - do what feels right. I mean, maybe this simplifies matters too much. But maybe not. But you state stabilitly is important to you. What..hmm..other two things, off the top of your head, are important? Does he suit these three things? If not...You need to satisfy your core values no matter how much the current situation engulfs you. On the other hand, like I said if this is such a great thing, don't just let it go... IP: Logged |