posted March 02, 2012 04:33 PM            

I am new to the board and fairly new to astrology.

My boyfriend and I are pretty much on the verge of a break up and I was wondering if anyone could do a combustibility reading to determine if we might be able to work through this.

ME:
10/25/81, Orange CA, 4:30 AM PST

HIM:
2/4/82, Oakland, CA, Time Unknown

posted March 02, 2012 05:23 PM            

Pluto and Saturn are strong in the synastry which means you can't always be happy-go-lucky with each other, because the intensity may make it hard to relax. There may be some mind games or control issues, possessiveness and jealousy, maybe trust issues, but the bond is very strong.

Now about "working through this", you are the only one who knows. You are in the relationship, so what do you think? Do you want to make it work? If so, then anything is possible, if the partner is at least somewhat compromising.

I think you guys have a good potential together but the road is definitely not an easy one.

Good luck!

posted March 02, 2012 05:36 PM            

I can definitely see the confusion and misunderstanding. Although, we have a very deep connection and get along really well, sometimes, our communication styles (about serious issues) are very different.

We really dont have too many trust issues. However, I recently kind of pushed him away by acting overly insecure... The exact opposite of how I normally am. I am typically very secure and have very high self esteem. I dont know... Something got into me and I started behaving from a place of low self confidence and it started to chip away at the relationship.

I told him that I would give him space to think about things as he said he did not know if he saw a long term future together due to my recent behaviors. I explained to him that I am still the woman he fell in love with and that I would get my emotions in check.

I am not sure if it is too late. I am more than willing to work things out! But I am not sure how he feels as of right now...

I wish I could know what is going on in his head as he is taking this time to get his thoughts together. Ha ha ha ha!

posted March 02, 2012 06:36 PM            

Just explain him your concerns, and try to be open with him, hopefully he will understand and you guys will be able to fix this.

I can definitely see you are very attached to each other so it would be a real pity if you don't make it through.

posted March 02, 2012 06:44 PM            

Basically, the ball is in his court. I wrote him a letter and read it aloud over the weekend; explaining to him why I think I had been acting out and expressing my desire to work things out and my love for him.

He said that he really did not see a strong future bc of everything that had transpired but that he would think about it and it was a hard decision. I think the letter threw him for a loop. When we first got on the phone, I think he had his mind made up to end the relationship. However, when I read the letter and shared a different context and perspective, he did not know how to react. The letter was somewhat long and I ended up emailing it to him also.

He explained that there is a lot to process because I said so much! Ha ha ha. So, hopefully, he will decide to work through things.

I have been tempted to contact him but have not. I want to give him his space and air to make his own decision. I do not want him to feel pressured.

posted March 02, 2012 07:00 PM            

Basic astrology forum, How to approach Synastry http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum12/private-jjLYZw161/HTML/000667.html
To enter this forum you need an extra password – (astrology)

Please remember to reduce the orb ratio down to 40% (ONLY for synastry bi wheel) as the max orb between planets is 3'. Composite should be 85% orbs

when you get this SYNASTRY chart, please also post the *pdf file*, above left of chart look for *view additional tables (PDF)* This will bring up 2pages. Scroll down to last page for the *aspect grid* THIS is very important as it seems to show more aspects than is visible on the bi wheel…

problem is uploading to photobucket (or imageshack) you have to change this from Abode format into a picture/jpeg format. This is done by getting the relevant page/grid in front of you on screen then, the press ‘prtsc sysrq’ - top row inbetween pause break and F12. This has been copied to clipboard.

Paste into Paint or some other photo software. Crop the picture and save to hard drive, then upload to photobucket, select chart, press IMG and past link into thread.... all done

Lastly, by making the effort to post the correct charts AND aspect grid will ensure that you are serious in your enquiry and will guarantee (from me at least) a serious response……if you are simply here to get a freebie or are just curious but can’t be bothered to make the effort to post the correct charts then I won’t bother making an effort to delineate them. In this case I will simply refer to a website that offers Free interactive models (like astro.com, astrology3d.com and grupovenus.com) for your amusement…

posted March 02, 2012 07:04 PM            

And yes! Let him breathe, don't contact him anymore and wait until he comes to you.

Try to make him feel safe, show him that you are worth it and that you are ready to work it out.

If he has true feelings for you, he'll definitely stick to you.

posted March 02, 2012 07:12 PM            

Sometimes the hardest thing to do, is nothing at all! Ugh.

I will be patient and continue to work on myself so this will never happen again, regardless of the outcome.

posted March 03, 2012 04:28 AM            

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One question, will me not knowing his birth time dramatically affect the results as far as accuracy?

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Well, it won't change things "dramatically", but there are some things missing, we can't really know how you truly affect him and in which areas the problems arise.

But the aspects are still pretty much the same (except for the Moon), so it's not *that* bad!

posted March 03, 2012 04:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
You're welcome!

Well, it won't change things "dramatically", but there are some things missing, we can't really know how you truly affect him and in which areas the problems arise.

But the aspects are still pretty much the same (except for the Moon), so it's not *that* bad!

(:

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Got it! I will give it a whirl. Still waiting to hear back from him...

posted March 05, 2012 04:26 PM            

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Originally posted by blessed39:
Thanks Saggi MC!

One question, will me not knowing his birth time dramatically affect the results as far as accuracy?

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yes, create a chart for 12noon or 6am, only thing is we cannot rely on the Angles OR moon aspects...and of course you cannot do a composite either

posted March 05, 2012 07:04 PM            

BUT I am trying to post the chart to see if he will come back. I was able to create the chart but trying to figure out how to get it onto photo bucket and then paste it here. Lol.