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Koda1969
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posted April 03, 2012 01:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Koda1969     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm just curious, but is it possible (well, I know it is..but I guess I'm meaning more possible for some than others) where one area can go stupendously, yet another area completely fall apart?
I can honestly say that the last 7 years have been so challenging that I'm amazed I'm sane. To try and give it in a nutshell, my step-father disowned me and ruined me financially (I stood up for my brother in a family dispute). My brother injects his drama into my life daily. Everyone around me always NEEDS me (and counts on me, because I don't like letting people down). I was diagnosed with epilepsy two years ago and have to struggle daily to maintain my health and composure and most recently had to undergo a total hysterectomy (sorry for the TMI, just explaining how it's been one thing after another). That's just the highlights.
The thing is, after the epilepsy in an attempt to curb stress I gained a newfound enlightenment if you will. I did a complete about face and rather than being the brooding angry person I used to be, I suddenly flourished if you will. My career has taken off by leaps and bounds, I am appreciated by my boss and co-workers, I am truly blessed. I went back to school full-time, juggled work and school and both got a raise at work AND graduated with two degrees and a 3.8 GPA.
Sadly, though...my personal life just gets worse. I try to apply all the positive aspects of my life to meeting and dating, and I keep coming up short. It runs the gamut from being told I'm too short or too fat (I'm only a size 10 for pete's sake!) to the old standby "it's me, not you". I'm 43, and trust me, I've grown into a confident woman, so I let the insults slide off my back. But today I was devastated when a guy I was dating (a nice guy) unceremoniously dumped me via email. He spent weeks courting me, taking me out, sending me flowers, then just turned and ran.
Ironically, today I also was recognized at work by several higher ups for a recent project I completed. So again, total dud personally, great success professionally. Lately, that is what seems to be happening to me no matter what I do.
I'm a Libra (October 21st) and quite honestly, am rather disheartened and wondering if I'm meant to just be a success in my career, and that emotionally, I will just always be alone? I hate to sound dire, but I feel so lost because I keep getting told I'm "great" but that the time just isn't right for that person (even though they pursue me whole-heartedly).

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ariesdragon
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posted April 03, 2012 01:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow I can relate... Hugs. I'm just staying positive the best that I can and it will get better... soon I hope

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Koda1969
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posted April 03, 2012 07:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Koda1969     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
Wow I can relate... Hugs. I'm just staying positive the best that I can and it will get better... soon I hope

Thanks, Aries. I'm usually disgustingly optimistic. Truth is, I've had so much drama in my life caused by others that I learned that I need to maintain that optimism to not get sucked into all that muck of other people.

The guy thing just honestly blind-sided me and I was hurt. I feel like I have to defend myself, even though there is nothing to defend.

To make matters worse, my mother (who lives with me) witnessed what happened to me, and my tears..and she started crying about how bad she felt for me and that I was such a "good soul" and so generous that I deserved to be happy. I guess that's what made me momentarily fall into a bit of sadness because I just sometimes wonder whether my happiness isn't meant to be on a personal level, but instead happiness derived from the strength and comfort I bring to others?

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Faith
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posted April 03, 2012 10:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Namaste Koda,

I don't think a hysterectomy is TMI, it's just you, and it's life. Your birthday is 11 days after my sister-in-law's, same year, and she is like the pillar of strength for my entire huge family.

Your north node is in Pisces, and it sounds like you are attaining Pisces goals of spirituality.

I'm sorry of your troubles, and that you got blindsided. What are people thinking??? It's awful to do that to someone, leading them on and then breaking up so fast.

Have you ever looked into The Secret Language of Relationships astrology book?

Call me crazy but if I am ever single again, I might hand-pick my next husband from the birthdays suggested as matches for me in this book. Do you use astrology when looking at prospective dates?

Best wishes!

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Koda1969
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posted April 03, 2012 11:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Koda1969     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Faith:
Namaste Koda,

I don't think a hysterectomy is TMI, it's just you, and it's life. Your birthday is 11 days after my sister-in-law's, same year, and she is like the pillar of strength for my entire huge family.

Your north node is in Pisces, and it sounds like you are attaining Pisces goals of spirituality.

I'm sorry of your troubles, and that you got blindsided. What are people thinking??? It's awful to do that to someone, leading them on and then breaking up so fast.

Have you ever looked into The Secret Language of Relationships astrology book?

Call me crazy but if I am ever single again, I might hand-pick my next husband from the birthdays suggested as matches for me in this book. Do you use astrology when looking at prospective dates?

Best wishes!


Thank you, Faith, for the kind words, they mean a lot to me right now because I feel very alone. Although, I know I will get through it. I refuse to have come so far to slide backwards.
It's ironic, but the hysterectomy is something I took in stride. I just chose to accept that it was the best option for my health and managing the epilepsy. But, that too, I think has left an impression on me and because it's just been one bombardment after another, I feel quite challenged and worn out.
Yes, I do actually consult astrology regarding prospective partners. Ironically, while I know not necessarily always a good union, I've done decently with many a Scorpio, maybe because I'm right on the edge, so I'm fiery and equally passionate. I had two horrific men that were Pisces last year. The first was emotional void and perverse sexually (no intimacy, very detached)...the other seemed like the opposite..a somewhat decent guy who vanished just before my surgery (stopped calling, texting, etc.) only to suddenly re-appear when I'd (ironically) hit the timeline where I was clear for intimacy (needless to say, I didn't respond).
I honestly haven't "clicked" with anyone in a long time, compatible or not. I met a Gemini online who seemed awesome (and compatible). He met me was great, we had a great time, then the next day he sent an email that he really tried but that he wasn't feeling it (his words).
I truly am beginning to think that I need to just step away. Maybe the notion of somebody for everybody isn't true, and my true calling does lie in the satisfaction and strength I give to others. I'm the rock...I'm not meant to have a rock behind me?
I don't mean for that to sound depressing. In a way it's oddly comforting for me to consider that maybe that is the case. Maybe I've just been pushing for something that isn't really mine and the sooner I accept it, the sooner I can get back to being happy with those around me?

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Faith
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posted April 03, 2012 02:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello Koda,

You do seem strong. I know women who've had health setbacks and they just get totally discouraged. Still, the epilepsy sounds difficult, no way around that. Loneliness is difficult!

I would find it hard to resolve not be in a romantic relationship. But I do know some people who feel life is best for them them, being single and free. Sometimes I envy these people! (Been married 13 years and would love to, say, choose the paint color for my bedroom without debate and discussion.)

I guess each situation has its advantages.

I hope you find what works best for you and that you DO have a support system, at work & wherever you're thriving. Plus you can always come to LL and chat when you get lonely.

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Koda1969
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posted April 04, 2012 10:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Koda1969     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Faith:
Hello Koda,

You do seem strong. I know women who've had health setbacks and they just get totally discouraged. Still, the epilepsy sounds difficult, no way around that. Loneliness is difficult!

I would find it hard to resolve not be in a romantic relationship. But I do know some people who feel life is best for them them, being single and free. Sometimes I envy these people! (Been married 13 years and would love to, say, choose the paint color for my bedroom without debate and discussion.)

I guess each situation has its advantages.

I hope you find what works best for you and that you DO have a support system, at work & wherever you're thriving. Plus you can always come to LL and chat when you get lonely.


Thanks so much, Faith
Believe it or not, I woke up today re-energized. I just somehow felt the sadness lifted because I reminded myself of all the positive things in my life. I felt GREAT!

Yes, the epilepsy was a shock. Turns out, it was a result of a brain disorder I was born with. But, the silver lining if you will, is it was caught early, my seizures are medication controlled, and I AM lucky because many with the illness either can't control seizures, have issues with medicine or develop brain damage due to the seizures. So, while not ideal, again, I need to be thankful for the luck in a way.

But I am doing much better today. I went to work, laughed with co-workers, smiled at everyone, and ironically, had quite a few men pass me by and take a second look. So my spirits are up! Plus, I came home to an email from a dating site I'm on. A very handsome man, charming...and go figure, a Sagittarius! Ironic for me, because my ex husband was a Sagittarius and I adored him when our marriage was good (and I haven't met a Sag since). This time, though, I am going to play it cool and DATE before getting too emotional hehe
Overall though, I know life will be good because I resolve to make it good no matter what..and thanks to you and others who were so kind and supportive!! It means a lot to me!

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slowpoke
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posted April 12, 2012 02:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for slowpoke     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am guessing that your DOB is Oct. 21, 1969. If it is, then, astrolically speaking, I do see a lot of sudden change of direction and fortune in your life. You would be wise to be humbel at your times of fortune and to temper your expectations of promise.

Astorlogically speaking, people who tend to have good professional lives end up struggling with their personal lives' and visa versa. It is the nature of the astrology cycles. You happen to fit into this process, too perfectly. There are a lot of counter force working against your good times and a lot of counter forces working against your bad times. It does appear that you have that WOW element about you. And you seem to gain big and loose big - This of course, if your DOB is 10/21/69. If so, then your assesement is correct based on my reading.

May I have a confirmation of the birthdate?

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Koda1969
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posted April 12, 2012 03:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Koda1969     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yep, you hit it right on the head. 10/21/69. Wow...so maybe my feeling wasn't so off! LOL

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slowpoke
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posted April 12, 2012 03:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for slowpoke     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I took the liberty to do some research on your behalf. I match birthdate to birthdates. If you like, I would not mind sharing my results with you.

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Koda1969
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posted April 12, 2012 04:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Koda1969     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would love to hear your results!

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slowpoke
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posted April 12, 2012 05:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for slowpoke     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Insight:
This person is a bag of assorted chocolates. There are gourmet chocolates, sweet chocolates, bitter chocolates, white chocolates, dark chocolates, cooking chocolates and powered chocolates.

Astrologically speaking, the objective is to find other people who have a broad range of taste for these chocolates. We had to let our calculations lead us to the best possible candidates. The resulting dates, suggest that people with these birthdates may have a greater tolerance for such a broad assortment of flavors.


Based on Synastry Astrology (Relationships) and your DOB, these birthdates may suit you well. Please note: 0628.50 = birthdate June 28, 1950.

0628.50
0704.50

0216.65
0217.65
0111.66
0205.66
0206.66
0209.66

0511.70
0816.70
0606.71
0128.74
0208.74
0209.74
0210.74
0608.76
0609.76
0610.76
0825.76
0826.76
0827.76
0829.76
0913.76
0906.76
0227.77
0808.78

1119.83
0521.85
1019.85
1020.85
1022.85
1023.85
1107.85
1108.85
1109.85
0623.88


Disclaimer:
Astrology is nothing more than statistics. It is a tool that suggest the potential in human dynamics. It is a method of putting into words, the possible potentials that a person may have as an individual or, on how two or more individuals may interact with each other - with the operative word being "may". The results for any given person or persons will never be one hundred percent good and whatever results are given, do not represent an absolute given. The dates given above are derived from Synastry Astrology (relationship) calculations using 5 degree orbs and pertain to the person the dates were researched for. No guarantees are given or implied, as to the accuracy of results given and or to the potential failures and or successes the chart and aspect readings suggest. No other astrological resource can produce a Synastry birthdate list in this manner.

Data Sources:
The American Ephemeris at "Noon" were used. The Moon moves approximately 12 degrees per day. Using a "Noon" Moon ephemeris cuts the movement in half, this allows for the best possible results with the Moon aspects when not knowing or using the exact time and place, of birthdate prospects. The primary Synastry aspect interpretations were acquired from "Do It Yourself Relationship Astrology" by Lyn Birkbeck 1999.

How to Apply Your List:
In the real World, your family values, mindset and, social influences tend to dictate your actions and interactions with others. It is quite possible to meet two or more people with the same birthdates that are provided above. But how these people influence you will depend on your mindset.

People with these birthdates come in all colors, gender, intellect, shapes, sizes, handicaps religious beliefs and, sexual preferences. So when trying to locate people with these dates - temper your expectations and treat each new person as a fresh new beginning. Keep in mind, that you are working from your list of possibilities, but the people you are researching do not have a list of any sort and will not be looking at you in the same light. So keep your excitement in check and carefully work towards the results you hope to have. Also, keep in mind that having this list will not insure that each person researched will be law abiding, healthy, wealthy, and or honest. This information will not protect you against Aids or STDs. If you are looking for a love relationship, then it may be quite possible to find a suitable selection from your list. But, there is much much more here than just a love potential list, the list also represents some of the finest potentials for solid friendships, study partners and working companions best suited to you. There are plenty of good people around for you to know who are not part of this list. But, astrologically speaking, you would be very wise indeed, to use this list as a reference to help identify quality people for you to know, after you have found the love of your life.


Best of Luck!
Slowpoke

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