posted May 09, 2012 02:42 PM            

this is where it got confusing......he'd tell me he likes me but then say he can't be replaced for my boyfriend but would love to continue hanging out with me, he told me he loved me once during an 'intense moment', i thought that was weird, he'd open up to me about his past and deep things like that..but then he decided to go home for the summer after the semester was over. i asked him if we were going to hang out again before he left and he said of course and kissed me passionately...i never got to say goodbye (i was hoping i could confess my feelings to him then but never got the chance :/ )....a week later i asked him if he was going to miss me he said no not at all in the most serious way...like wtf did i do? and then a couple days later when i saw him again i looked over at him and he just gave me the biggest lovey dovey smile. SO RANDOM!!! then the day he left to go back home he said goodbye to everybody BUT ME. i texted him and said you forgot to say bye to me!! and he was like oops i thought i did in the most nonchalant way. i was so hurt and COMPLETELY CONFUSED!

this is either the classic case of the player or he had mixed emotions towards me. idk but i never felt so attracted to someone in my life I just can't help but feel he was hurt by me in some way? i also read aquarius men and how they act in relationships and i definately found some relief in that because some of the information described him a lot actually

i know this is rlly long sorry

i looked up our aspects and noticed significant ones we have are
moon trine moon
venus sextile pluto (me pluto)
moon sextile mars
moon square venus (both ways)
moon trine jupiter
jupiter sextile pluto
saturn sextile pluto
my moon in his 7th/8th house
his moon in my 12th house
and we have a mercury stellium in cap

posted May 09, 2012 06:27 PM            

Okay:
1) He loves you, he loves you not...
I can tell you from my perspective, "love" is a word that is never all-encompassing or specific enough. I love all kinds of people in my life - to varying degrees. In the heat of the moment, at earlier times in my life - it was super easy to drop the "L-Bomb" - I have more reticence now, after realizing it confuses everyone involved. I'm sure he adores you, and clearly has strong feelings.

2) On the subject of 'missing' someone:
This one gets me every time. The Aquarian stellium in me is confounded when someone tells me they "will miss me"...I'm rational, logical - to me, this is clearly a co-dependent projection meant to keep us together indefinitely. My Aqua Mars wants to keep moving, and usually - no matter how much I love people - I can't be on the move and learn/express myself within the confines of those consuming relationships.

Still, I DO miss people, and understand the emotion. My Cancer Moon and Libran Pluto makes certain I do not forget how important the people in my life are...but perhaps, as I am, this man simply dismissed you when you asked if he "would miss you" because he honestly won't - and that doesn't mean he doesn't care for you. It just means some people let go and adapt to change easily, while others hang on and linger in feelings of longing (I DO, much to my shagrin). Perhaps he is simply bluffing and hiding his feelings because logically, his destiny is calling him elsewhere.

3) The BS Goodbye:
Okay - this one, ain't an Aquarian thing. I dare to even pronounce this is a male thing. No, this is the kind of behavior that someone who is either unaware of the impact they've made in your life OR aware and choosing to ignore this impact behaves. It's a douchetard move. It strikes me that when he told you he loved you, you likely told him something of equal weight. It strikes me from your story you've driven much of the emotional course of the relationship - and he's been very eager to connect physically. When you hear from him again - I'm sure you will - be sure to let him know what you will/won't accept.

This last point - is for you to keep. For anyone to keep. We teach people how to treat us. At a certain point, we must stop bothering ourselves with "why" someone behaves a certain way - as that puts the onus on ourself (I must have done something to upset them - thinking)...and detracts the focus from "I don't accept being treated this way". If people value your place in their lives, and if they want to be sure to treat you in a manner that is acceptable to you - help them know how.

I know when I hear back from a certain Aquarius Ascendant most favorite lover of mine (and I do know I will)...he's not going to get a bang on the ear - he's done nothing but follow my lead. But he will be learning a new dance-step, if you catch my drift.

If you are still intrigued - post the synastry chart - particularly with you outside of his natal chart. I've just acquired 3 books on synastry - I'll help a sista out.

posted May 10, 2012 09:44 PM            

I'm glad my perspective has helped you in some ways to gain clarity on your situation - rather, a better sense of clarity on your own perspective. You seem to know in your gut what's what with the situation.

And as far as my being "soooo" good at this - it's because I've been there - at least five guys come to mind right now who I have felt a completely magnetic attraction to, shared fireworks physical intimacy with, but emotionally - they've perplexed me. It was always the case that they haunted me longer than they "should" have, perhaps, because I wondered, "what if I had said this/that? would it be different"...looking at those charts for whom I have birth data - it's ALWAYS a Pluto/Mars or Pluto/Venus conjunction. Dagnammit!

I'm FINALLY (as I said about this most recent guy I'm hooked on [my Pluto conjunct his Mars]) at a place where I will sort out my emotions (it's not like they're crystalline) - and let him know what lines I am capable of crossing with him/not based on how I feel for him. I'll be putting myself on the line, exposing my heart to what seems inevitable rejection; and yet - it seems a far worse sentence in my life to continue silently loving these men and watching them walk away.

You put all that info about your synastry out there - but I am visual. I totally saw that list and got overwhelmed. How to put the charts up is pretty simple. I forget where the FAQs are...

posted May 12, 2012 12:32 AM            

Also, I don't need the asteroids - the nodes and Chiron are of interest to me; but as a novice with synastry - all those asteroids are overload for me

posted May 14, 2012 01:07 AM            

Meantime, if anyone else has anything to say about these synastry aspects - hopefully they'll comment

posted May 14, 2012 10:53 PM            

His Moon in your 12th House: (I'm distilling and paraphrasing as I am new to this, but...)

Essentially, you are a mystery to him; but it's more like he can not understand your emotional nature or motivations. There's a feeling (for him) with this aspect, that you are concealing some critical element of your emotional self - and he can't connect. For you, you sense this discomfort or mistrust and it puts you in a state of overcompensation; which only adds to the sense of disconnect for you both. For you, the House person, it is as though you have something to prove to him about the value and integrity of your emotional nature.

Direct quote: "if this overlay is involved in the environment of an intense romantic/sexual interplay...the persons may come together for self-gratification, but once that is achieved, an atmosphere of distrust and uncertainty will reappear."

Your Moon, His 6th House:
There's a mutual sense of obligation, responsibility, and duty that connects you two on an emotional level. Moreso for the House person (him) will your emotional state be one h feels responsible and obligated for. Nevertheless, because of this link - he may subconsciously look to you to grant him favors or forgiveness.

posted May 14, 2012 11:13 PM            

His Venus, your 11th house:
This could feel the best for the Venus person. The house person has a warm, generous response which isn't clouded by unrealistic expectations or demands. Common attitudes and interests in activities and leisure.

posted May 14, 2012 11:22 PM            

Your Mars is in His 7th House (I've got this with my guy too)...
It seems like this should be a very prominent place for Mars in a relationship, considering Mars is action, male energy; and 7th house is relationships. Not so, necessarily....Mars is home with Aries, the I AM house. Venus is home in the 7th house, the WE ARE house. We know polar opposites attract; it's a magnetism, but we also know that magnets after too much bonding eventually repel. This seems to be the longterm case with 7th House Mars. It's awesome for a good time. You two have some aspects so far (Suns, Venus) which indicate this relationship isn't "done" but that it will be evolving to a new state of understanding. With those moons, how could it not?

posted May 14, 2012 11:35 PM            

You are sticking with this though because you experience the sextile between your sun and his moon: this is very harmonious, blending different but resonant energies of self-expression together.

It is both fascinating and heartbreaking how we can so fundamentally experience relationships in different ways. I'm finding even owning some books on synastry makes it all less personal, it creates sense of what is seemingly chaos and disastrous heartache - and takes me raking
Myself over the coals out of the equation.

I'll leave you with that for now - let me know what you think, and if you want to know more.