posted May 15, 2012 06:09 AM            

This is me and my guy friend (leo) composite as he wants to be in a relationship but I am hesitate due to the fire in both our charts and I wonder if it is too explosive? I never saw my self with an aggresive guy before but I worry that it can explode one day.

Any help would be appreciated as there is pressure for me to be clear on what I want to do.

A sad sparkling

posted May 15, 2012 06:32 AM            

I think I agree, am clouded by a physical attraction I think. I did the composite from astro.com, is it correct?

I think we have a friendly vibe and as soon as it enters being in romantic relationship it gets tense and he does have an aggressive streak that I dont like. I am kind of anxious about it to be honest cause there is pressure on me.

Is there anything to explain the physical attraction??

posted May 15, 2012 06:38 AM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by SparklingSag:
Hi Rosalind,

I think I agree, am clouded by a physical attraction I think. I did the composite from astro.com, is it correct?

I think we have a friendly vibe and as soon as it enters being in romantic relationship it gets tense and he does have an aggressive streak that I dont like. I am kind of anxious about it to be honest cause there is pressure on me.

Is there anything to explain the physical attraction??

Sparkling

---

posted May 15, 2012 06:41 AM            

Grateful,

posted May 15, 2012 06:46 AM            

I guess synastry also tells this?

posted May 15, 2012 07:40 AM            

As always, grateful,

posted May 15, 2012 10:05 AM            

Synastry with Mr. Leo shows you being attracted by him. His Sun and Mars are over your 7th house. You like him, you want a relationship with him but also you feel a bit akward by Mars energy. His agressive nature is not something you are used to. Now, Venus is bad placed in 6th house. Shows you love to WORK with him. Also with NN and Moon over your 4th house you feel comfortable and safe with him. But Saturn over your 11th house shows a karmic relationship as only friends.

posted May 15, 2012 10:13 AM            

Wow you are good! Thank you for your time on this...you hit the nail on the head with Mr Leo, that is exactly how I feel. In our friendship to date, he and I are aware of attraction but also assisted each other in support (but more me assisting him actually) and I do feel safe with him. He did talk about us being friends with benefits too so I wonder if he feels that we are good as friends with an attraction but ultimately I would like to be with someone less aggressive. It kinda scares me a little.

Mr Virgo, yes that makes sense too. Haven't met up yet, somehow in my mind he represents a lightness whilst Leo is a bit dark for me. But that doesn't mean I am not confused about my feelings for Mr Leo, not quite sure how to let it go.

I don't wish to settle for something because I am afraid of being alone.

posted May 15, 2012 10:59 AM            

Perhaps I should continue on my path and be grateful to be alone and learning what I don't want in a relationship and maintaing a sense of respect for myself.

posted May 16, 2012 03:46 PM            

There's stuff to be aware of here, in any case. I'm not sure how much there's going on romantically, though. That's just not a very tight or passionate composite.

But that Sun-Moon in the synastry ... that prompts me to take a second look.

posted May 17, 2012 01:07 AM            

I hope you don't mind that I've checked out the charts (I'm studying synastry/composites now) - and I agree with the overview of the composite as being lackluster for a romantic relationship.

Your synastry makes a great deal of sense in terms of the attraction - as everyone has pointed out. Moon-Sun+Mars Conjunction 7th House.

I was wondering what anyone thinks about the conjunction between your NN in 5th house and his Chiron? My (open-minded and learning) insight is that part of your attraction is so strong in part because of this. Your NN in the House of Romance, means this area of your life is what you are to sort out this go 'round, right? And yet, more often then not, despite feeling compelled toward our NN, we avoid it or fall back into the SN (your 11th House of Friendships)...

With his Chiron conjunct your NN, I wonder if this means being romantically involved with him is a healing opportunity for you both? Perhaps you know that somewhere deep inside, and it's why you can't shake the attraction...

BUT - all astrology aside - woman to woman - anyone who is pressuring you to be involved with them is probably too self-absorbed to handle the challenges that come with sustaining a relationship. AND - do follow your gut. It's hard to trust our intuition/instincts - but if you have a doubt about his past impacting your present/future - LISTEN to that voice. It's not as though all people in aggressive or physically violent relationships will follow that pattern forever...but you describe his persistent pursuit for your heart as aggressive.

Maybe you should learn more about his past from him, and about what steps he has/is taking to overcome aggression. Your moniker, SparklingSag, denotes to me you definitely DON'T need a dark cloud.

Best to you,
Wild Places

posted May 17, 2012 05:48 AM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by Wild Places:
Hi SparklingSag -

I hope you don't mind that I've checked out the charts (I'm studying synastry/composites now) - and I agree with the overview of the composite as being lackluster for a romantic relationship.

Your synastry makes a great deal of sense in terms of the attraction - as everyone has pointed out. Moon-Sun+Mars Conjunction 7th House.

I was wondering what anyone thinks about the conjunction between your NN in 5th house and his Chiron? My (open-minded and learning) insight is that part of your attraction is so strong in part because of this. Your NN in the House of Romance, means this area of your life is what you are to sort out this go 'round, right? And yet, more often then not, despite feeling compelled toward our NN, we avoid it or fall back into the SN (your 11th House of Friendships)...

With his Chiron conjunct your NN, I wonder if this means being romantically involved with him is a healing opportunity for you both? Perhaps you know that somewhere deep inside, and it's why you can't shake the attraction...

BUT - all astrology aside - woman to woman - anyone who is pressuring you to be involved with them is probably too self-absorbed to handle the challenges that come with sustaining a relationship. AND - do follow your gut. It's hard to trust our intuition/instincts - but if you have a doubt about his past impacting your present/future - LISTEN to that voice. It's not as though all people in aggressive or physically violent relationships will follow that pattern forever...but you describe his persistent pursuit for your heart as aggressive.

Maybe you should learn more about his past from him, and about what steps he has/is taking to overcome aggression. Your moniker, SparklingSag, denotes to me you definitely DON'T need a dark cloud.

Best to you,
Wild Places

PS - That Virgo looks like a lot of fun. I would have to double-back and check - but I saw some meaningful contacts there

---

Hi Wild Places

Thank you very much for taking the time to look these charts over! Always, as ever grateful. Very interested on your thoughts on the attraction element with the Leo. Woman to woman, it would be healing in the sense I feel desired by him and thats a nice feeling BUT I am aware he is not doing very much to not repeat patterns.. For example he blames everyone but himself for his actions, it is very much woe is me, the world is a cruel place. When in actuality, many of his actions have led to this point. I am worried he will not understand "no".

I have always been attracted to men from different cultures, always, and this has been both a blessing and a curse because sometimes down the road in the relationship, what bought you together can also break you apart.

Mr Virgo, he works in travel now (I do too, international education so travel alot for my job and involved daily with international students)and we are meeting end of June. I have not physically seen him since 2007! I do know he has italian background with one of his parents being italian but he is essentially very british.

I did an angel card last night for Mr Leo and got detachment. Interesting

Would be interested to know what you think of Mr Virgo. Am open to all possibilities for the future, nothing is set in stone.

best,

posted May 20, 2012 09:11 AM            

Am not sure if it is venus retrogade but I have this intense desire to cut the leo out of my life. He is demanding and i suddenly see it all quite clearly. He wants to come back to Uk and wants me to do all the hard work for his application and doesn't understand the word NO.I want to cut him off but scared of consequences. Perhap can fade him out?

On another note, have been meeting all sorts of guys in past week. I dont mean dating, but literally bumping into guys. Is this the kind of thing that happens in venus retrograde? helping you figure out what you do and dont want?