posted May 31, 2012 06:46 PM            

You have a very interesting synastry, with strong aspects... Your nodes are conjunct, his vertex axis is right on your MC/IC and your Moon is also on his anti-vertex so you guys are very comfortable with each other.

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posted June 01, 2012 01:48 PM            

First of all, just let me tell you that I am not offended by your reply (and i'll tell you why at the end of my post) to my post but I think it's so rude of you to start yours with "no offence" and then insult me right after ("BS interpretation" of mine, really? Was that necessary? Do you have to belittle others' opinions to make yourself feel better about yours? It's not because you voice your opinion with a an attitude that it makes it right, you know). And do you have to be so agressive all the time? It's not the first time you do this on this forum! This a public place, people are going to have different opinions than yours, you need to accept them too, and with RESPECT, otherwise you're wasting your time here.

I started studying astrology with a professional astrologer when I was 13 and I started doing readings for other people over 10 years ago (I don't do predictive astrology though). It actually worked so well that 4 years later I landed a part time job on an astro site and small magazine where I met wonderful people including my best friend who is a full time professional astrologer. The only reason I posted the synastry with my fiancé on this forum is because I am very private and protective of my relationship with the father of my baby, and I was a bit embarrased to ask my best friend to look into it as she knows him too. Obviously I had looked at the synastry myself but as it is mine, I thought maybe I needed a non-subjective point of view to remind me of what I already knew. Honestly, it was a mistake to post the chart here, I should have just asked my best friend, and this is what I ended up doing anyway after your reading that didn't resonate with me at all. I politely told you then your interpration was not reflecting what was going on in real life, and I suppose you didn't like the feedback now that I see how aggressive you are with me. What was I to say? Thank you Rosalind, yes he is scared of me and I am scared of him too, I hide many things from him because i want to ruin his karma and he is very mean to me at home, and he doesn't want to get married with me? When the reality is we've been together for years, we live together in harmony and we have a lovely baby! And we're also gonna get married, I now have a ring on my finger. I'm sorry that my relationship is not the nightmare you described but hey, I like it so much better that way!... The other interpretations I got from 2 different pro astrologers were detailed and this time they described my relationship to a T. The fact that I was scared at the thought of getting married has its roots in my natal chart (that you didn't look at, by the way), combined with a nasty transit at the moment, but it had nothing to do with my synastry. And this is something you didn't tell me.

I guess you and I come from a different planet, we don't look at charts the same way & we don't make the same use of astrology either. I told you after asking you for a reading that I took the time to read your whole thread and if it had taken you more than 3 minutes to look at my synastry and post your answer before I was done reading your interpretations for other people, I would have cancelled my request for a reading. I didn't say anything about it then because I didn't want to be rude, but what I immediately noticed is how you basically jump straight into the synastry reading without looking at the natal charts first. How people are going to live their relationship also depends on who they are, and who they are is depicted in their natal charts. Right from the start you completely get rid of something that should be a major element of your interpretation. That's my point of view and that's the point of view of professional astrologers too. Here's Dawn Bodrogi's opinion about this : "These days, the internet has a very loud voice, and bad information is often taken as blind truth. Sometimes, in our quest for instant answers, we ignore the subtlety of interpretation that was once demanded of anyone who practiced astrology and seriously studied synastry. We like things in black and white, but the truth tends to lie in the shades of gray'", unfortunately she was right when she says people take whatever information they find on the internet as blind truth.

On a more personal approach to astrology, we're also extremely different. I would NEVER tell someone their relationship is doomed like you did for so many people, as I believe it isn't the astrologer's role to decide whether a relationship should happen or not. See, I don't think of myself as God either. I believe the astrologer can tell someone about who they are and what they need, what are their weaknesses and their strongest energy. And then I do the same thing for their partner, individually. And only then do I see if they're a match... Then you can study the synastry too see how they're going to interact when together. But still, the basis is the natal chart. And this is something you don't take into account when doing a synastry reading, so yeah... I guess we're gonna have to "agree to disagree" because we do not have the same approach. AT ALL.

As for my reply to Julz87, I obviously didn't give her a full reading, it would take me a long time to do that, it was a very basic approach to who they both are individually and if there's a chance of close interaction between them. Her question was "how do i influence him?" not "are we going to get married, spend our life together and have 6 babies", it was a simple question, I gave her a very short and simple answer.

Now back to what you wrote about the different houses of a chart, obviously I do know what they mean but again, I look at the natal chart to see what house and what planet are going to have more significance for that person. Let's take an exemple, imagine someone's chart indicates they are a workaholic, their career is the big focus of their life, then guess what, it would be a very good thing for that person if their partner's venus was falling into their 10th house (or even their 6th house), even better if it was conjunct the MC. I dare say it would be better to have it in the 10th house than in the 7th if there's no indication of special needs in their natal 7th. You can fulfill the 7th house needs of your partner in more way than just having your planets fall in there. By the way, I used the term "secondary descendant" but I'm not so sure this is the word I was looking for, English is not my language, but the idea remains the same. But again, this is my approach and we don't have the same and I'm not looking for any kind of validation. I have many years of experience that showed me it does work and many letters of my consultants thanking me & giving me a positive feedback on my readings, that's more than enough for me. By the way, a member of this community (I don't remember who) wrote two extremely interesting posts about this method a while ago, if I find them again I'll send you the link because it would explain the concept more clearly than I ever could with my limited vocabulary. But again, this is someone who has practiced astrology for a long time & who has experience and feedback based on relationships that took place in real life and not just on a forum, so I take their experience as significant. Robert Hand himself has the same approach, are you going to laugh at him too?

About what I wrote about Saturn on the ascendant, I don't know why you're in my face about this, really. "EVERYONE is UNIQUE" you say, yes it's true, when did i ever say something else? I know people have different personnalities, that's why I take into account their natal chart (and again, you don't) before I study their synastry. Why don't go back to my original post to Julz87? Read it again, i wrote "It actually depends on how your Saturn is aspected in your own chart." How is that not clear enough for you?