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Topic: Why did he choose this person over me? (Synastry charts)
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Dinobleue9
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posted July 06, 2012 11:29 PM
  
Ok, so long story short....there was a guy I liked, we never developed a serious relationship due to long-distance, but we spoke quite a bit. He absolutely gave me the impression that he was interested in me. This started back in May of last year after we hung out and seemed to hit it off. I say 'seemed' because that's what I thought! We stayed in touch pretty frequently up until December, when out of the blue (due to social media site) I see he starts dating someone. He then unfollows me from said social media site shortly after. After a few MONTHS of dating this girl, I find out he PROPOSED to her!!How was I so off-base with what connection I THOUGHT we had? Is there anything in his and my chart, or his and her chart, to indicate WHY he would lead me on, then jump headfirst into an engagement with her? It totally blind-sided me. And it hurt! I'd let you guys guess whose chart is whose, but I don't have a birthtime for her, so you would obviously know which one was mine.... Him and I:  Him and his new fiance: *sigh* 
I'm looking for some answers....I have not been able to move past this. I need closure and it's starting to drive me nuts! I'm trying to let it go but I just can't seem to. PLEASE HELP!
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birdy
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posted July 07, 2012 02:16 AM
He sounds like he never promised you anything. You didnt have a relationship with him. I dont know why you're bothering at this point. He's not interested, case closed. She intrigues him, gets under his skin, excites him, makes him happy, and feel destined to be together. Theres a lot of strong ties with them. Your planets mainly in his 1st & 11th, he saw you as an exciting friend. Someone he clicked with, could talk to, stroke his ego, but thats it. Why did he choose her? because someone else is suppose to choose you..not him. I hope you find someone who makes you happy.IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 03:35 AM
Thank you, but I wasn't quite looking for a life-lesson, more of an astrological insight...IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted July 07, 2012 03:45 AM
I was giving astrology insight. He didnt pick you because you touched his FRIENDLY/Energy houses(1st/11th). She touches his deeper houses(4th/8th). They have Moon/NN among other aspects. Simple. Good luck.IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 04:02 AM
Thanks. Is the Saturn.....what is that...quincunx(?) to the Moon/NN conjunction? IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted July 07, 2012 04:07 AM
Hold on, I think I was reading it wrong. Give me a second.IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 04:08 AM
...and she isn't touching his 8th houses, is she? I don't have a birthtime for her, so the vertex and descendant aren't accurate...IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted July 07, 2012 04:10 AM
I read it wrong, I just realized theres no birth time for her, and mixing his chart for her. My apologizes. Her planets are all clustered in his 12th..Thats a water house, its deep, its psychic, it can be very intoxicating, spiritual, but also deceptive. I wonder how this will play out in the long run?
I just noticed another thing- they both have Mercury in retrograde, she also has Venus rx...they probably really feel they can communicate with each other more deeply than with other people. I really cant stand reading synastry in this format, and prefer to glance it another way.
Anyways, I wonder what shes hiding from him...does he have a lot of money? IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 04:13 AM
Yes, they have strong Neptune too. And yes, he is very wealthy, and she is young...21 I believe. IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted July 07, 2012 04:16 AM
Im going to take a big guess here shes using him. Shes ambitious for a rich man. I wouldnt doubt this ending up in divorce somehow. Can you post their composite? It wont be completely correct, but be interesting to see the alignment. IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 04:19 AM
Well, they've been dating barely six months now, oy. And yes, I'll post composite now. Thanks! IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 04:24 AM
Their composite:  IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted July 07, 2012 04:32 AM
huh, weird...He's a scorpio, and the composite has only Neptune sextile Pluto and Mars quincunx Pluto....lacking in Pluto. I dont know how this can be long lasting union. Also in the composite shows her deception(moon opp mercury)...she isn't being honest about herself. He has to figure that out himself though. Im surprised he can't see it with all his Scorpio energy. IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 04:39 AM
Maybe because of all the Neptune! I did a few personal card readings on the subject and it came up a few times that he needs to have this experience. He seems very young in some respects, although we are the same age. I did sense something much deeper in him though. I should add that with my stuff in his 1st/11th friendly houses, he was distinctly more than friendly with me. I think the sad truth of it is, that I was totally led-on and played with by him, and surprisingly this is the first time it's ever happened to me- which is why I can't let it go. My poor ego, lol. I just don't understand why he would go through the effort of stringing me along for so long. That's not my nature, so my feelings were definitely hurt. IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 04:40 AM
And thank you very much for your helpful insight. IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted July 07, 2012 04:43 AM
Yes, he obviously has to go thru this. If this was my brother, cousin, whatever, I'd be telling him to runnnn.. lol
I know how that feels, not being able to let go easily. I have the same issue with a ex boyfriend but he made promises. I dont know which is worse, being promised something or lead onto it? either way it sucks.
Shes a opportunist. She doesnt care for him deeply. Theres a lot of laughter, fun, sex whatever with them but she will use him to her advantage first and foremost, IMO.IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 04:54 AM
And just for kicks, here is my composite with him, although it's not really relevant as we never had a relationship. *sigh*  After it's all said and done, I'm just looking for a bit of truth! Did we even have anything? Or am I completely insane and I imagined this strong connection? Or maybe he just wasn't ready for it...I know he appreciated that I noticed a deeper side to him as that's not really his outward persona. OK! I'm letting it go! This is me, letting it go! IP: Logged |
birdy
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From: Sunny
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posted July 07, 2012 05:02 AM
The composite with him shows very different personalities.
You were much more emotional with him than most people. He probably
enjoyed the depth you guys could share, but it also confused him. He probably felt more masculine...possibly giving him a ego boost.
Ruler of 7th, isnt aspected unless you want to count a very wide conj
to Saturn(9th degrees). Even with counting of the conj to Saturn,
it would limit affection, and make a relationship not transpire. On the
opposite side, it could mean a relationship could develop much later in time.
A lot of obstacles will get in the way of being together.
Did you hide your aggression? This is a relationship that's hard to forget.
NN/ASC, with Pluto in 7th trine Moon. It was intense for you. It came
to you to teach you a thing or two. I wouldn't be waiting by the door for him,
but you never know. You should let it go. I will do a tarot read if you want. Let me know.IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 05:22 AM
Yes, it just couldn't seem to take off...there were few opportunities to see eachother, and random, out-of-the-blue events prevented that from happening. I completely know that if it was ever supposed to happen, this was not the time. I love my life, and I'm very happy with where I'm at right now. If I'm honest with myself, I know I wouldn't even want to be his young bride at this point in my life...I finally feel like I've completely come into my own! I can rationally see how this is the right path- but, yes, for whatever reason it affected me deeply. And to answer your question about aggression....towards the end, I think I was becoming more short with him. I was feeling strung along and it was starting to irritate me. One of the last conversations we had...he told me something kinda strange and serious during a light-hearted conversation. He told me that if I ever really wanted someone, I should build a rapport with them, then drop of the face of the Earth, and they'd be hooked. Well, that's pretty much what he did to me! It weirded me out....I didn't know what to say. Shortly after he started dating this new girl, and within months they were engaged. That was, I believe the second to last times we spoke. I'm purging right now. It's helping. IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 05:28 AM
And I would love a tarot reading! Although I've done about a million on it myself with the Osho tarot cards. Do those even count as a real tarot reading? Ha!IP: Logged |
birdy
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From: Sunny
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posted July 07, 2012 05:40 AM
omg...that has to be the most weirdest things he could have said. how bizarre...i mean truly bizarre. that is haunting stuff right there. it's very mean as well. maybe he didnt realize it though? its true though sadly. i think it's pretty manipulative and mean not to give someone a proper discussion of things.
what do you want me to ask for the tarot?IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 05:54 AM
Yes, it is mean! I told him he should be careful playing games like that, because usually it's the person playing them that gets left out in the end...to which he replied "I don't play games if it's something I'm serious about." I was totally weirded out so I told him I had to go. WHAT? So was that his way of telling me he wasn't interested? The next time we spoke, which was the last time, he texted me maybe two weeks after...he was home alone, and had taken a xanax....I was kind of rude to him...but we texted a bit and towards the end of the convo I was telling him about something I liked to do, and he said we'd do it when he came to my city next. And that was that! A month later he was with her.
Ask the tarot if this was a real connection....if he even felt anything at all for me.....
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mir
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posted July 07, 2012 06:16 AM
I will be honest (from a MAGI-astrology perspective! - Gosh.. I'm glad a found a clear astrological direction since I'm studing their techniques ~I would recommend it!)There's NOTHING weird here that he chooses her above you. THIS: HER Chiron is making a CINDERELLA *Mystical Triangle* with his Sun/Mars square (wowowowow!!) TRUEEE love... HIS Chiron is making a CINDERELLA *Yod* with her Venus/Pluto sextile (wowowowowow again!!) TRUEEEE .... It almost sounds TOO good to be true! (but that ofcourse CAN'T be  )
The both of you?
ONE positive linkage between his Chiron and your SUN .. sounds great but it ISN't great at all.. as the same Chiron is making the f*cking Heartbreak clash to you Saturn! Honestly, there's no way back for the both of you.. Can't think of something more obvious! I hoped this has helped a bit! Srry if this all sounds a bit tooo excited but.. it's just soo obvious what I see here! IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted July 07, 2012 06:23 AM
No, thank you. I haven't heard any of that- love a fresh perspective. I'm a novice when it comes to Chiron. IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted July 07, 2012 06:27 AM
dino- i asked what did he feel for you,
temperance, the fool, the world. all reversed. i dont see anything good here. the fool r makes me feel he does realize he wronged you, the future card, shows his feeling being completed but being reverse, could mean not quite the way how most people wrap up their feelings about someone.IP: Logged |
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