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Topic: I feel unlucky in life..no friends to speak of, can you see why??
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ceecee* Newflake Posts: 22 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 06:57 PM
i am noticing and comparing myself to people who have incredible lives and so many friends to share it all with. they post so many pictures (on fb) of their experiences and it makes me wonder. i can be so anit-social and such a quiet person i do not want to be this way. but i've tried that kind of thing, and i love the satisfaction it gave me maybe i just lost my ability to make new friends? i see my self as a good person but i'm unhappy with myself. i actually was friends with popular girls and had alot of popularity in high school but things are much different for me now. and i get so upset about it, overthinking things, and worrying its like i'm sick about it! my boyfriend is making the situation more difficult. but i love him and i don't complain about that. the main problem i feel like i have is communication and having put together thoughts. in my head i have thoughts in flashes or jumbled up. i don't know what it could be, or why i'm just starting to feel this way now. shouldn't i be good at making friends and that sort of thing? http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?cid=pqsfileLxuiiF-u1309421006&lang=e&gm=a1&nhor=1&nho2=5&btyp=2&mth=gw&sday=16&smon=7&syr=2012&hsy=-1&zod=&orbp=&rs=0&ast=
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34369 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 07:02 PM
Mars in mercury in the 12th would be my first thought. Mars makes one afraid to go forward. This could play out in that you may be afraid to reach out to a person.mercury in the 12th can make one very afraid to communicate for fear of looking silly or rejection. Does this fit, Darling? ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34369 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 07:04 PM
Wow Uranus and Nep conj the MC Do you feel as if you appear "weird" to others. Yet, do you feel you can't figure out how to relate in society/ career? Do you feel this way and just have no idea what to do with it?------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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stillatlarge Knowflake Posts: 251 From: TX Registered: Nov 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 07:06 PM
Well it could be that mf there in the 11th in aqua too. It's similar to my chart with the mars there. 12th house is difficult that way. You have it in Aries though so you shouldn't be too too shy. You also have your venus on your ascendant, so are you pretty?IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34369 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 07:08 PM
Chiron in the 4th. Did you have a hard childhood which you can't seem to shake. I have the same.Moon oppose Pluto Do you feel very, very passionate but then freak out about HOW passionate you are and kind of go to the other extreme? ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Lazyscarecrow Knowflake Posts: 294 From: En Cee Registered: Aug 2011
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posted July 16, 2012 07:09 PM
It's easy to feel unlucky and unhappy looking at people's lives on FB. Keep in mind they are only sharing the "good" parts of their life(excluding the consistent whiners), no one is ever happy every second on their life. They are probably struggling too. Aside from astrology advice, I'd step back from the social networking sites and work on my confidence. STOP comparing yourself to others. Not trying to be a jerk or anything, I just know how ya feel. Saturn in the 11th might make you feel a little alienated from your friends combined with being in the sign of Aquarius, and squaring your sun and moon in the 1st house. It is also your air singleton, you are heavy earth which can lend to stagnant emotions and depression without a little fire or air. You find it hard to communicate your feelings. If you can somehow transform negative in a positive, I think you can be a very lucky person yourself. People with their inner planets in the 1st house, Be it their Sun, Moon, Venus, or Mars are very influential, very popular and attractive to the opposite and same sex alike. With your planets in Taurus, you are probably very creative and this is probably part of your charm. You could totally own this, if you chose to. You have hard aspects with Saturn, but those get better with age. It can mess with your self-esteeem in early life by feeling ignored or burdened. IP: Logged |
ceecee* Newflake Posts: 22 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 07:21 PM
i had to start taking notes..this helps me let what you are saying sink in. mostly because these things are true. The following is what i really responded to and feel fits me as a person. Being afraid to go forward makes sense because i sometimes feel stuck in what i'm doing and i feel hesitant to reach out to people to talk, or see how they are, and whats going on with them. I'm not shy persay though because i naturally like being socialable but i have heard i am both shy and outgoing. It depends. Most of the time i do feel as if i appear weird and i don't know if i can do anything about that. it seems engrained in my life. and i am realizing this currently in college with not knowing what to major in and who to befriend. To who asked me if i was pretty, i actually have been told i'm very attractive. Not to toot my own horn (:. IP: Logged |
ceecee* Newflake Posts: 22 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 07:24 PM
and i may feel this way now because of my childhood. i definitely went through some traumatic instances when i was younger.IP: Logged |
ceecee* Newflake Posts: 22 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 07:26 PM
and i am so passionate about certain things that it can scare me away. like i talk myself out of being interested. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34369 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 07:26 PM
quote: Originally posted by ceecee*: i had to start taking notes..this helps me let what you are saying sink in. mostly because these things are true. The following is what i really responded to and feel fits me as a person. Being afraid to go forward makes sense because i sometimes feel stuck in what i'm doing and i feel hesitant to reach out to people to talk, or see how they are, and whats going on with them. I'm not shy persay though because i naturally like being socialable but i have heard i am both shy and outgoing. It depends. Most of the time i do feel as if i appear weird and i don't know if i can do anything about that. it seems engrained in my life. and i am realizing this currently in college with not knowing what to major in and who to befriend. To who asked me if i was pretty, i actually have been told i'm very attractive. Not to toot my own horn (:.
Cute Did I put my articles on the 12th House up for you. They seem to help people ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Seeing Stars 7.21 Knowflake Posts: 174 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 16, 2012 07:31 PM
Facebook is for people who need validation. Quit measuring the quality of your life with a networking site. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 4440 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 07:53 PM
Unfortunately most people have a bunch of fake friends because they are afraid to be alone (a few people i have been very close friends with, have even told me this about their huge group of friends). All those friends you go partying with, they're not real friends. They're not there for you when you need them, when you need someone to help you move, they're not there. When you need someone to bail you of jail, they're not there. Need help with math homework? Nope not there either. My cousin's friends all abandoned her just because she broke up with her boyfriend and they thought they should stay together. they weren't even friends with the boyfriend. Most pictures of people on facebook look fake...fake smiles, posed, stiff, etc. It's just for show. Trust me. Either way, just know you can count your real friends with one hand if you're that lucky. Most people have only one real friend or none that they truly know have their back. I go out at least once a week, but i don't post pictures on facebook. Why? I don't want to. I just don't want to be a facebook ***** . ------------------ "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." - Lao Tzu $3.50 ebay compatibility readings | testimonials | Past readings IP: Logged |
angel100 Knowflake Posts: 264 From: Ireland Registered: Nov 2009
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posted July 16, 2012 07:57 PM
Ceecee, Your post really struck a chord with me I want you to know and understand that everyone on this earth deep down inside, has the same insecurities and feelings of vulnerability at their core so don't be worried, It's very normal and can be worked on. As regards Facebook.....I feel exactly the same way you do about it and I can tell you that my close friends also share your views aswell....Facebook photos or status's are not an accurate representation of anyone or how they look or act or think in reality...so really there is no need to be threatened by what you perceive to be their perfect lives and constant whirl of social activities. Most of us on Facebook hate 99% of our so called "friends" and that's what makes the whole charade so fake A girl could have hundreds of photo's of herself, looking amazing in all of them, 1000 fb friends, a big fancy job, ten sun holidays a year and post all of this on fb..... yet maybe that girl has a boyfriend that hits her? A parent that dosen't keep in contact with her? ....think about it.....no matter what Facebook allows you to see of another, there is always behind closed doors that you cannot see. For that reason alone you should never feel inferior in any way to anyone, on Facebook and in life. You say that you feel you have been anti social in the last while. I really feel that you may be psycologically "caught under a raincloud". I really do believe that you should mention how you have been feeling to your doctor. At the very least your doctor can put you in touch with a good therapist or counsellor who could help you to make sense of how you've been feeling and how best to work through it. Don't be afraid to do that as a lot of the time talking about things with an unbiased ear to listen can be the key I sense from your words that you are a very deep thinker and a sweet soul anyone would be delighted to have a friend with those qualities and therefore you should give people the gift of your company as much as you can When you come into contact with a person or group and your feeling a bit unsure, talk a deep breadth and think .....what do I think of this person...not ....what do they think of me.... Smile, and enjoy finding out about people...ask them questions about themselves. I remember reading a while ago that Angelina Jolie says she still feels like the outcast teenager that doesn't really know what to say....If Angelina feels insecure sometimes I think this gives the rest of us licence to aswell
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34369 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 08:21 PM
Nep sq merc It is hard to see yourself, clearly. My guess is that you are a darling person who people really like but you don't see yourself for how you are. You are a very different, unique kind of person from the Uranus. Your lowered confidence may make it hard for you to embrace it. You may feel you are not OK because you have a unique way about you. The 12th House planets make natural insecurity that we all have, worse. ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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awakemer Knowflake Posts: 153 From: sherman oaks, ca,USA Registered: Aug 2011
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posted July 16, 2012 08:22 PM
Why was my message deleted??IP: Logged |
CosmicKarma360 Knowflake Posts: 536 From: here and there Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 08:31 PM
Yeah, my message is gone, too. IP: Logged |
ceecee* Newflake Posts: 22 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 08:33 PM
i think it might be aspergers. i don't understand figures of speech at all and i take things way too literally, and have been told i act like a 7 year old. i hope i don't have it. is there anyway to see that in a chart? i went to a psychologist and she said she doesn't think it is aspergers.IP: Logged |
CosmicKarma360 Knowflake Posts: 536 From: here and there Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 08:37 PM
okay... Mercury Rx must be working its magic. So, going to try to post again....Welcome to the n.Saturn in the 11th house club! Yup, I have it too. What a pain in the patootie. After what you described in your opening post, I thought you'd have n.Saturn in the 11th. Yes, it's a toughie. I'm often alone, with few friends. It's because I simply cannot handle those light, shallow talks. You know, all that "cocktail party" talk. I need to *know* a person. I don't have a lot of friends, but the ones I do have, I've had for many years. I do love to be alone, but it's a habit I'm learning to slowly break. It seems like Saturn in the 11th can really turn someone into a hermit. Also like me, you have n.Mars in the 12th. Another pain in the patootie. For myself, I feel like my energy gets held down or smothered. What I want to do seems to be squelched by others, until I finally just blow. I've learned how to control that now, though. n.Mars in the 12th can mean you get blamed for things you had absolutely *nothing* to do with. Yeah, that happened more than a few times in my childhood! Hated it, too. You do have some challenging aspects to your n.Saturn. Like someone else said, they will get better as you get older. You're in college. Great! That's good. Your NN is in the 9th house of higher learning, publishing, travel. Investigate those areas. Don't be afraid of college, even though it may overwhelm you sometimes. Try to dig into everything college has to offer. Whatever they have that's extracurricular on campus. If you feel like being alone, go ahead. However, do *something*. Like, go sit and read in a coffeehouse, or go to a movie on your own. Don't sit at home and read Facebook Just go do things. It is all right to be alone, but don't stay at home and be alone. If that makes any sense. IP: Logged |
ceecee* Newflake Posts: 22 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 08:43 PM
we'll say so long to karma for now! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34369 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 08:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by ceecee*: i think it might be aspergers. i don't understand figures of speech at all and i take things way too literally, and have been told i act like a 7 year old. i hope i don't have it. is there anyway to see that in a chart? i went to a psychologist and she said she doesn't think it is aspergers.
Just my 2 cents. You don't seem like aspergers to me. I think it is simple insecurity from the 12th house planets, mainly.
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ceecee* Newflake Posts: 22 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 08:47 PM
what do you think about it? aspergers and in the chart?IP: Logged |
awakemer Knowflake Posts: 153 From: sherman oaks, ca,USA Registered: Aug 2011
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posted July 16, 2012 08:48 PM
A lot of my messages aren't coming through.. mercury retrograde?????IP: Logged |
Libreo Knowflake Posts: 983 From: Australia Registered: Sep 2011
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posted July 16, 2012 09:21 PM
Facebook is not real life. And it ruins lives, and it ruins peoples self esteem. It's not reality. You can edit everything and delete anything you don't like. It's false, never use facebook to validate your self worth. You are unique. And that's perfect.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34369 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 16, 2012 09:30 PM
quote: Originally posted by ceecee*: what do you think about it? aspergers and in the chart?
Well, I don't pick up an aspergers vibe from you. You are direct and open about your feelings and your insecurities. You seem to take criticism very well. I think you should study up on the 12th house, as it is a turning inward of the planets that reside there, as if you are facing to the next dimension and not really of this world with all its garbage, quite frankly. It is hard for you to be superficial and a lot of friendships/ relationships/ social life is about being able to be superficial or at least act that way.
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ceecee* Newflake Posts: 22 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 10:23 PM
It makes me happy in a way that other people are feeling the way i do and i'm going to be very blunt about this. Facebook is not very enriching for people and the way they go about it is sometimes very unappealing. When you think about it people are in love with facebook! I've heard people openly say, "I do not know what i would do without facebook". I can not think of why else they would post,comment,like,message, etc. Beyond being in touch with everything there should be no real intense feelings about it. I believe there are people who really do use it with a good purpose. Like for instance, my boyfriend has family all over. What better way to connect then through facebook. This has nothing to do with astrology but for me and the other folks here, we seem to be in agreement.IP: Logged |