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Topic: 37 Year Age Gap With Some Who Claims We Are Meant To Be?
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bretagnesade
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posted August 02, 2012 06:17 PM
  
I'm 19 and he's 56. From the first day he's met me, his intensity has gotten to me. We did eventually become friends but I am seeing somebody else. I did a few light synastry charts to see if we are compatible and they all say negative things, however, I did a more detailed one with our birth times and the aspects are as showed: Jupiter Conjunction Jupiter Orb 3°31'
Sun Conjunction Jupiter Orb 5°12'
Venus Conjunction Sun Orb 5°14'
Venus Conjunction Neptune Orb 6°26'
Jupiter Conjunction Venus Orb 6°49'
Sun Conjunction Venus Orb 8°30'
Venus Conjunction Mercury Orb 8°37'
Mercury Conjunction Jupiter Orb 9°15'
Lilith Opposite Jupiter Orb 0°11'
Saturn Opposite AS Orb 1°45'
Saturn Opposite Uranus Orb 5°35'
AS Square Sun Orb 0°14'
Uranus Square Mercury Orb 0°59'
Neptune Square Mercury Orb 1°09'
AS Square Neptune Orb 1°26'
Node Square Jupiter Orb 3°51'
Saturn Square MC Orb 5°02'
MC Square AS Orb 5°53'
Moon Trine Sun Orb 0°11'
Mercury Trine Moon Orb 0°13'
Moon Trine Neptune Orb 1°00'
Neptune Trine Venus Orb 2°33'
Saturn Trine Mercury Orb 2°40'
AS Trine Moon Orb 2°52'
Node Trine Pluto Orb 4°07'
Mars Trine Neptune Orb 4°12'
Sun Trine Moon Orb 4°16'
Uranus Trine Venus Orb 4°42'
Mars Trine Sun Orb 5°24'
Neptune Trine Jupiter Orb 5°51'
MC Trine Mars Orb 5°57'
Jupiter Trine Moon Orb 5°57'
Uranus Sextile Mars Orb 0°01'
Mercury Sextile Saturn Orb 0°07'
Moon Sextile Pluto Orb 0°56'
Pluto Sextile Jupiter Orb 1°11'
MC Sextile Venus Orb 1°16'
MC Sextile Jupiter Orb 2°01'
Neptune Sextile Mars Orb 2°07'
Pluto Sextile Venus Orb 2°07'
AS Sextile Saturn Orb 2°31'
Node Sextile Sun Orb 2°59'
Mars Sextile MC Orb 3°01'
Sun Sextile Saturn Orb 3°56'
Node Sextile Neptune Orb 4°12'
Mars Sextile Pluto Orb 4°16'
Uranus Inconjunction AS Orb 0°05'
AS Inconjunction Pluto Orb 1°22'
Moon Inconjunction Saturn Orb 2°06'
Neptune SemiSquare Saturn Orb 0°00'
Moon SemiSquare AS Orb 0°02'
Lilith SemiSquare MC Orb 0°06'
AS SemiSquare Mars Orb 0°24'
Sun SemiSquare AS Orb 1°53'
Neptune SesquiQuadrate Moon Orb 0°20'
Lilith SesquiQuadrate Uranus Orb 0°26'
Uranus SesquiQuadrate Pluto Orb 0°59'
Neptune SesquiQuadrate Pluto Orb 1°09'
Uranus SesquiQuadrate Moon Orb 2°29'
Saturn Quintile Saturn Orb 0°48'
Mercury BiQuintile MC Orb 0°01'
Saturn BiQuintile Venus Orb 0°22'
Lilith BiQuintile Sun Orb 0°39'
Venus BiQuintile Moon Orb 1°52'
Sun SemiSextile Sun Orb 1°38'
Moon SemiSextile Moon Orb 2°26' Can any of you more knowledgeable ones make sense of it for me? A website is very cookie-cutter. Thank You IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted August 02, 2012 06:33 PM
I'm someone who generally believes that age is just a number, but I'm assuming this guy is older than your parents.. and that's just wrong. I'm sure you've been told before that getting into a relationship with someone that old is not going to work out (and I'm one of them). However, your an adult and at end of day no one can stop you from dating older men. The oldest guy I was attracted to was 10-12? years older than me, and we shared Moon-Pluto, Mars-Uranus, and Venus-Neptune like you guys. The biggest influence between you is probably that Venus-Pluto aspect.. those are hard to resist. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted August 02, 2012 09:34 PM
Moving to Personal Readings.------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy
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Registered: Aug 2009
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posted August 02, 2012 09:46 PM
Of course he's infatuated with you. You're young, probably good looking, and mature for your age. Precocious. He's nearing the twilight of his life and you're like a light at the end of his tunnel. Don't do it, he is being EXTREMELY inappropriate. I'm not saying don't date older men, since this is coming from someone that dated men 24, 20 years older than me and am currently in a relationship with someone 12 years older than me. I'm just saying that THIS age gap in particular is.. jarringly vast. You have so much to offer - you're barely taking off in life and his is ending. You'll be depriving yourself of a stage in life that is very fleeting and only comes around once. Through you he's attempting to get one last taste of youth. Shut him out and walk away. IP: Logged |
Belage
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From: California
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 02, 2012 10:56 PM
Oh dear, I am uncomfortable with the age gap, but it's your life. Why don't you post your chart, I would like to see what is it in your chart that would make you be with such an older man at your age. Perhaps Saturn or Uranus natally or by transit in 7th house... IP: Logged |
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Knowflake Posts: 449
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Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 02, 2012 11:01 PM
Agreed. quote:
Originally posted by JohnFKennedy:
Of course he's infatuated with you. You're young, probably good looking, and mature for your age. Precocious. He's nearing the twilight of his life and you're like a light at the end of his tunnel. Don't do it, he is being EXTREMELY inappropriate. I'm not saying don't date older men, since this is coming from someone that dated men 24, 20 years older than me and am currently in a relationship with someone 12 years older than me. I'm just saying that THIS age gap in particular is.. jarringly vast. You have so much to offer - you're barely taking off in life and his is ending. You'll be depriving yourself of a stage in life that is very fleeting and only comes around once. Through you he's attempting to get one last taste of youth. Shut him out and walk away.
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bretagnesade
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posted August 02, 2012 11:34 PM
I completely understand what you guys are saying. I avoided him for 2 months before I gave in and became his friend. It's his Scorpio side that I'm attracted too. He was born on October 22, 1956. Belage, you asked for my chart:Sun 27°15' Virgo
Moon 29°06' Gemini
Mercury 1°19' Libra
Venus 23°40' Libra
Mars 4°19' Cancer
Jupiter 25°35' Virgo
Saturn 12°23' Aquarius
Uranus 14°03' Capricorn
Neptune 16°12' Capricorn
Pluto 20°52' Scorpio
Chiron 20°00' Leo
Ceres 27°06' Capricorn
Pallas 23°39' Sagittarius
Juno 1°54' Cancer
Vesta 5°01' Scorpio
Node 25°54' Sagittarius
Lilith 22°14' Pisces
Fortune 0°30' Scorpio
AS 28°40' Capricorn
MC 20°02' Scorpio House 1 28°40' Capricorn
House 2 12°42' Pisces
House 3 21°23' Aries
House 4 20°02' Taurus
House 5 12°50' Gemini
House 6 4°09' Cancer
House 7 28°40' Cancer
House 8 12°42' Virgo
House 9 21°23' Libra
House 10 20°02' Scorpio
House 11 12°50' Sagittarius
House 12 4°09' Capricorn
Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Square Moon 1.49 -133
Sun Conjunction Mercury 4.04 427
Sun Conjunction Jupiter 1.40 350
Sun Trine Ascendant 1.24 82
Moon Square Mercury 2.16 -106
Moon Trine Venus 5.23 78
Moon Conjunction Mars 5.15 43
Moon Square Jupiter 3.29 -41
Mercury Square Mars 2.59 -35
Mercury Conjunction Jupiter 5.44 155
Mercury Trine Ascendant 2.40 53
Venus Square Ascendant 4.59 -18
Jupiter Trine Ascendant 3.05 22
Uranus Conjunction Neptune 2.10 157
Neptune Sextile Midheaven 3.50 2
Pluto Conjunction Midheaven 0.52
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Beautiful Disaster
Knowflake Posts: 103
From: In the stars
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted August 02, 2012 11:40 PM
In the words of Aaliyah.Age ain't nothin but a number  IP: Logged |
violet7887
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 03, 2012 12:39 AM
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Originally posted by Beautiful Disaster:
In the words of Aaliyah.Age ain't nothin but a number
I agree, hopefully someone one here will be able to look at your synastry chart without commenting on your age difference. It is natural for others to have a caring nature towards others and help/gaurd out of their own views and expereinces. It is good to gain new knowlegde as well but in the end remember to listen to your heart only. Nobody else can tell you what you are meant for except yourself. As long as you are not hurting anybody follow what you feel. Good luck to you with what ever is your hearts desires. IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows
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posted August 03, 2012 04:08 AM
I'm sorry you have to deal with blah about the age gap. There's always a blah, don't sweat it! That sun conjunct jupiter+venus aspect sounds great! For more in depth, good luck finding out ! (wow 2months  )------------------
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andstuff
Knowflake Posts: 268
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Registered: Jun 2012
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posted August 03, 2012 05:01 AM
do you have a synastry chart? age gaps are rubbish, having been there would totes advise against he might be messing with your head... anyway, these things would be more obvious if you could post a chart IP: Logged |
Belage
Knowflake Posts: 785
From: California
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 03, 2012 09:43 AM
Bretagne, you didn't post your chart, just a list of the aspects but I am going to look at some of it. You are capp rising, so ruled by Saturn, that is already an indication that older people and things may have a strong influence on your life. I didn't really see in your 7th house an indication of older men, since your house ruler is in Gemini, I think you will ultimately be with a younger man.Have fun with this older man, but please hold out on the this-is-my-soulmate-and-we-are-meant-to-be-together-forever thinking. Let him teach you a few things and enjoy the ride.
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Belage
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posted August 03, 2012 09:49 AM
Not sure if it's related but I'll put it out anyway:Your chart ruler is in Aquarius. You have Uranus in the 12th house. and transiting Pluto is slowly approaching a conjunction to it. That could probably explain some of your attraction as big age gap are ruled by Uranus. Because it's the 12th house, and also because of the also upcoming transit square from Uranus in Aries, this is not going to be an easy ride. IP: Logged |
Belage
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posted August 03, 2012 09:51 AM
And, um, the age comments are warranted. Unless the man is a very famous and wealthy celebrity, lol. IP: Logged |
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Knowflake Posts: 449
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 03, 2012 09:57 AM
Like Drew Peterson?  lol quote:
Originally posted by Belage:
And, um, the age comments are warranted. Unless the man is a very famous and wealthy celebrity, lol.
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Moonfish
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posted August 03, 2012 11:35 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I'm sorry you have to deal with blah about the age gap. There's always a blah, don't sweat it! That sun conjunct jupiter+venus aspect sounds great! For more in depth, good luck finding out ! (wow 2months )
 it's not blah. She's obviously concerned about it or she wouldn't have brought it up herself. but like I said, no one can stop her from being with who she wants to be with. IP: Logged |
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Knowflake Posts: 449
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posted August 03, 2012 01:20 PM
Agreed age is a factor because it was mentioned first and foremost.It's definitely not blah in this case. I, too, am someone who thinks age is but a number; however, it's not just that there is a 36 year age difference, it is that she is only 19 and he is 56 and he should very much know better. I understand the mental attraction to someone older - you're looking for an older wise figure person to consult with - that makes sense to me and is quite understandable but I cannot fathom him thinking reciprocally. It simply is not possible given his life experience. When I was 19, being the freely swimming, mystical thinking Pisces that I am, I would have also been inclined to disregard the age difference if a friend was in that kind of a situation. But I'm not 19 anymore, and haven't thought like a 19 year old since I was 19 which was 27 years ago. At 19, I could never imagine myself dating and having physical relations with someone who was darn close to the age of my grandfather, though I would have supported my friend at that time if she were in your shoes. You are an adult and you are certainly free to make your own decisions, I just hope you think about it, that's all. And, hopefully you're not just pulling all of our legs to get a good laugh.  ------------------
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Belage
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posted August 03, 2012 10:37 PM
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Originally posted by whereabouts:
Like Drew Peterson? lol
lol, or Clint Eastwood. Isn't he married to someone much younger than him? I think Clint is sexy, and yes I would date him, age difference be damn!
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birdy
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posted August 03, 2012 10:40 PM
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posted August 03, 2012 10:46 PM
LOL! Yeah, he's sexy alright. quote:
Originally posted by Belage:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by whereabouts:
[b]Like Drew Peterson? lol
lol, or Clint Eastwood. Isn't he married to someone much younger than him? I think Clint is sexy, and yes I would date him, age difference be damn! [/B][/QUOTE]------------------
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posted August 03, 2012 10:48 PM
LOL!  quote:
Originally posted by birdy:
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bretagnesade
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posted August 04, 2012 12:17 AM
quote:
Originally posted by birdy:
I know lol. Well anyways is this what you were asking for Belage? http://www.astro.com/cgi/s howgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_w2at_01_brittney_harrell_hp.14913.9934.gif&res=63&va=&cid=apnfileJE5zqM-u1309974491_1846925313
And someone asked for a synastry chart:
http:// www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_61gw_01_05_brittney_harrell_kristopher_jones.15287.33674.gif&res=100&va=&cid=apnfileJE5zqM-u1309974491_1846925313[/URL]
And I do thank you all for your input, he seems to know everything I want to hear and despite his almost controlling side, he doesn't seem like a bad guy but the more I think about it, the more I don't want to feel like a bad person for allowing him to be alone in life. IP: Logged |
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posted August 04, 2012 07:21 AM
bretagnesade, What you choose to do for yourself in your love life that will affect the rest of your life forever is not about him; It is about you. This is the time when it is most important to think about yourself. That is not being selfish; it is choosing to be wise. He's controlling? Get rid of him! That is a VERY CLEAR SIGN. Think Drew Peterson. I am serious. He plays the "pity me" card? Dump him before the whole world pities your parents for their loss. Maybe those remarks are extreme. Maybe they are not. Just don't shrug it off and pass it off as nothing. Pay attention to the signs, listen to your angels, and monitor your dreams for any additional signs they are sending to you. Most importantly, think clearly by taking a step back and viewing it from a distance. Out of curiosity, what does your parents, especially your father, say about this relationship you have with this older man? I know parents can be so annoying, so if you can't reach out to them, what about an unbiased third person who is older? Anyway, good luck and I wish you clarity of purpose and clear, wise frame of mind thinking.  quote:
Originally posted by bretagnesade:
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I know lol. Well anyways is this what you were asking for Belage? http://www.astro.com/cgi/s howgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_w2at_01_brittney_harrell_hp.14913.9934.gif&res=63&va=&cid=apnfileJE5zqM-u1309974491_1846925313 And someone asked for a synastry chart:
http:// <A HREF="http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_61gw_01_05_brittney_harrell_kristopher_jones.15287.33674.gif&res=100&va=&cid=apnfileJE5zqM-u1309974491_1846925313" TARGET=_blank>www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_61gw_01_05_brittney_harrell_kristopher_jones.15287.33674.gif&res=100&va=&cid=apnfileJE5zqM-u1309974491_1846925313[/U RL]</A>
And I do thank you all for your input, he seems to know everything I want to hear and despite his almost controlling side, he doesn't seem like a bad guy but the more I think about it, the more I don't want to feel like a bad person for allowing him to be alone in life.[/1]
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bretagnesade
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posted August 04, 2012 04:24 PM
Daddy doesn't know, my mom knows and she wants to invite him to dinner and the whole shebang. My friends say no but then push me towards him because they know I can get things from him.Everyone is sending me mixed signals that's why I thought it would be better to listen to the stars. And even then there are mixed signals. IP: Logged |
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Knowflake Posts: 449
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 04, 2012 08:48 PM
Yeah, that is very confusing for sure. I'm sorry. I wish you clarity in thoughts. if you can, go to a spiritual store and look for some crystals that can help you think more clearly.Good luck! quote:
Originally posted by bretagnesade:
Daddy doesn't know, my mom knows and she wants to invite him to dinner and the whole shebang. My friends say no but then push me towards him because they know I can get things from him.Everyone is sending me mixed signals that's why I thought it would be better to listen to the stars. And even then there are mixed signals.
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