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Topic: In need of a reading, please :(
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ueharaa
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posted August 06, 2012 12:23 PM
  
So I would love it if someone could give me a reading for me to have some insights into a situation. Long story short, I am trying to be A friendly acquaintance/friend with a guy who once was a classmate. He has a girlfriend. It's been two years now that he lives in another town and the first year it was going great, I mean we kept in touch in a friendly way and he would keep me informed of his gf's pregnancy. But as soon as the baby was born he started becoming avoiding. I also avoided him because well I was too much of a mess emotionally. Well, yesterday I told myself that after all it would just be nice to take some news (after 10 months of knowing nothing) and I messaged him on fb. (and anyway I do the keep in touch friendly with way too many people so..)
(and here's the part where I sound like a stalker but I swear I'm not!) well, he obviously had some activity on fb since, changing pictures and commenting and all. But he hasn't even read my message. I'm pretty sure he saw it (because who gets on fb and doesn't even check his message notifications) but he just doesn't want to answer it (or am I reading too much into it?) So I'd like to have some insights into this behavior or the real reasons behind this? Will he reply to me? If not, why? And what are his feelings towards me: am I an annoyance? Does he think I am desperate, obsessed.. ? I don't really understand why, it doesn't really look like him... and I haven't done anything wrong to my knowledge. It kind of bother me because, well, it does hurt that many people do that to me. Thanks in advance to anyone who will be willing to do this for me! IP: Logged |
friture
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posted August 06, 2012 01:37 PM
May I ask: Were you romantically involved? (Sorry I removed this earlier I thought you have gone offline)IP: Logged |
ueharaa
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posted August 06, 2012 01:51 PM
No I wasn't. There was some attraction and I had some strong feelings for him which I felt a lot when we both moved to different towns. I'm trying to come to terms with it (though with venus recently retrograde it was harder)
I still wish we could remain good acquaintance/ friends to an extent, just like I do with so many other people. I don't want us to become strangers and I wouldn't understand the reason, hard feelings. IP: Logged |
friture
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posted August 06, 2012 01:58 PM
Okay this is my novice take, I'm unsure of my interpretation on this, I just hope it does not confuse you further.Q: Why did your friend avoid you?
Moon, Hermit, Knight of Cups At first glance I think he is just avoiding/withdrawing from emotional confusions. I feel Knight of Cups here means flirting, I'm not sure what's your interaction dynamic, but that's what I feel. I could be wrong. Edit: Okay after seeing your reply on the question above, can I say that he is avoiding you because he knows you are attracted to him? I'm sorry, this is what I picked up.  Clarification card: 8 of Pentacles
I think he stopped corresponding with you to focus on other stuff, dedicating himself fully in something else. I might be totally wrong here, but I hope the haze will clear up soon.
Cheers,
Friture
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ueharaa
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posted August 06, 2012 04:45 PM
Thank you so much for this  I see then, when you say "he knows" do you mean that he knows for sure and he can tell from my behavior? because I never said anything ,and nothing was ever out in the open. Though I always feared he could easily assumed I was ill intentioned and wanted to have something to do with him. (when I actually don't because I truly have too much respect for his relationship but he's the type of guy who knows he has some success with girls so.. )
You're right about flirting, it was never clear to begin with, as to why exactly we were interacting (I never knew what his motivations were).
Him dedicating himself to something more fully is very relevant though since h's a dad ! so yes he truly has a lot of things to devote his time and energy to. Oh I guess I shouldn't have contacted him but well, I truly do that with everyone and it's even harder to refrain from doing so when I appreciate the person... Thanks a lot for your time!
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friture
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posted August 06, 2012 06:36 PM
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Originally posted by ueharaa:
Thank you so much for this I see then, when you say "he knows" do you mean that he knows for sure and he can tell from my behavior? because I never said anything ,and nothing was ever out in the open. Though I always feared he could easily assumed I was ill intentioned and wanted to have something to do with him. (when I actually don't because I truly have too much respect for his relationship but he's the type of guy who knows he has some success with girls so.. )
You're right about flirting, it was never clear to begin with, as to why exactly we were interacting (I never knew what his motivations were).
Him dedicating himself to something more fully is very relevant though since h's a dad ! so yes he truly has a lot of things to devote his time and energy to. Oh I guess I shouldn't have contacted him but well, I truly do that with everyone and it's even harder to refrain from doing so when I appreciate the person... Thanks a lot for your time!
Well when I asked if you were romantically involved I already laid down the cards but I need to be sure, because I cannot afford to mess up people's relationship The Moon, Hermit, Knight of Cups together made me felt that the guy is trying to restrain himself from creating further emotional confusion between the two of you. Well, the fact that you gave some background information probably shaped the reading in some way. I used "he knows" I think he can sense it, what with the Knight of Cups here I think he's quite an intuitive guy. Not to exacerbate things or give you false hope, I think he sensed that something dangerous can happen between you two, hence he is withdrawing from it all. 8 of Pents, yes, devoting time to his family, his little one(s). Well, you meant well contacting him, he's just afraid it'll complicate stuff IMO. Maybe give it some time he'll come around?
You're welcome, thanks for letting me practise, and I wish you all the best!
Good luck,
Friture
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ueharaa
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posted August 06, 2012 07:52 PM
I understand now.
I may be reading too much into the words and all but I find it so interesting that you said he is restraining himself from creating further emotional confusion. I've been thinking and thinking and I thought of two ways of understanding this
1. either he's confused himself and he doesn't want to be in a situation that is all the more confusing to him (though honesty I don't flirt, I don't even know how to do that)
2. either, and I think this one fits more, he's restraining himself from leading me on. As you said he's intuitive so he might have realized he had some effect on me at one point and maybe he wanted to use it to build his ego or whatever but the point is right now he doesn't need that anymore and that's why he withdrew.
ahh it's kind of crushing to come to such a realization though! I didn't give you a lot of background info concerning the "interaction" but back when we were classmates he was the one who seemed rather interested but I kept my distance because I knew he had a girlfriend already and I had been told he was a cheater. I was very wary of him and yet I couldn't help but felt there was something genuine about him. So for a whole year and even after, I was wondering if he wasn't playing some head games (because to some extent that's what he is, a player) and trying to lead me on. But then when we kept in touch, I told myself he wouldn't do that if that was the aim. He somehow seemed to genuinely appreciate me. Which is why I was kind of really surprised to see he had withdrawn. I didn't mind at first because well, it was a bit unhealthy for me to get involved (as in be aware of what happened) in his life at this point and I kind of needed a break to focus on me. But oh well, I truly always had doubts as to what his feelings and intentions were, not that it mattered, but I was always fearing he might just be playing around. I guess in a way you answered that too.
I kind of feel like a fool for reaching out this time though, I should have had asked for a reading before doing it. But you're right, I only did mean well. Thank you again for your time, patience and knowledge  . This was very enlightening. IP: Logged |
friture
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posted August 07, 2012 04:37 AM
You're welcome. I do my best to help, just want to see you well that's all. I understand how it feels in your situation, that's why I try my best, with my limited tarot reading skills hehe.
Good luck, and all the best, <3
Friture
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ueharaa
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posted August 07, 2012 04:01 PM
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Originally posted by friture:
You're welcome. I do my best to help, just want to see you well that's all. I understand how it feels in your situation, that's why I try my best, with my limited tarot reading skills hehe.
Good luck, and all the best, <3
Friture
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