posted September 04, 2012 05:13 PM            

I've been dealing with a person in my life who I knew would be leaving my life, and I've known this for a considerable period of time so when it finally happened, it came as no surprise to me. I had been anticipating it for months.

I used to have a hard time letting go of things but have long since learned from that painful mistake of hanging on to something too long. One of my greatest lessons in life was to "learn to let go". I have since learned how to let go without regret, without looking back, and without negative emotions, especially the negative manner of looking back. In doing so, I've come to understand that people come, and people go, and when it's time for them to go, if you don't cling to what once was, you'll readily see how much better you'll be moving forward because of it, and it is something to be excited about.

Now that I'm no longer the kind of person who clings to something and refuses to let go when it is time to do so (and there are ALWAYS SIGNS that it is time to let go, which is how I knew this person would be leaving my life again), I can move forward with enthusiasm and excitement.

People come and people go. Close the book and start anew and enjoy the ride!

posted September 04, 2012 05:26 PM            

Before I left my hometown and my workplace for college I already knew the next step.

I asked the co-worker directly if he liked me, he said yes, but also said he wouldn't want to enter a relationship with me.

posted September 04, 2012 05:34 PM            

So I keep trying but something you have to let it go. It's difficult to do and more important it's difficult for me to know when.

posted September 06, 2012 05:23 PM            

Some of my friendships ended really badly but I sure don't regret meeting them & I don't regret the happy times we had together. I believe that people that come into your life have something to teach you & once you learn that lesson it's time for you to let go. Instead of feeling bitter about it all, I eventually let it go and (mentally) thank them for making me stronger.

posted September 06, 2012 10:24 PM            

That's enough to make anyone dizzy with delight! LOL

posted September 07, 2012 03:36 AM            

But then i always make new friends, and yes, ur right, they also leave eventually. It's very hard for me to be able to stand someone taking my friendship for granted, so i usually just stop contacting them. It's hard to find someone who is a good friend and who is there when they say they will be, and who doesnt get jealous over everything, and who doesnt take you for granted sometimes etc etc.. And i've seen that even with other people's best friends. They also seem to have the same problems that i do with friends, but they dont seem to let it bother them that much. I think it's society and a problem we're having as a whole or something. lack of loyalty. Ive had very fulfilling friendships, and like you, ive just learned to let people come and go. I cant say i am totally happy with it, but i am definitely glad to meet new people who i like often and to especially feel comforted by the fact that everyone else also has friends that come and go and eventually take them for granted.

posted September 07, 2012 12:07 PM            

Some people simply spend more time focused on what others are doing, and worrying about what others are thinking, doing, and saying, rather than focusing on one's self, and therein breeds ill-thoughts and those ill-thoughts manifest into negativity that is cast out to others within that person's sphere. I seem to attract people who need emotional and psychological guidance but there's always pitfalls to that and I understand that and accept that knowingly. I do what I can to genuinely help another find truth and inner peace but I also recognize when it's time to let go and walk away because there comes a time when your emotional and psychological support hinders their ability to see their own truth. Since these needy types are blind to their own truth (a River in Egypt is the cause of it, lol), they will always project their inner negativity onto to you in order for them to continue in the illusions they have crafted around their own existence to avoid looking in the mirror and being brutally honest with themselves. It's easier for them to inwardly blame you for their own negativity than to admit the truth and work toward self improvement in emotional intelligence.

At this point in my life, after all I have given up, I've learned what I must do and what I must do in life is my sole focus. I also have my adult son who needs my help and support and he is the only one who I allow to interfer with my sole focus because as any good mother will tell you, there is nothing more important than their own child. When an individual I am around continuously steers conversation away from my focus, my life's work in solving the disappearances in a few missing person's cases, then it's time for me to walk away from that person. The mission is far too important to allow frivolous BS talk and idle gossip to suck up my energy and drive. When that happens, I walk. It's just that simple. Work with me, stay focused, or get out of my way. This is far too important and there is so much at stake for everyone. It has nothing to do with me and everything to do with finding the truth and seeking true Justice.

To envy another is a flagrant sign there is much work to be done inside and that's where the focus should be. When one focuses on what's going on within, they don't have time for envy.

posted September 07, 2012 12:27 PM            

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Originally posted by hmm:
u just haven't met anyone special enough :P

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Quite the contrary, hmm. When you're forced to let go of someone you care that deeply for, you learn a great deal from that experience and the lesson is that it is always better to let go and move forward than to lie stagnant waiting for something to come around that wasn't meant to be. It if were meant to be, they'll come back to you. If it wasn't meant to be, then you'll walk forward without them.

People come, and people go; clinging to those who have left and situations that have died is mentally and emotionally very unhealthy and ultimately breeds tornadic emotional response patterns.

posted September 07, 2012 05:54 PM            

I wasn't talking about jealousy of others...in other words, envy. No, no my friends were never envious of my other friends...it was more like they were both my best friends at the time and i was very close to both of them and they were both insecure that i was getting closer to the other friend and about to ditch them. I think its fairly normal when emotions run high with someone. My closest best friend ever had a few besties other than me, but they were obviously not as close as she and i were. so i wasnt jealous/insecure about her staying my friend. But since i tend to become intense friends with anyone i am friends with, then, i can imagine why my close friends would feel jealous/insecure. i think its perfectly normal. Being envious is a totally hateful feeling, and not a good quality in my opinion....but it has nothing to do with just feeling insecure about someone ditching you.

posted September 07, 2012 06:00 PM            

I also disagree with the someone special thing. You cannot cling to anything when it's time to let go. It is that simple. Been there. I've lost more than anyone could ever know, so I speak from experience.

posted September 09, 2012 08:57 AM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
i gotta admit, i dont totally understand what you mean when you say that you have to let go? Huh. What does that have to do with not having met that someone special yet? Precisely because they were willing to let you go, shows they werent that someone special.

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Quite the contrary.